https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 29 Jun 2026 06:55:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2282072 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 18:17:49 +0000 kgbee 2282072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew from the early days with my son that we'd want another kid, but we also knew we needed a pretty big gap between them. He'll be 3.5y this month when the baby arrives, and we are 99.9% sure we're done having kids. We want to move out of the baby/toddler phase and into the kid phase!! We have so many plans/dreams for our family, we really want to get started on them, and that means no more babies. We're very excited about where we're headed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2282009 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 17:01:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 2282009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I/we feel like this too. I've never felt like our family is incomplete with 1; but I do often feel like everything would change with more children (and not really for the better). Happy with 1; happy with our lives :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2282003 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 16:54:58 +0000 matador84 2282003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt definite about wanting to give my lo1 a sibling, so at the time I just had one child I was sure our family was not complete. Lo2 has been the perfect addition but the last month or two I have been thinking about what life would be like with more children. I am even discerning (attempting) to quit my job and be a SAHM which has NEVER crossed my mind ever! Our family of 4 right now is perfect but is the possibility of more totally out? Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281908 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 15:45:39 +0000 Torchwood 2281908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not even vaguely. Definitely did before L though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281837 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 15:01:49 +0000 namaste 2281837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Same here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281422 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 10:15:20 +0000 loveisstrange 2281422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Yeah, this for me too.</p> <p>I feel like it changes on a daily basis for me. Overall, I don't really feel incomplete, but I agree that when I think about looking back in 10 years that it would. I think we'll have 1 more, but it won't be for a while and we'll have a LARGE gap (like.... 6-8 years). It's unavoidable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281364 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 09:35:03 +0000 pui 2281364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really get a chance to reflect on whether or not our family was "incomplete" with just our DD because I found out I was pregnant when she was just 8 months old. However, we always planned to have at least two children and ideally more like 3 or 4. I always think 10 years in the future... I imagine having a lot of people around the dinner table and that's what I want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281346 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 09:26:25 +0000 cascademom 2281346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: At a year old, I wasn't ready to add another. It took a whole year and lots of toddler tantrums to want another. Now with two, one on one time feels more enjoyable and engaging. Though my three year old is a three year old, he's fun to be around in a different sense than when it was just him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281340 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 09:23:03 +0000 cascademom 2281340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us, it feels complete or more "just right." We both wanted two with a smaller age gap and went for it. I was terrified to what we were doing adding one in with a toddler, but J makes sense in our family. Both DH and I got to pick kids' names we liked and name our kids. We're plenty exhausted with two and are done. I happily gave away my maternity clothes (non summer variety). We're selling our condo and moving hopefully to a home where our kids can grow up. I see our lives at the just right spot in life, a bit harder with an infant and a toddler, but very fulfilling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281140 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 07:28:47 +0000 SweetiePie 2281140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son will be 1 year old next Weds and I feel quite the opposite. Maybe it's because he's still young but I feel like having another would change our family dynamic in a way that I'm just not ready for and not sure I'll ever be. I'm very content with just him right now and in the foreseeable future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281123 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 07:17:15 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2281123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont know, I'm very happy with just 2 but I really dont' feel that final I'm 100% done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281113 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 07:07:54 +0000 Modern Daisy 2281113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After a play date, yes. DS is way happier when there are other kids around although he tends to prefer older kids because he is so physical that most kids his same age are kind of boring. Maybe we should adopt an older child! But then I think of all the work and having #2 seems so scary.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one/page/2#post-2281112 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 07:04:12 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2281112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel very incomplete right now. We want 3-4 kids and just have DS now who is almost 18 months and I just had a miscarriage. Can't wait to have some more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2281105 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 06:59:14 +0000 NavyRN2012 2281105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, never. Actually, when it was just my husband son and I, my family felt very complete and perfect. He was an only for 7 years. I just knew I wanted more kids (3 was always my number) and the time was finally right when we got pregnant with F, then later A. