https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 18:20:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-756062 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:44:23 +0000 mrsjyw 756062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>depended on who and how they said it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755999 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:16:50 +0000 winniebee 755999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep and it still bothers me when my friends with older toddler say this. To me, it diminishes whatever the person it's said to is going through at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755990 Thu, 02 May 2013 08:13:28 +0000 JoJoGirl 755990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES. I hate it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755885 Thu, 02 May 2013 06:58:12 +0000 autumnlove 755885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It bothered me before but now I think some of the comments are funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755823 Thu, 02 May 2013 04:45:28 +0000 lomom 755823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I hated it! I got a ton of negative stuff from my 2 coworkers who had babies when I was ~5 months pregnant. So from then on, it was a daily occurrence. </p> <p>Just wait, you won't have time to put makeup on in the mornings!</p> <p>Just wait, you won't find that kicking so cute when LO's kicking your bladder. </p> <p>Just wait, you'll wish he was back inside!</p> <p>And on and on and on. So annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755784 Thu, 02 May 2013 01:05:45 +0000 littlepenguin 755784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think people say it intending to be rude. I think we all entering parenthood with naive ideas of what it will be like. And then our babies actually arrive all the images of what we thought it would be like ate shattered sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse. I think the worse experiences tend to stand out. So I think it's just people's way of warning you of what can happen so you don't feel the disappointment they did. </p> <p>Now that I've experienced the just waits I try to say something positive. I try to tell new moms to enjoy whatever stage they're in (pregnancy, newborn etc) even focusing on positive "just waits" can take away from the milestones of the present. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755773 Thu, 02 May 2013 00:42:17 +0000 MsMini 755773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have said it, meaning to be a turd to a few people ... the ones who think that they can put their newborn on a 4-hour feeding schedule from birth, and that babies only feed more because their parents allow them to (this was a patient's Mom). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755766 Thu, 02 May 2013 00:14:26 +0000 Grace 755766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does bother me - I find if condesending. They might as well pat me on the head and say "oh little girl, one day you will understand the complex and challenging world of real grown-ups." Although, I agree, if it were followed by something positive, it would just be sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755533 Wed, 01 May 2013 20:03:56 +0000 mrs. 64 755533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It is so rude. It reminds me of when we got engaged and one of my co-workers said "Enjoy it because now is the last time you'll ever like each other." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755462 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:32:37 +0000 lilteacherbee 755462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, because its usually something insensitive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755459 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:31:30 +0000 MrsF 755459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Hate this. People would look at me in my third trimester and ask how I was sleeping. If I would say that I was tired they would say "just wait 'til the baby gets here!". I felt like they were just setting me up! I'm sure if I had said that I felt good they would have said the same thing :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755452 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:24:56 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 755452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It bothers me with some more than others but when they follow it with, 'you have plently of time... or its only been a year... or we struggled for 5 years' like its some sort of contest. This one recently happened. Our PT is very guilty of it &amp; it was so annoying I just stopped talking about it and changed the subject every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755425 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:09:06 +0000 runsyellowlites 755425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmenow: It really does! