https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 19:28:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-425058 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 12:32:01 +0000 Pipers Mommy 425058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First pregnancy was not good for me. Sick until 28 weeks, From about 12 weeks on, I had constant swelling in my legs and feet (I could barely walk at times). I saw a Perinatologist every 2 weeks from 20 weeks on because of risk for Downs and possible heart arrhythmia (neither of which ended up being the case). Hospitalized for 4 days at 36 weeks for a severe kidney infection. Induced 9 days early because I was diagnosed with ICP. DD was born with high bilirubin levels and under the lights for 3 days. It took 4 months for my liver enzymes to correct themselves to normal levels (they were somewhere in the 600s when I delivered)<br /> This time I have been nothing but boring (some Bleeding off and on at 15 weeks, but very strong hb and so my md pretty much said it was most likely placenta previa-by the time I had my ultrasound at 19 weeks the placenta had corrected itself, so much better this time around! I am shocked at how different one pregnancy can be from the next. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-425003 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:59:22 +0000 littlek 425003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AprilK: My story is very similar. Spotting, delivery at 34 weeks and 10 day NICU stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424985 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:51:16 +0000 Honeybee 424985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have hyperemesis gravidarum, so both of my pregnancies were difficult in that sense. It was a little easier the second time around, since I had prepared some coping methods and knew better how control my disease after #1.</p> <p>My second was difficult in whole new ways, though. Besides the HG, my first pregnancy was "normal," and both DD and I were perfectly fine after delivery. With DS, I had a whole list of other complications (including a velamentous cord insertion, growth concerns, partial bed rest, a PTL scare, cholestasis, postpartum placenta and bleeding issues, and DS had really bad jaundice at birth). So, in my experience, unless your complications the first time around are caused by something that is definitely going to repeat itself (e.g. like HG), there's really no telling how easy/difficult your subsequent pregnancies will be. I knew I would have problems with HG again in repeat pregnancies, but there was no possible predictor for all the other complications I had with DS. It was just luck of the draw that I ended up with those issues, and there's no indication that a third pregnancy will have all or any of the complications I had with my second.</p> <p>I will say that pregnancy, in general, is harder on your body the second time around (especially if you have your kids close together), so you can expect that. A lot of complications, though, are unpredictable, so there's no guarantee that a first pregnancy predicts what a subsequent pregnancy will be like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424949 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:33:48 +0000 winniebee 424949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing.</p> <p>My first pregnancy was easy peasy until I randomly went into Preterm Labor at 30 weeks. Was hospitalized and then on strict bedrest for 7 weeks due to early dilation, effacement, and cervical shortening. Then had a normal delivery, but small baby.</p> <p>I really would love to get pregnant after LO is a year or so, but am really worried about being on bedrest again for #2. My OB doesn't know why I went into PTL cannot predict whether it will happen again.</p> <p>Not to scare you...but my sis had her water randomly break at 34 weeks with her #1. With her #2 they found out her cervix was shortened at 28 weeks so she went on modified bedrest then. With her #3 they found our her cervix was shortened at 20 weeks so she was on modified bedrest until 36 weeks. She never had PTL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424909 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:18:20 +0000 littlek 424909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I talked to my OB about my preterm labor and he has no idea why it happened so I know I will be more closely monitored my 2nd pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424908 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:18:18 +0000 AprilK 424908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to know this too! Mine wasn't terrible as things go but I was sick all the time (barfing right up until delivery), and spotted alot, and then had him at 34 weeks and had a 10 day nicu stay. My OB has a plan for me to take weekly progesterone shots from 16 weeks until full-term whenever we get started on #2, and has high hopes that it will address the preterm labor. But I am hoping the sickness and the rest aren't as bad the second time around too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424901 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:16:02 +0000 Crisark 424901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: I did the first two times but the Perinatologist doesn't seem to think I will this time tho. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424898 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:14:51 +0000 rachiecakes 424898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkinspice: ah, you did get pre-e again?<br /> I've only had one pregnancy and it was a dream until about 30 weeks when I got pre-e, after that it was a lot of tests and bedrest until I was finally induced. I'm worried about it happening again if I have a second child.</p> <p>subscribing this </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424777 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 10:25:32 +0000 Crisark 424777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first wasn't bad until the end when I developed Preclampsia. My 2nd wasn't bad until after she was born and then within minutes my pressures went nuts and I again had Preclampsia.<br /> Now so far in my 3rd, we've been referred to a Perinatologist and baby girl is looking good. I have chronic high BP now and am medicated so that's under control and I've also developed GD which I am also taking an oral medicine for as well. This pregnancy is by far the most 'high risk' but the other two weren't bad at all until the end.<br /> I talked to my OB before getting pregnant this 3rd time just to make sure it was ok in her medical opinion so maybe that's an option? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-first-pregnancy-how-about-second#post-424613 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 09:22:36 +0000 littlek 424613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first pregnancy was high risk, I had bleeding, had to have a CVS and my son was born at 34 weeks. DH and I want to have a 2nd child in not too long and I'm afraid the next pregnancy will be rougher and I'll end up on extended bed rest. So, query, for women that had a difficult first pregnancy, was your 2nd pregnancy easier or more difficult? </p>