https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 17:45:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids/page/2#post-1359963 Sun, 19 Jan 2014 18:27:08 +0000 Mrs. M 1359963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure I would be willing to deal with the morning sickness again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1359936 Sun, 19 Jan 2014 17:57:10 +0000 lovehoneybee 1359936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All things considered my pregnancy was on the milder side of rough (no appetite at all all the way through, lost a lot of weight that I struggled to put back on, threw up all the way through until minutes before he was born, lots and lots of pain when I (or he) moved, especially as I got big) but it still took months after he was born before I would even consider the idea of doing it again someday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1359932 Sun, 19 Jan 2014 17:50:39 +0000 gilmoregirl 1359932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not done with this pregnancy yet, so the jury's kind of still out. While I was super sick, I was one and done. Now that I'm doing better (felt better around 22-26 weeks), I'm willing to consider doing it again. We always talked about three, though, and I'm not sure I'd go for a third time unless the second is very different from this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1359831 Sun, 19 Jan 2014 16:31:52 +0000 Rockies11 1359831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had extreme morning sickness/food aversions and severe anemia and was totally exhausted throughout my pregnancy, and previously we had discussed having 4. During the hellish pregnancy if my husband brought up another I would be like -ohmygodneveragain. But literally the first morning of her life I was like totally good to go for a second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1359821 Sun, 19 Jan 2014 16:24:20 +0000 anewme 1359821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had trouble conceiving thr first time around so I was ecstatic once I found out I was pregnant. Until the 5th week rolled around and I was nauseous and crawling to the toilet every few hours, until my 4th month. I was a shadow of myself. Then back pain set in and I had the kind of job where you were your either standing or walking for 12 hours. The 2nd pregnancy was a complete surprise and the symptoms were much worse coupled with a few scares in between, I was dreading going to get ultrasounds anymore, each time would be a new and horrible finding. But in the end he was healthy as can be. Having horrible pregnancies have definitely turned me off to having more children. I always wanted 3, but I think I am sooo done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357950 Sat, 18 Jan 2014 02:20:24 +0000 DisneyBee 1357950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first pregnancy, I had terrible morning sickness (more like all-day sickness) for 16 weeks. Then, I had 3rd trimester bleeding. I was on home bed rest for a week, but when I started bleeding at home, I was placed on hospital bed rest at 32 weeks. It was tough being in the hospital for 5 to 6 weeks, especially since it was the holidays (Thanksgiving, my birthday, Christmas and New Year's). I wasn't able to leave my room at all, except if my DH was there to push me around in a wheelchair. Luckily, I was able to use the bathroom on my own. I had heard that some other women were on strict bed rest in the hospital and had to use a bed pan. Fortunately, I delivered at 37 weeks, and DS is healthy.</p> <p>At around 2 years old, I felt baby fever again. I know each pregnancy is different. I'm actually 29 weeks pregnant now. I did experience the same morning sickness, and some intermittent bleeding during my first and second trimester. Third trimester looks good so far (knock on wood). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357944 Sat, 18 Jan 2014 01:58:02 +0000 autumnlove 1357944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had morning sickness for a long time and all kinds of pains for my first pregnancy. The actual birth (c-section) was also a nightmare but I still wanted to do it again and have more children! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357940 Sat, 18 Jan 2014 01:46:37 +0000 Sapphiresun 1357940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure. We struggled with infertility for two years, and I definitely prayed a lot, and promised I would do anything if God/The universe would just let me have one child. We were lucky in that this time we didn't need too much intervention but it was emotionally/financially/physically draining, and I just from that I'm not sure that I could go through it again. </p> <p>Then, when I was pregnant, I got a kidney infection early on and was on bed rest for a week, then got morning sickness so bad I threw up every time I stood up for three weeks. My growing uterus cut off a nerve to my leg, so I had pins and needles in my left leg from week 12 to the end of my pregnancy. Our anatomy scan showed a likelihood that LO's stomach was missing or too small to measure and they couldn't get me in to redo the ultrasound until after I was 25 weeks pregnant, and didn't think to mention that it wasn't a death sentence... It turned out to be an error on the part of the tech but was terrifying. Then I got GD and had to use insulin injections to control it. </p> <p>But I think if I ever had the opportunity to be pregnant again, I would do it over, but will likely be more "if it happens for us, it happens" not chasing it by any means necessary again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357889 Sat, 18 Jan 2014 00:15:55 +0000 BabyBruins 1357889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: almost half way! Due in early June! