https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 21:25:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-48671 Sat, 07 Jan 2012 11:59:48 +0000 pastemoo 48671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CameronsMomma: I just re-read everything. You are very eloquent and your post really strikes a chord with me. </p> <p>@MsMini: Thanks! I wrote back :)</p> <p>@soyjoy222: :) I wish I knew this before. I though I was going to LOOOOOVE being pregnant!</p> <p>@Goldilocks1107: LOL! I know--still very disconnected. We're due the same day. I hope I don't deliver early even though I hate this all, because I'm scared if I hope to deliver early it'll "be my fault" if he's born premature. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-48619 Sat, 07 Jan 2012 09:00:04 +0000 Goldilocks1107 48619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: The anatomy scan didn't do it for me either. Really neat to see her sucking on her fingers, but not in a "hey, that's happening RIGHT NOW, INSIDE ME" kind of excited way. I think I would much rather be throwing up all the time and suffering the physical symptoms that are "okay" for a pregnant lady to have, instead of this emotional mind f*ck that seems to be going on right now (pardon my french). 20 weeks to go - here's hoping she arrives early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-48411 Fri, 06 Jan 2012 19:21:36 +0000 MsMini 48411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I replied to you on WB, but I just wanted to say, again, that I am sorry that you aren't enjoying your pregnancy. Hopefully the rest of it just zips on by! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-48395 Fri, 06 Jan 2012 18:48:23 +0000 pastemoo 48395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CameronsMomma: Lots of people have lots of trouble getting pregnant, but that doesn't mean they have to enjoy it :P Many many many women hate being pregnant and love having a baby. </p> <p>I also really don't want to deal with that reaction if I admitted to not enjoying every moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-48027 Fri, 06 Jan 2012 12:20:41 +0000 soyjoy222 48027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't really help, since I've never been pregnant, but I can say that I've never been excited about the thought. However, I'm excited about the thought of a baby. I have an inkling I could be an awfully cranky pregnant lady.</p> <p>Honestly, I wouldn't believe everyone that says their pregnancy was wonderful and perfect and rainbows...I think a lot of people probably feel like you do, but don't want to deal with the reaction of others if they really say how they feel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-48019 Fri, 06 Jan 2012 12:10:12 +0000 CameronsMomma 48019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely understand how you feel. I know there are people who have a hard time getting pregnant or can't at all, so I try to feel blessed that I am, but I honestly hate pregnancy so bloody much. </p> <p>The media and other moms who loved their pregnancy I find make it even harder. They go on about how they loved feeling their baby kick, and I find it really annoying to be sitting there, FINALLY having got comfortable and bam, you've not got to move again because he's kicking in a really painful spot. I also hate feeling like a whale. I'm not glowing thanks, that's my make up which now takes longer to apply because I have to cover my entire face that now has insane break outs.</p> <p>I've been calling the baby by it's name to try and help me feel more connected to him, and it works, to an extent. He feels more like a person this way, but not one that I know or love. I think once I'm in labour and he's born, it won't matter any more. But at the point I'll be content to never have to be pregnant again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-47848 Fri, 06 Jan 2012 08:20:09 +0000 EloiseKE 47848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're feeling so down about the experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-47664 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 20:06:24 +0000 pastemoo 47664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Goldilocks1107: Hugs.<br /> It blows a lot. We got our anatomy scan today. It was cool, butI don't feel like this is any more real than it was before. </p> <p>Even when I saw the baby kick itself in the face (LOL) AND felt it at the same time, I didn't really believe that there is really a baby in there.</p> <p>Also... I was SUPER disappointed it wasn't twins. I don't want to do this again! And I hate the names my hubby likes. I should be so excited right now, but I couldn't care less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-46036 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 11:02:26 +0000 Goldilocks1107 46036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same boat here, Pastemoo. And it's interesting that we're both at 20 weeks and are so. over. it.<br /> And it seems that people (husbands included) don't seem to realize that pregnancy isn't all rainbows and unicorns and all that other crap. It's being poked, prodded and weighed like a prize cattle at a fair. Ugh.<br /> You're not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45914 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 06:17:16 +0000 pastemoo 45914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Laneybugsmommy: Thank you, I needed to hear that.<br /> My husband and I have also reevaluated and decided to have just the one kid. We jokingly call my belly the lonely only. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45899 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 00:07:21 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 45899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just for the record, I hated pregnancy. There wasn't anything at all that I liked about it. I felt disconnected from my normal self but at the same time not really connected to the child I was carrying either. I was sick almost the entire time and just generally unhappy. The entire time I was in labor, instead of thinking happy thoughts about meeting my child, I kept thinking thank god this is almost over. With that being said, there is not an ounce of me that doesn't love my daughter in every possible way. There isn't an ounce of regret or any single feeling of why did I put my body through that. Magically once the baby is here it all goes out the window. Granted for me, I've made the decision that we'll only have the one child because I don't want to go through that again, but I still wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45853 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 21:25:35 +0000 pastemoo 45853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: None taken! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45850 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 21:08:47 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 45850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: No offense implied! I *wish* I had wanted to! But I hope you're feeling better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45842 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 20:54:19 +0000 pastemoo 45842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: I *am* taking bump photos every week!</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: and @Rubies: Thank you. I really do need to make some ME time. I commute so far that I get home and don't unwind and between the pregnancy and the rest I just do not treat myself as well as I know I need to right now--you're right. I NEED a pedicure!<br /> Some days are better than others. Today I went to the gym with my hubby. Sleep and the gym have always really helped me with my moods.</p> <p>@artbee: :) I like your perspective!</p> <p>@JustlikeHeaven: hahhahahhahah. I know, right! That's awesome. I need your answer to that question next time.