https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 02 Jul 2026 21:00:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-324373 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 12:40:22 +0000 birdofafeather 324373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that's why we're not telling anyone our ideas. :( i don't want ANY opinions to sway us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-324343 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 12:32:45 +0000 pl0508 324343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We ran into this and I ended up getting pretty discouraged as well! On one or our name talks we finally just nailed down a name that we both love and will be perfect for our baby boy. You'll know it is the right name when you find it - and if you have already found it then don't let other's opinions discourage you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-324224 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 11:38:27 +0000 ladyfingers 324224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have to go with the name you love! Try your best to drown out all the negativity. If you and DH are on the same page about a name, go with it. And now just remember not to tell anybody. Nobody's going to say anything once it's your LO's name. I'm sorry you're dealing with this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-324158 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 10:52:15 +0000 LazyLightning 324158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: yes! I told one friend and her immediate reaction was "do you have some names picked out?" lol I'm 5 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323911 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 09:24:38 +0000 MrsTiz 323911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm shocked that at only 7 weeks nearly all of my friends/family have asked me what names we're thinking about. I mentioned a few that I liked and got "Oh but %@# is just SO CUTE!" ..none of my names -.- but hey, they're our babies &amp; we'll call them what we want! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323900 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 09:17:55 +0000 hellobeeboston 323900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we haven't told friends or family our name for precisely this reason! If they don't like the name - TOO BAD. This is your child, and you will be saying the name every day, so go with your gut... and I wouldn't share any more names from here on out, just make everyone wait. When the baby is here they just can't say anything. ;) </p> <p>sorry they're being so negative to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323866 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 09:00:41 +0000 loveisstrange 323866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our preliminary "top 3" to people to mixed reactions. We had a really hard time coming up with ANYTHING that we agreed on and neither of us was really in love with any of them. </p> <p>In the end, we had an "ah-ha!" moment while watching a movie and we picked a tentative top choice. She didn't have an official name until she was born. :) We wanted to see if the name fit her and if it didn't, we had a couple back-ups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323807 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 08:20:11 +0000 travelgirl1 323807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you've experienced this. For us, honestly, we have kept the gender a secret (we know it though) and the name a secret, we haven't run it by anybody. The reason is that DH and I have VERY different taste in names, we only have one we agree on and we love it, so we don't want to run the risk of anybody else being down on it in case it puts us off. If you love the names you picked, try and ignore everyone else - it's your baby and your choice. Easier said than done though, I know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323720 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:15:29 +0000 purrpletulips 323720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't be discouraged. We were team green both times and although we had settled on a name for a girl each time we were had not settled on a name for a boy until in the delivery room. Just tell anyone who asks that you haven't yet settled and don't want to share until the baby is born (even family that pushes the issue). If they don't like the name you choose, tough cookies, it is your child and you get to name them whatever you desire. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323708 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 06:55:10 +0000 T.H.O.U. 323708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think when people asked us, we never said that anything was final (it helped that we were team green). We would share a "short list" of 2-3 names, sometimes even throwing in a few extra options just to get opinions. </p> <p>In the end, it was what my husband and I liked and what we felt comfortable with. We did get some bad reviews but thats ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323706 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 06:52:42 +0000 Beebug 323706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SLR, don't be discouraged :)</p> <p>We are 9 days away from our EDD and could not be more clueless on a name for our girl!</p> <p>We had a long list in the Spring, and did tell some family and friends our top picks, they were all pretty plain jane names and/or "older" type names and got either negative or no real reaction. Most people use not liking them because of someone they think of with that name. Lesson learned? Yes! We haven't let it discourage us, we know whatever we name her, she will be loved.....</p> <p>We've since hacked and added to that list so.many.times and now scrapped it completely. I doubted names, loved names, then hated them (and thought....what was I thinking!) We are just going to have to wait until she's in our arms and hopefully she looks like a certain name and all of our hilarity/insanity with figuring out a name will be settled! </p> <p>"good" name or "bad" your baby will be loved, the name will come to you.....eventually! You definitely don't have to have a name ahead of time, and maybe you will and she still won't fit in, it'll fit when it's supposed to :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323576 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:54:14 +0000 SLR 323576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We REALLY tried to keep them to ourselves. I didn't mind telling my parents, because I knew they wouldn't give us a hard time for our choices. His family was just pushing the issue and we finally caved and spilled it. In fact, when he intially told them the name, it was before we knew if it was a boy or girl (it would be a unisex name, but a bit more boyish). </p> <p>After hearing their feedback and the doubt creeping in, it then made me curious to see what a couple of my friends thought.</p> <p>Lesson learned...guess we'll need to keep our mouth shut from now on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323565 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:46:20 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 323565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree- try to keep the names to yourselves. We had people commenting left and right about every name, so we kept ALL of our finalist names a secret until after LO was born. I didn't want anyone else's negative connotations influencing our decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323553 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:40:49 +0000 mrsjyw 323553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we didn't tell anyone until dh and i had narrowed down our top two; we were pretty adamant about the names we loved and wouldn't have taken any negative feedback about either name! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323511 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:20:17 +0000 chopsuey 323511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I know. It's flies by the second time around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323507 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:18:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 323507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: omg already 28 weeks??!! crazyyyyyy!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323506 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:18:04 +0000 Mrs. Pen 323506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>now you have me sooo curious and I want to know the names :):)</p> <p>I would say that as you go over the list or even find a few new ones, refrain from telling anyone. If you are this affected by negativity then I think keeping it a secret would be ideal for you. You can't worry about what everyone else will think - its your baby and you have to choose the name you think is best!! As it is with all parenting choices..</p> <p>We did opt to tell people the name we chose, but it was two months after we had chosen it so that we had time to "try it out" and knew we loved it no matter what by the time we announced it. I think that because we were very definite while telling people, no one commented negatively about it.</p> <p>Just as when your baby is born and named more than likely the nay sayers will stay silent. And you can't worry about them. </p> <p>I did doubt our name choice here and there because I didn't want a freakishly weird name, but I didn't want anything in the top 100 names either. But I called my belly that name for awhile and after a couple months I knew it was "the one" lol I still love it and he is 7 mos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323498 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:16:27 +0000 chopsuey 323498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't share our final list with anyone since everyone's going to have an opinion and we didn't want to hear what other people thought. I suggest keeping the names you're considering between you and your DH..<br /> Just surprise everyone with your LO's name after she arrives. It's unlikely that people will say negative things about the name you've chosen after you've already named her. </p> <p>We also didn't decide on a name until 2-3 weeks before my LO was born!</p> <p>Don't be discouraged! I'm at 28 weeks and we haven't come up with baby boy's name either..! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/discouraged-about-name-choices#post-323489 Wed, 03 Oct 2012 21:12:59 +0000 SLR 323489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are having a terrible time trying to choose a name for our baby girl. We have (or HAD) a few contenders, but have recieved some pretty negative reactions from the majority of the people we had told (which aren't all that many people). </p> <p>Since one or two of the options may be considered a little different (not super weird though), I was curious to hear SOME feedback -- but just wasn't ready for all the negativity. My family likes them all (at least, that's what they say!), but my husband's side definately did not, nor did a few of the friends we mentioned them to.</p> <p>I'm now finding myself doubting our list. I just don't LOVE any of our choices anymore and am starting to get really down about not being able to find a name. Any time someone asks if we've picked a name, it almost has me on the verge of tears...pathetic, I know!! (And, my shower is this Sunday, and I'm sure I'm going to be asked the question...repeatedly.)</p> <p>Did any of you run into this? How did you choose, and how do you not get discouraged? </p>