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357879 Sat, 18 Jan 2014 00:03:44 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1357879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBruins: what?! Yay, congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357855 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 23:35:35 +0000 googly-eyes 1357855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say that pregnancy alone wouldn't make me change my mind (although I can imagine reconsidering, just not coming back with a "no" answer) but I had an easy pregnancy after the first trimester! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357850 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 23:28:33 +0000 SweetMamaM 1357850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I think I'm in the same boat as you. I haven't had anything go seriously wrong, but I have found this pregnancy much more taxing on me physically and emotionally than I had ever expected. I will "put myself through" another pregnancy because we'd like this child to have a sibling but we're definitely two and through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357847 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 23:22:23 +0000 Mae 1357847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It definitely would for me. I've had a pretty easy pregnancy, it seems from reading other people's struggles-- but it is still harder than I realized. Feeling bad/weird all the time is much more difficult emotionally than I anticipated. And I'm getting to the point where I'm starting to just be uncomfortable a lot, which sucks since I still have like 15 weeks to go. Nothing abnormal here, but I just didn't realize how all consuming and challenging this would be, and that it would sort of take over my whole life. </p> <p>I feel like I probably will get over it as soon as I have my baby and will do it again… but if I had or have any weird complications I don't think it would take much to make me one and done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357841 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 23:16:54 +0000 wonderstruck 1357841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had extreme morning sickness and threw up every day of my pregnancy, including in the delivery room while in labor. Sometimes I would throw up as much as 10 times a day! I also got kidney stones twice. This and some other (mostly hormone related) factors caused me to be diagnosed with antenatal depression - it's basically the same thing as postpartum, but happens during the pregnancy instead of after. It was awful and I really thought that I might not have another child, because I was just a total wreck and I didn't think I could go through it again.</p> <p>I changed my mind surprisingly quickly once I wasn't pregnant anymore. I had an emergency c-section that I thankfully recovered from quickly, and once I delivered it was like the switch was just flipped - I wasn't depressed, I wasn't sick, and I pretty quickly decided that I did want another child. We're TTC now and I just pray that my second pregnancy isn't like my first!</p> <p>I do think it might have been different if there had ever been a legitimate threat to my baby's health - as many problems as I had, thankfully my baby remained healthy and safe through all of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357787 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 22:24:13 +0000 tequiero21 1357787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: thx!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357770 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 22:09:58 +0000 winniebee 1357770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: wow I didn't know. Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357659 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:54:26 +0000 Radish 1357659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily, I had a really easy pregnancy. Had I not, I *think* I would at least go through it once more. It is really hard to say if you haven't gone through it, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357653 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:46:32 +0000 tequiero21 1357653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had pretty bad morning sickness, throwing up daily and then some for like 15 weeks. And thought I was going to die of chill after my csec. Didn't think I'd want to get pregnant again, but here I am, in week 7 with my 3rd baby. I do feel like I'm done now but we shall see. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357651 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:44:31 +0000 LemonLong 1357651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first pregnancy was really difficult. At some points I wasn't even sure if I wanted to continue with the pregnancy I was so miserable. Bleeding, vomiting 10 times a day, cyst, potential previa, positive Downs screening (1in 32), IUGR...I had lots of complications. I'm now pregnant again and it's so much easier so far! I'm 11 weeks in and so far hardly any morning sickness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357650 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:42:42 +0000 winniebee 1357650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first I went into preterm labor at 30 weeks and was in the hospital on bed rest and then home on bed rest for 7 weeks. The constant fear of losing my child or have a super preemie was bad. It's what had caused us to hold off on baby 2 for awhile. We are TTC again next month and LO will be 21 months then. I'm petrified of another difficult pregnancy and bed rest with a toddler. If I do have complications again, we are done after 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357644 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:39:52 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1357644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I had some complications with my pregnancy with Chloe. I bled nearly the entire pregnancy &amp; was dilated to 1cm at 23 weeks. I went on to deliver a stubborn, strong girl at 39 weeks. I had a lot of emergency doctors appointments and saw the inside of triage way too many times to count.