</p> <p>@lemondrop: Aww hugs! And thank you! I have had a lot of bizarre ups and downs, so I really appreciate that you've been through it and back up again.</p> <p>@Clementine: :) Thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45727 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 17:19:45 +0000 Clementine 45727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there, mama! Hope you feel better. I definitely have those days too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45442 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 12:04:55 +0000 lemondrop 45442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can definitely relate, hopefully it gets better for you. I remember feeling really crappy about halfway through, then things got better for quite a while. It gets funner when they get bigger and you feel them at regular times. I also remember not liking my dr's office at that time either and was thinking of switching (I can understand your reason for switching) but I really like my doc's office now. </p> <p>I hit another crappy wall this morning at 38 weeks, after a night of no sleep I was pretty much in tears in the doc's office begging him to get this kid out. But there is always good news around the corner, while you can be dilated for some time, I found out things are progressing along, and feel so much better now. </p> <p>Hang in there, things will get better and you are halfway there to the big reward- it will fly by so much faster than the first half! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45438 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 11:57:25 +0000 DpeachLu 45438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way. The other day a stranger asked "how is the pregnancy going" and when I replied "horrible" I just got a look like they couldnt believe I replied with that... but what am I supposed to say ... "ohh its all flowers and clouds you know.. weight gain, feeling frumpy, heartburn" </p> <p>::sigh:: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45435 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 11:52:03 +0000 heffalump 45435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnancy is hard! Our bodies go crazy and so do our emotions. It's such a big change, and things just keep changing and happening. I think it's more normal to get upset about it than to be one of those women who loves being pregnant!</p> <p>What always helped me was to think of the baby and remember why my body was going through all of that. I loved just sitting there feeling the baby move, and trying to bond with my baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45349 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 09:54:24 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 45349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: You're not alone. I wish I had been one of those women who was taking bump photos all the time and crap, but, not so much. I just felt big and dumpy a lot of days. Sorry you're having such a hard time with your care, though. I second the idea of a prenatal massage! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45347 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 09:53:55 +0000 Rubies 45347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice but wish you a better second half of pregnancy. Please speak to someone about depression - it's very real and it can get very lonely. Sending you positive and joyful thoughts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45339 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 09:42:31 +0000 yoursilverlining 45339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t have any advice, but you’re not alone. I think media (and plenty of people) are so invested in telling women how beautiful and amazing they should feel while pregnancy, and in reality for many women, pregnancy just isn’t fun. Its physically exhausting and uncomfortable, and no one wants to talk to or about YOU anymore – all I’m ever asked is pregnancy/baby related questions. It does make you feel more like a baby carrying object, than a separate person.</p> <p>Hopefully once you see an actual OB, they will have some advice for you. Maybe treat yourself when you can – try new acne products (natural ones that would be pregnancy approved), massages, pedicures, a nice gift for yourself, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45314 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 06:10:55 +0000 pastemoo 45314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyndistar3: That's really cool. I'm hoping my Feb appt will be with someone new. Hopefully I can figure out the healthplan switch by then.<br /> @MaisyMay: Will do. I just saw her about 2 weeks ago and didn't get a referral anywhere. Of course I asked for a referral to an OB, not to a psychiatrist, but she think of it (neither did I). We'll see when I can get an appt. They fill up pretty quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45305 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 00:28:42 +0000 MaisyMay 45305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Know that what you are feeling is normal. There's a lot of talk about post-partum depression, but pre-partum depression is a very real thing. See if you dr (regular, not ob, if poss) can refer you to somebody to talk to about it. They'll give you somebody that you can talk to and who can help you deal with everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45295 Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:18:20 +0000 cyndistar3 45295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry, hopefully you can switch your doctor! I go to a midwifery and I love my midwife. She is so friendly and caring, I have problems with depression too and she always knows how to make me feel better. I really hope you can find a better doctor soon because you shouldn't have to feel that way :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45290 Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:00:27 +0000 pastemoo 45290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: 20 weeks. I have military health care, and tried to get a referal--no dice. I don't have an OB. I have 2 NPs.<br /> And my u/s is being done at a hospital I've never been to, but am supposed to deliver at.</p> <p>I am going to try to switch my coverage to see a civilian doctor but my regular doctor (primary care--she is awesome) told me to wait until after the ultrasound because of the $$ it will cost us if I switch *before* the u/s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45289 Mon, 02 Jan 2012 22:56:50 +0000 chopsuey 45289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry to hear you're having such a bLah time .. :( I don't have any advice, but totally know how you feel about feeling fat and uncomfortable.<br /> How far along are you? If you're not satisfied with your care have you considered looking for a new OB? I have a friend who switched over at 25weeks.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disappointed-rant-pregnancy-blows#post-45286 Mon, 02 Jan 2012 22:40:51 +0000 pastemoo 45286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sick of pregnancy and "doctor" appointments.</p> <p>I am not excited about the baby anymore and I feel like this pregnancy has nothing to do with me. I feel like an object, and only very rarely do I really believe there is a baby in there.</p> <p>I feel fat. I feel bloody (constant nosebleeds). I feel uncomfortable with food (heartburn, nausea, afraid to keep gaining over the normal amount). I feel uncared for--my husband rocks, but everyone else is far away and my doctor's office is a clinic that pretty much sends me out if anything actually happens and all they do is weigh me and check my blood pressure. My skin is worse than when I was a teenager.</p> <p>Why am I so negative and so disappointed with my care?</p> <p>I have had depression issues in the past and this seems totally different so I'm pretty frustrated.</p> <p>Sorry for the long rant. Anyone in the same boat? Or have any advice? </p>