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2281089 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 06:39:50 +0000 LovelyPlum 2281089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I feel this way! I always said thst if circumstances prevented us from having more than one, I would be ok with how our family looks now. And I would, or id get there eventually. Barring the unforseen, though, i very much feel like our family is still growing, that there are still souls out there that we have yet to meet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2281067 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 04:00:56 +0000 illumina 2281067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always imagined I'd have 2 kids so I don't feel like my family is complete yet, but I also don't feel like anyone is missing. We decided to start TTC again even though I don't feel 100% ready and let fate take it's course. If we have another, great, if for some reason we couldn't then I'd feel blessed just to have LO :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2281063 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 03:18:32 +0000 iheartleopardprint 2281063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am one of 4 kids, so with the two we have it does feel like something is missing compared to what I was used to growing up. When I look at our two, I can easily see another LO playing with them. So can FI, we have just started trying for number three (our first together). </p> <p>After that, I know we will be done :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2281046 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 00:51:28 +0000 wonderstruck 2281046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I'm being brutally honest, I don't think I'll feel complete until I have a daughter. However, DH feels plenty complete with just our boys. So I may have to just wait until I have a DIL and make sure I'm an awesome MIL, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2280750 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 16:42:55 +0000 daniellemybelle 2280750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting!</p> <p>Even when I imagine the future, I just imagine it with us and LO. She is just my world and it's hard to even imagine sharing my heart with another child! @lovehoneybee: That "hot chocolate vision" for me is usually just LO! I know that I do want another child but at the same time it is not my "dream." My dream was to be a mom and I am, and I really feel content! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279549 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 16:55:34 +0000 AprilFool 2279549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it feels incomplete. When I picture us in the future I always see another soul with us, which is why we will have a 2nd even though I am terrified of 2 :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279518 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 16:21:37 +0000 lilteacherbee 2279518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: EXACTLY what you said, down to the 20 month spacing.</p> <p>LO2 is only 4 weeks old, but I don't feel done yet. I feel very strongly about having 3 kids, it's just always how I've imagined it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279478 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 15:53:35 +0000 mediagirl 2279478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't feel incomplete. It feels right with one. I'd like her to have a sibling but I wouldn't feel any less complete if we didn't have another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279477 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 15:52:40 +0000 autumnlove 2279477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I did not feel like our family was complete with 2 kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279430 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 15:26:10 +0000 lawbee11 2279430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. Quite the opposite actually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279423 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 15:20:48 +0000 catlady 2279423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt incomplete before having LO. Now that we have our family of three, I feel like our family is just fine as is, but there is also room for one more. I would have been devastated if we couldn't have one LO, but now that we have one, I would accept it if something happened and we couldn't have any more (however I am actually pregnant with LO2 so hopefully that's not the case!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279408 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 15:07:38 +0000 gingerbebe 2279408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel exhausted and like I can barely keep up with our son. And pregnancy was terrible for me. But DH and I KNOW there is another little person out there for us, so we're sucking it up. No idea if our second will be natural or adopted, but DH wants to try for a natural child first, so we will need to get the ball rolling soon since adoptions can take several years on their own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279373 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:45:07 +0000 Rockies11 2279373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two, and feel very strongly that we are incomplete without a third. I could obviously live with 2, but 3 feels like the right number. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279365 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:42:11 +0000 runnerd 2279365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is almost 14mo, and I feel the incomplete feeling so strongly since about 8-9mo. I can't even go there mentally of not having one more child. Sometimes I'll mention the perks of if we only had one child, but my heart knows it's a lie and that I just cannot imagine our family not growing. We want to have another asap, and have everyone here. I love the idea that if we have another soon, they will have all the same memories growing up since they won't remember anything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279347 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:28:17 +0000 MamaBehr 2279347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt like our family wasn't complete and now that I'm expecting our fourth, we are complete. I think my feeling of being done is much much stronger than my feeling of incompleteness (if that makes sense). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/diddoes-your-family-feel-incomplete-with-just-one#post-2279343 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 14:25:45 +0000 birdofafeather 2279343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we don't feel incomplete with R only, but we never questioned that we'd have more than 1. DD2 will be here in 2 months and we're planning on having 3 total, so we'll see if it's a feeling of missing someone or just what the plan is. for us, 3 kids + 2 parents equals a family because that's what we both grew up with! </p>