https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 14:57:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2486128 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 09:49:25 +0000 snowjewelz 2486128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: :heart: :heart: </p> <p>I'm planning to TTC after DD turns 18 months as well and some days baby fever makes me want to do it NOW! </p> <p>Hang in there mama :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485622 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 13:58:46 +0000 MenagerieMama 2485622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@magnolia: I haven't asked her yet, she didn't say anything specific other than it would take up to 2 wks post-removal to ovulate and I assumed it would be like the first time! If I get to the 6 wk point I'll check with her and see. I've never wanted to get my period so badly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485551 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 10:21:36 +0000 magnolia 2485551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What did your obgyn say about your period returning? Maybe they could help with that part at least? Good luck and hugs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485435 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 23:43:54 +0000 Adisho 2485435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's so hard to be patient when you want something that is out of your control. Sending a hug :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485346 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 20:33:52 +0000 Mrs. D 2485346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to send you hugs.<br /> You're in good company here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485292 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 18:27:49 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2485292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice. Lo2 took longer than lo1 by a lot but lo1 was a one try pregnancy. He has been 100000% worth the wait but it was hard to wait. Patience is not my forte. Don't get worried about your cycle just yet though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485283 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 18:04:50 +0000 MamaCate 2485283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I will be thinking of you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485259 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 16:45:20 +0000 Nutella 2485259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: Hi dear! First I want to say I'm sorry to hear about your loss, and can totally commiserate. I think you've received some great advice here, going to repeat some of those mantras myself!</p> <p>I had an average time conceiving LO - didn't happen straight away but wasn't trying for that long (about 5 mo once I got the timing right)...so when we tried for LO2, I was pleasantly surprised we got lucky on our first real month trying. Sadly we lost that one at 8w, in a missed MC and that completely threw me. I was hoping for superfertility afterwards but wasn't to be - that was in August last year, and my would-be due date is coming up this week &amp; im still not pregnant. We have taken off a unofficial break from TTC as it was causing me too much stress just to be casual about it, then see AF arrive. But I struggled every month, and hearing about others' easy journeys really hurt! </p> <p>But...I've been realising the comparing trap is just that, really doesn't matter whether others have luck and don't understand what a mc is...I've had to go through it and become stronger as a result! I carry the memory of it with me, but I sort of use it to remind myself that the best is yet to come, and not to lose sight of that. Also dividing on returning to work and finding my own other passions is a good way to keep me balanced. It'll happen when it's going to!</p> <p>And seeing success stories is cool but I also know what you mean about it being hard! I had to step back from the boards just because I couldn't handle feeling like I was not able to move on like everyone else is :bummed: </p> <p>Wish you lots of peace and luck though! Know you're not alone! :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485254 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 16:31:20 +0000 MenagerieMama 2485254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: @Shantuck: @junebugsmama: @deerylou: @MOMTOLITTLEB: @delight: :heart: :heart: :heart: to everyone! Thank you all. I needed that. I think everyone is exactly right. I need to stop comparing (so guilty of that in so many aspects!) and see the forest instead of the trees. Which is what I know I just get so stuck sometimes. I will just read everyone's responses again when I'm getting stuck. Best wishes to everyone :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485239 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 15:56:54 +0000 delight 2485239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can totally commiserate with you. LO1 was conceived fairly easily, 3 months after an early mc. We have been trying for 18 months for #2 and have had a 22w loss, followed by a 10w loss. I just found out I am pregnant and hope this is it. I have had many lows this past year and a half but have always looked to my DH and DD to give me strength. It is so hard when you see friends and family around you conceive so easily. One of my biggest fears has been having LOs far apart in age. I really wanted them to be 2 years apart. I have tried to let go of this but it still makes me sad. Wanting a sibling for LO has kept me going. I wish you all the best as you TTC#2. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485237 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 15:50:12 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2485237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first cycle after going off birth control last year was 80+ days! I was starting to think I would never have the opportunity to have another child. We haven't tried yet but my cycles have gotten to about 32-38 days. I have PCOS so that's normal for me. </p> <p>My sister is pregnant with her third child- all unplanned(though very welcome). It took us a year of trying for our first! Everyone is different, I just know we'd never have that easy of a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485234 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 15:39:39 +0000 deerylou 2485234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 was the happy result of what was essentially NTNP. When we decided to try for another last year, I naively assumed it would be a cake walk. It has been a challenge and we've been unsuccessful, save for a recent CP. I know we aren't in the exact same boat, but I definitely commiserate with your fears and hesitations and understand the bizarre, unwanted sense of defeat when others find success, easily. @MamaCate: and @Shantuck: both have some amazing words of advice that I am going to try to take to heart, myself. I wish you the very best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485233 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 15:35:43 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2485233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shantuck: :heart: </p> <p>And you too, @MenagerieMama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485221 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 15:12:24 +0000 Shantuck 2485221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't agree more with @mamacate. I easily conceived LO1 but LO2 has been a struggle with 2 miscarriages thus far and 13 months of trying. For awhile I felt incapable of being happy that others easily got what I wanted but I've since learned that "you gotta do you" and I've stopped worrying about other people. I've been focused on eating right, exercising, doing acupuncture, etc and I'm finally capable of being genuinely happy when friends announce their pregnancies and births. I'm now 5 weeks pregnant so I have no success story yet but I can say I've learned a lot about myself along the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485186 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 14:21:00 +0000 MamaCate 2485186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: this is so hard! Hugs! Two thoughts:<br /> 1. Comparison is the thief of joy. Keep repeating this as much as you need.<br /> 2. You will get pregnant and it will work itself out. It is hard to see the forest for the trees sometimes when we are in the middle of it, but you will look back on this time and see that things unfolded as they should.</p> <p>I got ku easily with my first and expected similar with my second. I got a bfp our first cycle trying but we lost the baby to a missed m/c at 12 weeks. It then took a year and a day to get another bfp. Thank goodness that is now the 7 month old I am rocking to sleep. I was where you are--everyone is getting pregnant faster than me, I am falling behind, my kids will be too far apart, what if we can't conceive again, etc etc. it really colored a lot of my life. I am so thankful I was able to get pregnant again but I wish I could go back and tell myself to calm down a little. Hope this makes sense--feel free to wall me jf you want to chat more. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged#post-2485161 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 13:38:29 +0000 MenagerieMama 2485161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay ladies, this is mostly just a big rant but I need to get it out! LO is almost 18 mo and we're gearing up to TTC for #2. The first time around for LO resulted in a miscarriage after a couple cycles and then took about 6 mo after until the BFP for LO. Which in hindsight isn't terrible but I was so stressed out and the miscarriage really was devastating. Needless to say I have some stress related to even the idea of TTC! </p> <p>So we planned to get my IUD out a couple months early to start tracking my cycle and not "try" but not prevent. My IUD has been out for over 5 wks now and I haven't had a period (lots of BFNs, so not pregnant). It came back like clockwork the first time when TTC #1. So now I'm worried about when/if my period will come back! </p> <p>Most of my close friends have gotten pregnant quickly, even one who needed meds because she wasn't ovulating got pregnant more quickly in total time than I did with LO! My BFF didn't even get her period after her IUD was removed, got a BFP instead. I was going to join one of the POAS threads but it seems like everyone has been getting BFPs (which is awesome for them!) and I was just too discouraged. My SIL is already in the 2nd tri with LO2 and her LO1 is younger than my LO! She's also a pregnant on first cycle lucky one even though she has a chronic disease.</p> <p>I guess I'm just feeling down and either need someone to shake some sense into me and/or commiserate. Both are welcome! I have crazy baby fever and want a sibling for LO, and do not do well with things out of my control. Le sigh. </p>