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755421 Wed, 01 May 2013 19:04:59 +0000 Modern Daisy 755421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm starting to get this now that I'm obviously pregnant. It doesn't bother me when people say it just to make conversation, but when they stare at me right in the eye when saying it then proceed to lecture me about how horrible life will be with a baby I get annoyed. What is the point of doing that to a pregnant woman? Oh, thanks - I'll make sure to save my receipt so I can return the baby once it's born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755415 Wed, 01 May 2013 18:54:59 +0000 mediagirl 755415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bpcmarj: that's the worst. When you're talking about this wonderful thing and people want to bring you down. :( GRR!!! just say "that's wonderful!" and move on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755363 Wed, 01 May 2013 18:12:21 +0000 LazyLightning 755363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes because it's usually followed by something very insensitive. I'm so, so sick and have been the majority of my pregnancy, and people are all 'just you wait! you'll miss these days!' </p> <p>Assholes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755355 Wed, 01 May 2013 18:04:42 +0000 bpcmarj 755355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Yessssssss. DH and I were just talking about this last night. Some people *coughINLAWScough* like to tell us "Just wait" when we talk about something sweet that she is doing or how great of a baby she is. It feels like everything that she does well is discounted because "Just wait...she'll be a terror soon" or something like that. What if she's not? Maybe she's just a well behaved baby?</p> <p>Ugh. obviously you struck a nerve with me. haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755322 Wed, 01 May 2013 17:31:36 +0000 HLK208 755322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely obnoxious and negative! I'll never say that to anyone, instead I talk about how lucky they are to have a new, tiny, cuddly baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755317 Wed, 01 May 2013 17:26:56 +0000 mrsmenow 755317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I say the same thing about my 11 year. It changes the conversation pretty quickly:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755253 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:49:08 +0000 citymouse 755253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It bothers me! When my husband and I were first married I left for work before he did and he made my lunch for me everyday. I told one of my co-workers that and she scoffed, and said that wont last. My response in my head was, why the heck not? He does sweet things for me, and I do sweet things for him. We both work at our marriage. Im sure it will bother me even more when we have a babe one day!! </p> <p>@runsyellowlites hahaha that is so great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755243 Wed, 01 May 2013 16:42:52 +0000 Pepper 755243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on who is saying it! Sometimes I think people say it to try and be funny, or even to be positive... I get a lot of "Look at this cute thing I just bought! Just wait until he's here, you'll be buying this too!" Other times, it's said in a condescending way, which is annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755094 Wed, 01 May 2013 15:15:17 +0000 Bookish 755094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't like it, but I've only gotten negative 'just waits,' and almost all of them are about how if I think I sleep poorly now, just waaait til baby. Yeah, thanks, I'm totally aware that i will be sleep-deprived, but the comments don't help the fact that I'm 29w and barely sleeping through the night as it is! :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755079 Wed, 01 May 2013 15:11:45 +0000 kjpugs 755079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like it's awkward unless it's like, your BFF or something. Because how do I respond if someone tells me to do this now, just wait til you have the baby? Clearly I'm aware of what I'll be giving up. What do I say? "Oh... I know... but thanks?" It just gets really awkward, and sometimes I think comes off like they're miserable and throwing it at you! With friends who I can talk freely with it's not a big deal but some strangers or people I just know from a job or a distant relative... it irks me!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755077 Wed, 01 May 2013 15:10:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 755077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: @rattles: Actually, I must know really nice people-- I've gotten far more 'Just wait-- something awesome about babies' than any negatives! Like when I mentioned enjoying baby kicks while pregnant, instead of 'just wait until they are waking you up at night and kicking on your bladder' I tend to get, "just wait until you actually get to see them kicking or hold them" kind of things. I don't mind those at all :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755076 Wed, 01 May 2013 15:10:22 +0000 sarac 755076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I think it's one of the rudest ways to talk about parenting. Or anything, really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755075 Wed, 01 May 2013 15:09:00 +0000 rattles 755075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: see! That makes me smile fondly, not roll my eyes at you ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755069 Wed, 01 May 2013 15:05:34 +0000 MrsStar 755069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it bugs me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755036 Wed, 01 May 2013 14:55:06 +0000 mediagirl 755036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rattles: just wait! The moment your baby snuggles into the nook of your arm and sighs her most contented sigh ever, your heart will explode. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755022 Wed, 01 May 2013 14:52:24 +0000 Arden 755022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does bother me some. If the person is just being negative and spiteful, anyway. Sometimes they are really just trying to help you understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-it-bother-you-when-people-say-just-wait#post-755003 Wed, 01 May 2013 14:48:20 +0000 looch 755003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I admit, I have used it, especially with my brother! He tends to make comments like "nothing will ever change" which of course, is so far from the truth. </p>