https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 13 Jun 2026 02:03:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2873163 Wed, 20 Feb 2019 20:36:45 +0000 youboots 2873163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope nope nope.</p> <p>You are in an abusive relationship. Just because it’s at work does not make it ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2873094 Wed, 20 Feb 2019 15:18:31 +0000 agold 2873094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: If I didn't have to work, I probably wouldn't. Certainly not in a crappy setting. That being said, I work under interesting circumstances. I've grown a thick sick and the pros usually outweigh the cons. Great money and flexibility are worth so very much to me. Good luck with whatever you decide to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2873013 Wed, 20 Feb 2019 08:52:33 +0000 Lindsay05 2873013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sucks. I would agree that you should look elsewhere. No job should make you have extreme anxiety. That is going to start affecting your family and your health. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872933 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:58:38 +0000 Kaohinani 2872933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are worth more than being your boss's scapegoat for his frustrations. (I had a senior Prof of whom I worked with that would do the same to me ... I transferred STAT after the 2nd time). Your job is not to deal with his mood swings or inability to cope with stress. If the added income is your motivation to stay, I would start job searching posthaste and hang in there at work until you can give a 2-week notice. By all means, make your position known to your superior and tell him that his outbursts are both hurtful and exhaustive on you (* in a respectful way, of course). Hopefully, he will stop being a d#ck and will give you a decent recommendation when you move on. Best of luck :goodluck: and I hope for a great update from you soon! 🤞👍</p> <p>P.S. FYI, if you feel that he has created a "hostile work environment" towards you, that is (by all accounts of what I know with my stepfather and cousin as attorneys and my mother as a paralegal. ), illegal and, if it does not cease, could call for further legal examination... if you were ever to take it as far. I hope it never gets to that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872928 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:06:05 +0000 SweetiePie 2872928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money is never worth the unhappiness. If it was needed to make ends meet, I’d say you have to have something else lined up first. Since it’s not critical money, just quiet. Bye, drama. It’s not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872927 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:05:31 +0000 poppygirl15 2872927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to echo everyone else. Get out. Sounds like you might feel better about the situation if you gave a full two weeks notice, though (although your boss might just tell you to leave). Good luck! A better job is out there for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872926 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 17:01:03 +0000 Mrsbells 2872926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: This sounds like a sucky situation. Personally I would be aggressively searching for another job. That would help me stress a lot less about the current situation knowing that I have one foot out of the door. I would wait to find a new job before quitting though just because it seems to be easier to get hired when you are currently employed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872919 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 16:41:38 +0000 erinbaderin 2872919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: Oooh, yeah, then I think you have to leave. He’s apologized to you in the past which shows he knows what he’s doing and he’s not able/willing to stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872917 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 16:37:55 +0000 Portboston 2872917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: unfortunately there is not. He is the owner and there’s only one other employee besides myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872875 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 13:38:20 +0000 erinbaderin 2872875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How small is the company? Is there an HR department, or somebody you could talk to and say that you can't work for this manager but you would like to stay on and work for somebody else? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872854 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 12:28:39 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2872854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: the saying "people leave managers, not jobs" is common for a reason. I think you absolutely should leave, especially given that you have the financial ability to do so, and look for something else. Hopefully that will be a wakeup call to your boss, but unless you're in dire straits financially, this is not worth your health suffering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872853 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 12:19:13 +0000 ALV91711 2872853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since the income is extra I would quit and look for something I enjoyed. You don’t need to be in this situation and it is seeming to be a pattern that isn’t going to change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872852 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 12:17:32 +0000 periwinklebee 2872852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally would not find the money to be worth the abuse, if there was any way to make ends meet without it. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872850 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 12:13:46 +0000 Portboston 2872850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: @Lahela017: it not changing is the biggest problem. There’s no point in staying if he is going to continue to treat me like this. </p> <p>Thank you for the support bees. I’m pretty bummed to be in this situation as I did really enjoy my job before this started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872849 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 12:07:49 +0000 Lahela017 2872849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is no way I would put up with the abuse, and I would quit and look for a different job. The money isn't worth your health. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872848 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 12:06:00 +0000 josina 2872848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since the pay is 'extra' anyways... I would quit and look elsewhere. It doesn't sound like your boss is going to change anytime soon, and I don't think it's worth your stress and anxiety to put up with it! Find a job you enjoy going to and that will make up for the pay cut. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/difficult-work-situation#post-2872842 Tue, 19 Feb 2019 11:50:24 +0000 Portboston 2872842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’ve been working part time in the legal field at a small company for the past year after staying home full time for 2.5 years. Prior to that I was in the financial industry for over 10 years. </p> <p>In the past few months my boss has been EXTREMELY stressed out due to personal stuff as well as an extremely busy period at work. He’s been taking it out on his employees. He’s apologized to me in the past for doing this, (see previous post) including as recently as last week. I was in tears all day yesterday on and off and basically hid in my office all day. By the end of the day, I was ready to walk out and never come back. I had cleaned out my office and left my keys on the desk. I didn’t talk to him in person yesterday because I was so upset, I didn’t think it would be productive (I also don’t want to use my emotions in the workplace). On the way home I was having second thoughts about quitting because of the money. My husband makes enough to support us with zero extra so we’ve really enjoyed having some additional income over this past year. I wrote him a very long email last night telling him I’m unhappy and can not work in an environment like that. I have not checked to see if he’s responded because I just want a day off from the drama. I’m already on meds for depression/anxiety but the thought of going back to the office is causing me some extreme anxiety that I haven’t experienced for a long long time. </p> <p>I don’t know where to go from here. I know he values me, he’s made it very clear, but his communication is terrible and causes him to expect things from his staff that were never communicated to us, which ends up with us getting berated for these things. The first time it happened I was willing to forgive and move on but it’s becoming a pattern and I’m not confident it will change. (There are other issues as well like him not billing clients on a regular basis which leads to back owing on bills, etc). </p> <p>I have been looking for something else but I’ll have to take a significant pay cut anywhere I go. What would you bees do? </p>