https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 30 May 2026 08:17:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883086 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:30:00 +0000 MrsTiz 883086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: True! Hadn't thought of that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883075 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:28:40 +0000 Dandelion 883075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: @MrsTiz: @mrbee: Also, it could just be that she has already planned/promised to give her story to another source (Oprah or whatever) and she just couldn't say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883069 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:28:19 +0000 mrbee 883069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Totally agree that she could've phrased her answer better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883064 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:27:20 +0000 MsLipGloss 883064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yeah, but it wouldn't be the first time a host has asked questions not on the pre-approved list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883059 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:26:28 +0000 looch 883059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dunno, usually, the questions are submitted beforehand, so the guest has time to prepare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883046 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:24:18 +0000 MsLipGloss 883046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: I agree. In giving her the benefit of the doubt, I think she was caught off guard (about being asked to give specifics). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883040 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:23:24 +0000 Dandelion 883040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe she wasn't prepared to say anything about it on Wendy William's show. It might have taken her off guard, or she was in an emotional state that she felt she couldn't talk about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883035 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:22:25 +0000 MrsTiz 883035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Don't get me wrong, I totally understand her desire for privacy, but on something as personal as that I just think it should have been kept fully personal or at least tucked away with the response "That isn't something I feel comfortable talking about just yet". I don't want to know all the gory details </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-883013 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:17:12 +0000 mrbee 883013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I guess we just disagree then. I don't think of privacy as an "all or nothing" proposition. Just because she's a musician and wrote a song about it, I don't think she has to necessarily answer all of our questions about the song and the issues that were raised.</p> <p>I think that over time, she may very well open up about the details when she is ready. It sounds like maybe that show with Wendy Williams wasn't the time or place for her... for now, maybe she's a musician expressing herself, like @Dandelion: mentioned? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882992 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:14:10 +0000 BSB 882992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I agree. Any kind of abuse is hard and it does take time to be comfortable talking about it. Maybe in time she'll open up to it. She is taking her steps and for her is singing about it. Just because she sings about it, does not mean we need to know every.single.detail about it. Everyone (even celebrities) should get some privacy.</p> <p>I do hope she finds the courage to open up at some point in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882977 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:12:13 +0000 MrsTiz 882977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: By acting like she never even mentioned it. As a musician, it should be common sense that if you make a song intended for the world to hear, you *will* get questions about it. To brush it off and not want to talk about it makes me feel like "why wouldn't you just write the song to vent and then keep it for yourself?" now she has to sing it onstage everynight, which I imagine is more painful than talking about it once?<br /> @runsyellowlites: explained it more eloquently than I can :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882967 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:10:07 +0000 sorrycharlie 882967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel like she needs to get specific, that's pretty personal. If she chose to that is one thing, but you can support a cause without having to give your own details. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882965 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:09:45 +0000 mrbee 882965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Totally agree with everything you just said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882958 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:08:50 +0000 matador84 882958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She probably could have said it better--it does matter, but clarify that she doesn't want to discuss her personal experience with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882956 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:08:38 +0000 runsyellowlites 882956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you're going to make a song about it then you better be ready to talk about it. Just logically, I wouldn't tell a woman who is experiencing abuse that I know how that feels &amp; then act like it's none of her business to know how... I'm the one that brought it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882954 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:08:02 +0000 MsLipGloss 882954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Dealing with it through a song is approaching it on her own terms . . . instead of having someone demand that you elaborate further (which can feel abusive to someone who has been in that situation). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882947 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:06:55 +0000 MsLipGloss 882947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think she needs to explain further . . . sometimes talking about a situation has the effect of making people to re-live it, and in so doing, they feel traumatized all over again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882944 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:06:22 +0000 mrbee 882944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I'm not following... how is she doing an awful job? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882943 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:06:20 +0000 Lindsay05 882943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thats just strange. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882937 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:05:45 +0000 MrsTiz 882937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder why she would be like that? Obviously she wasn't scared to talk about it because she wrote her comeback song about it, knowing she would have to sing it a million times.</p> <p>Abuse is abuse no matter what the type is. If her goal was to empower victims and promote awareness she's doing an awful job.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882925 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:04:41 +0000 Dandelion 882925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think sometimes writing the song lyrics is the way to get your emotions out. It's really hard for some people to talk out their emotions, so they use their art to say what is on their heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dirty-laundry-does-the-type-of-abuse-matter#post-882906 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 13:01:00 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 882906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kelly Rowland was chatting with Wendy Williams about her song Dirty Laundry in which she sings about an abusive relationship. The lyrics suggest the abuse was physical and emotional. Wendy asked her to explain how she was abused and Kelly said she didn't want to go into that and it didn't matter. I'm confused, if the goal is to bring awareness why clam up?</p> <p>I was in an unhealthy relationship that was physically abusive at times. I think it does matter and to just leave the story on wax is doing a great disservice. What do you think? </p>