https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 17:20:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824761 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 06:54:34 +0000 heffalump 824761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom will call me mean mommy when I do things like make lo get shots. I just correct her and say I'm a nice mommy because I am keeping my lo from getting sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824754 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 06:43:01 +0000 Ree723 824754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Those kinds of comments don't bother me, I know they're meant in jest and I even make those comments about myself. LO hates having her face wiped and I am always joking around about what a mean mummy she has, taking away all that yummy food off her face, etc. I don't see anything wrong with it, but I'm also pretty confident in my abilities and the decisions I make, so other people's opinions don't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824742 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 06:30:58 +0000 SleepyMonkey 824742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm okay with it too. i think people are just joking when they say it - like its a complete exaggeration of what you are doing. i say it to my husband when she is crying/fussing and he is holding her. "Is daddy torturing you?" by "torturing" i mean that he's really not doing anything at all or he's trying to get her dressed or something totally harmless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824730 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 05:45:37 +0000 cheert16 824730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Drives me crazy!! DH does it sometimes and I snap at him when he does it! My mom did it once, and I told her to stop and she did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824720 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 02:54:04 +0000 loveisstrange 824720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh. People say it. Doesnt bother me. I say it about myself sometimes like "awww, C, youre crying because mommy took that marker from you? I know, im so mean." </p> <p>I think theyre just teasing. Id save your energy and just ignore it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824711 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 01:58:00 +0000 lomom 824711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I've seen it the most out of my mom. I'm just like really? Shut up. </p> <p>@rahlyrah: sometimes I'll say something about me being the bad guy, if DH asks me to put LO in his rocker after they've been snuggling, but that's definitely not the same as hearing someone else tell you you suck, through your LO :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824704 Sun, 02 Jun 2013 01:28:11 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 824704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katsupgirl: no, literally...people think it's oK to say *anything* as long as its in a baby voice and to a baby.<br /> So rude...&amp; negative...just needs to stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824645 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:41:32 +0000 katsupgirl 824645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That drives me nuts. People act like its okay to insult you if they're talking to the baby. For example if the baby is crying you hear this: "oh that mean mommy isn't feeding you? Poor baby!" Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824634 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:25:39 +0000 Ra 824634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it weird that I say it about myself? LO isn't here yet, but when my nephews were babies and fussing I'd always say, "mean aunt Sarah, making you cry," or something of the sort. I'd never say it to someone else though! Well, maybe about DH when our LO gets here but I know he wouldn't take offense :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824628 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:21:45 +0000 tlcbaby 824628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even without having had my baby yet I can say this would bother me. I just can't see myself ever saying something like that to another parent. I really hope I don't encounter this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824621 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:16:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 824621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never heard anything like that but it would piss me off if I heard it! That is so incredibly rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824618 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:15:18 +0000 googly-eyes 824618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: yes and it drives me nuts. It's usually one of te grandmas and that's when it annoys me most because they are the most openly critical of my parenting!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824617 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:15:17 +0000 runsyellowlites 824617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandmother always asks P if we pinched her when she fusses. I kinda hate it but I know she doesn't mean any harm... infact if she knew it bothered me she'd probably feel guilty for ever having done it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824612 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:09:28 +0000 autumnlove 824612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL does this from time to time. I ignore her these days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/disparaging-remarks-while-holding-baby#post-824609 Sat, 01 Jun 2013 22:06:35 +0000 lomom 824609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wtf is wrong with people?!</p> <p>Do you ever have people make disparaging remarks about you or your SO while holding your baby? </p> <p>I keep running into this and it makes my blood boil. People will talk to LO and tell him how "mean and rotten mommy" is and that I'm doing stuff wrong or how they'll be LO's favorite because "mommy is mean".</p> <p>I'm probably overreacting, but it really makes me want to snatch up my baby and tell them to go eff themselves. </p> <p>I think/hope they're just joking and trying to "commiserate" with LO but I don't think it's funny to joke that I'm mean/rotten/whatever. </p> <p>Do you ever run into this? </p>