https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 13:41:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691407 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:38:05 +0000 MamaG 2691407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Bummer, K cried and got really upset when I read "Ouch! Feet are not for Kicking" in a stern voice. She now walks around the house saying, walking feet, no kicking feet.</p> <p>The dynamics are so similar, K gives the best full body hugs and is very sensitive to my stern voice/look but gosh she's so rough and tumble and aggressive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691402 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:35:12 +0000 winniebee 2691402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: we have them. And he laughs through them and then hits more after reading. He's a very sweet child, really, but knows exactly the hot buttons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691397 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:31:45 +0000 MamaG 2691397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Our second is the "bully" in the family. She beats up on big sister all the time. We have the series of books that includes "Feet are not for kicking" "Hands are not for hitting". We used the feet book with great success this past week when she intentionally kicked big sister in the face. I wonder if the hands book would work, you could change the words up to be hands are not for hurting/pulling hair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691376 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 13:02:05 +0000 winniebee 2691376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I've seriously considered this but DS1 is such a pacifist! Also ds2 has pulled his own hair to see how much it hurt 🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691188 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 08:37:12 +0000 Ajsmommy 2691188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure how "accepted" this is.. but I had a younger brother and I used to kick him.. yeah I know.. big bully... well nothing worked until my mom let my brother kick me back. OUCH!! it hurt and I remember it to this very day. I learned my lesson and stopped kicking my little brother. I obviously know that you don't want to advocate hurting each other but maybe if big brother gave little brother a hair pull back he might realize that it hurts and it's not nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691172 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 07:32:48 +0000 winniebee 2691172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: i think I'll just have to make him get ready with me. He can't be contained anywhere though! Can open all the doors, climb out of crib and tubs etc. he's my wild child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691117 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 21:07:08 +0000 PinkElephant 2691117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Similar situation with my almost 3 year old not giving a darn about most punishments (although she does have a breaking point). My tactic for her misbehavior was to remove toys or privileges...unfortunately, the other day she just looked at me after doing something she knew she shouldn't and snarling 'What are you gonna take? TAKE IT! TAKE IT!" sigh....</p> <p>Is there somewhere really boring you could make him sit instead of his room? Like the office or if you're getting ready in the AM, stick him in your (dry) bathtub with no toys and make him wait it out? And when it relates to him harassing your older DS, can you get him on board with not reacting? I've been rewarding DD1 for walking away and getting me instead of throwing a screaming fit when DD2 pulls her hair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691094 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:22:54 +0000 Canoli 2691094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain but with my 5 year old!!!!! I wish I had some advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691085 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:11:13 +0000 Boogs 2691085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: This is a regular thing in our house and I've tried all the same things as you. If you ever find a solution I would love to know. It's so frustrating, so I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691008 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 16:02:39 +0000 daniellemybelle 2691008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I have heard this is a good tactic - to pay attention to the one that got hurt. I babysit a 20 month old once a week and sometimes LO (3.5) is not gentle with him. I have tried talking only to our friend and fussing over him: "Are you okay? That was not nice of LO! Do you need a hug? I wish LO had been more gentle with you!" She usually tries to get in on the attention by saying sorry and hugging the little boy... but I will say I don't know that has totally changed her behavior. At least she understands the appropriate way to react, though? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2691006 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 15:55:06 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2691006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following for my own benefit. T does this constantly (although I hate to admit it's actually gotten better now that O figured out to hit him when he goes in for the hair pull). Any reaction he thinks is hilarious. But I can't tell O who is 15m to just ignore him. Especially because he pulls HARD! And we can't just ignore it either. He's been like this since 7 months, though, when he rolled into the closet, touched the garbage can and started cracking up when I told him no. Uh oh.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690970 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 14:28:07 +0000 MarieJ 2690970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, but my 2 year old also thinks incidents like the ones you described are funny. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690957 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 14:08:02 +0000 KayKay 2690957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: E does the exact same thing (usually either hair pulling or biting) to K. it's almost always at times where either I am not right there (e.g., cooking dinner) or can't immediately deal with it (e.g., feeding R). sometimes it's frustrating/anger, but most of the time it's trying to get a reaction out of K. so we have talked about staying calm, telling her "no" or "i don't want to play like that" and walking away. but clearly it's hard for a 4.5yo to stay calm and do that when i barely can! we don't really discipline, other than to calmly tell E that that hurts K, and then we focus the other 99% of the time/attention on K. if K is really upset, we'll try to tell E "look how sad K is because you did x".</p> <p>it's frustrating and not a quick solution, but nothing else seemed to work either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690950 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 14:00:02 +0000 edelweiss 2690950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>so frustrating! how about trying to just calmly, without saying anything (he knows what he should be doing, and if you just stay silent there's less chance of displaying an emotion that he wants to keep eliciting) putting him somewhere else, and then paying all the attention to the big brother.</p> <p>sometimes i put my 18 month old in the kitchen and close the baby gate when he and my 4 year old keep fighting. or in the mornings, if i want to keep an eye on the younger one, i will take him into the room where i'm getting ready and close the door. he doesn't like it, but whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690948 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:55:07 +0000 snowjewelz 2690948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he is trying to get a reaction... Would only paying tons of attention to T while totally ignore R work? So no punishment but zero attention either and yet T gets all the love for getting hurt? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690940 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:48:33 +0000 winniebee 2690940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: yeah he is usually crying real tears after he gets his hair pulled :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690938 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:45:59 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2690938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: hmm maybe he is enjoying the reaction he gets from his big brother when he does it. I feel like DS hits his baby sister because he is waiting for a reaction from us. Maybe similar? Don't know how you could get your older LO to not react to that though- hair pulling hurts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-2-year-old-who-thinks-it-is-funny#post-2690934 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 13:43:23 +0000 winniebee 2690934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I generally don't do time outs - except in cases where my kids hurt each other. </p> <p>Our 2 year old has taken to grabbing fist full of his big brother's hair and pulling hard/hurting him. It usually happens when I am not there to intervene. I like the whole be there to stop it thing - but mostly it happens when they are playing alone or I'm getting ready for work. Sometimes it is for NO reason and sometimes it is a dispute over a toy. The 2 year old laughs about it. If I take him to time out he laughs. If I put him in his crib, he climbs out. I've yelled at him (oops). Nada. He keeps doing it. </p> <p>Any suggestions? </p>