</p> <p>My OB and RE assured me that no two pregnancies are alike, and having complications with her pregnancy wouldn't indicate that I'd repeat them again. </p> <p>I'm 7w with my second, and it's completely different so far. One spotting scare, but it was a result of my progesterone suppositories. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357627 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:24:08 +0000 Ginabean3 1357627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: I hear ya about the "why" it happened....I had LO unexpectedly at 30 wks...had a perfect, normal preganancy and they can't tell me what happened...makes me nervous to have another (even though I really want to!)...I did NICU for 57 days...don't think I can do that again...and with a toddler...oy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357618 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 20:15:40 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1357618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cord prolapse at 32 weeks (after water breaking at 30 weeks) and then a special needs baby has made me absolutely positive I'm done with two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357581 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 19:45:34 +0000 erinpye 1357581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being so incredibly sick with my first made me strongly consider being 1 and done, even though I always wanted 2, maybe 3. I decided that I could handle it one more time, and it's been so rough, I am done. I simply can't handle another extremely ill pregnancy involving IV hydration, vomiting multiple times per day, and being unable to care for myself or my family. It sucks that even though I will be happy with 2, the decision not to have 3 is resting solely on how sick I get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357562 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 19:25:43 +0000 MrsH 1357562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357555 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 19:22:20 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1357555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( I can totally understand. I was worried my whole pregnanccy with Lorelei, and I still tend to view her as very fragile (crazy). When she was first born she came up as a potential positive for an endocrine disorder on a blood screen. We were also asked if we had any strange blood disorders because her red blood cells were basically self-destructing. Everything turned out fine, but I still have this sense that I'm getting her on borrowed time. I can certainly see not wanting to go through certain things again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357550 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 19:14:14 +0000 justdarling 1357550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I always thought we would have 2, but after TTC for almost 2 years and having to do IVF I am reconsidering. I have a high risk pregnancy right now and have a ton of doctor's appointments. What has really made me reconsider additional children is the fact that I have had to do a ton of other stuff, like IV's and shots, to keep the baby. Every time my RE calls, he has something else that I need to do or I might lose the baby. I just don't think that I can emotionally or physically do this again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357527 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 18:55:04 +0000 Caly 1357527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. My pregnancy was all over awful...the only easy part was surprisingly the delivery. Part of me wonders if it was a really tough pregnancy because it was twins and a singleton would be easier for me, but, I'm not sure I'd be willing to risk it. Plus, they're 10 weeks now and haven't been particularly easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357520 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 18:48:14 +0000 Mamasig 1357520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but I always knew that I would have at least two kids. I wanted a sibling for my son. We actually wanted 3. </p> <p>But my 2nd pregnancy has been so much easier than my original, the plan for 3 is back on. </p> <p>Each pregnancy can be so different. I didn't have complications with my 1st, but it was HARD. I felt so bad all the time. Totally different story this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/didwould-a-rough-pregnancy-make-you-reconsider-more-kids#post-1357511 Fri, 17 Jan 2014 18:36:53 +0000 skipra 1357511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if my pregnancy would be considered rough - I had terrible morning sickness until 20 weeks, spotting from 13-26 weeks, and then was stressed pretty much from 28 weeks that there was something wrong and the baby wasn't growing right. I had appointments and ultrasounds 3x a week for the last several weeks. It was scary but everything turned out fine and I was ready to get pregnant again like when we got home from the hospital. I know so many people have it worse and if I was in constant pain or on bed rest or had a bad outcome then maybe my answer would change. </p>