https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 01:42:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305908 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 07:32:26 +0000 Adira 2305908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beloved: This is a pretty normal phase for this age. Kids are learning that they are individuals and can have different opinions and wants from mom and dad, so saying "no" and other negative phases are their way of asserting their own independence and really just trying something out.</p> <p>We don't really punish Xander (also 2.5) for expressing his emotions. We just ignore things we don't like, like tantrums or yelling no. When he's being rude, we'll tell him the correct behavior like "No, thank you" when he says "no" or whatever, but that's basically it. And then when he's sweet and polite, we praise praise praise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305903 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 07:23:39 +0000 catomd00 2305903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I don't want to discourage my child from expressing herself. It's ok if he feels he wants to be alone. Rather than saying go away, I would try to empathize with his feelings and give him alternative, kinder words to express himself with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305846 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 23:26:40 +0000 Ginabean3 2305846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just ignore it and use positive reinforcement when he does something you do like. My 2.5 yr old says "go away mommy" all the time and I HATE it. Whenever she says it I look at her and say in a sorrowful voice, "that's not very nice to say that" and then just move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305838 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 22:51:45 +0000 daniellemybelle 2305838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QueensBee: @Rockies11: We do the same thing. If she yells "Noooo!" at me, I'll say, "Can you talk to Mommy with a nice voice? Just say, 'No thanks!'" And when she repeats it in the same tone I lavish praise and (if possible) grant her desire. </p> <p>Positive reinforcement for saying the same thing but the "right" way has worked pretty well, but we still have plenty of tantrums of course. My LO is only 23 months so there is a learning curve that I have to keep in mind, too. For weeks I have been having her repeat, "Yes, ma'am," when I ask her to do something instead of whining, "Okaaaay," and yesterday she woke up from her nap finally saying it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305796 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 21:20:40 +0000 beloved 2305796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much ladies ! I'm going to try to let him know his words aren't kind and then ignore ! Please let this be the ticket ! I need him to move past this phase ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305731 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 20:17:36 +0000 Mama Bird 2305731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beloved: I think you're right and he's doing it to get a reaction, and he's getting one all right. Just tell him calmly that what he's saying is not nice, and ignore it beyond that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305717 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 20:07:10 +0000 MrsSRS 2305717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do a pleasant but dismissive "nope" and otherwise ignore when LO says something we don't like and give effusive attention when he uses what he knows are acceptable alternates. It's been effective. Tonight my husband was giving a lot of stern attention to some unpleasant phrases and whaddya know he started using them more and more! Daddy ignored and poof they stopped like magic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305708 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 20:01:17 +0000 Rockies11 2305708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With "go away" or "no" or really anything I would just say the thing you would prefer him to say in a nice upbeat voice. Like "We say I will do this myself mummy" or whatever. We do this all the time with my two year old. Like for example when she screams "MORE MILK", I just say "more milk please mummy" while I am getting her the milk. It's actually worked really well! Not a hundred percent, but a solid 80 percent. And I feel like I am doing something to address it without being in a disciplinary cycle that she couldn't care less about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305701 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 19:58:33 +0000 QueensBee 2305701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you teach him a more polite alternative? Instead of "move!" we taught LO to say, "excuse me." And instead of "Go away!" he says, "I need a little space, please." No! could become no, thank you. And then praise him and try to grant his wish when he uses the polite version. Not sure if it would work in this case but an idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305681 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 19:49:16 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2305681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age I would just ignore. By giving attention(positive or negative), you are reinforcing the behavior. When he doesn't get attention he'll stop...really! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305644 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 19:27:38 +0000 hilsy85 2305644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beloved: it sounds like he's getting the reaction he's looking for, so I would just try ignoring it as much as possible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305629 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 19:16:39 +0000 beloved 2305629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I told DH this evening I think I may start ignoring the "go always". I know he doesn't mean anything by it and me making a big deal out of it just makes him want to say it more ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305624 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 19:10:52 +0000 hilsy85 2305624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you give him alternate words to use when he's upset? And talk about it when he's not upset, that saying "go away" hurts your feelings, and when we're upset, we can say "I'm upset! I want to be alone right now". </p> <p>My LO often tells me to go away though...I don't really let it bother me! As for the No, I think that's par for the course with a toddler! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disciplining-a-25-yo#post-2305621 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 19:07:23 +0000 beloved 2305621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is super verbal and we have been having some issues with him talking back or saying phrases we have asked him not to say . Most notably: go away! And NO! (Followed by a foot stomp) </p> <p>We have tried: popping his legs, time outs, the corner, and taking away favorite toys, talking to him rationally. None work consistently. The corner worked the first few times and now he couldn't care less. I think because he knows any punishment is very temporary. </p> <p>Today I accumulated a whole pile of toys on the kitchen counter. He even offered up a few "here mom, these can go up there!" </p> <p>Any advice? </p> <p>I think part of the problem is that he isn't really doing it to be ugly... He knows it gets a rise out of us so he says it then watches very closely for our reaction (because he knows we dislike it) </p> <p>I hate feeling like I am fussing at him constantly. Help! </p>