https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 06:20:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1969014 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 11:40:08 +0000 808love 1969014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been married 5 years. It doesn't seem like too many people who actively post here are divorced. In my social group only 2 couples (from DHs friends) got divorced and 3 of my friends hanging on. That's out of hundreds we know. So yes I agree marriage needs a PR person.<br /> As to why- I think many people are not forced into marriage by societal norms these days so a lot of iffy people are staying unmarried. Plus maybe more people are getting counseling, community or online support for rough spots?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968783 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 09:31:34 +0000 Greentea 1968783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: @dc yoga bee: I think "age" seems to be a way to say many more things- because really, I think the high divorce rates have to do with what you said, and also no fault divorce being introduced in our culture, and changing culture over the 20th century. For example, I come from a long line of family farmers and they got married very young and are still married in their 80s! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968753 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 09:17:39 +0000 dc yoga bee 1968753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I agree. Most of my friends all got married before 25. Actually, only 3 of my close friends got married at 28, and one close friend is still not married, but in a serious relationship. The high school sweethearts (about 6 couples that I know) are celebrating 9 years this year! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968590 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 00:17:11 +0000 DillonLion 1968590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad to hear it! It will be 4 years married for us in 2015.</p> <p>We have only one set of friends that have divorced so far, but we're all still pretty young (less than 30). I expect some more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968577 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 23:48:24 +0000 littleblessings 1968577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think age really has to do with it. Just my opinion. My SO and I were high school sweethearts. We will be 21 and 23 when we get married next year. I think it depends on morals and personal beliefs. We have both talked and agreed that once we get married we are never getting divorced. I only know four couples that have gotten divorces. 2 young and 2 old. I think people might be taking marriage more seriously. I know a lot of couples that would rather work things out than split. That's how I think it should be </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968572 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 23:36:53 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1968572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@marionberry: I was thinking the same thing. Both my and DH's parents are divorced and it makes us determined to make our marriage work. I don't want my kids to have the same experience I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968538 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 22:44:04 +0000 Mae 1968538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Been married almost 4 years. Most of my friends have been married about the same. I only have 1 friend that got divorced and it was within 2 years of being married. Also have twelve cousins who are married anywhere from a few months to 20 years, and none of them are divorced (although 1 we are sort of rooting for divorce bc her husband is a douche and she can do better...). 3 of my parents' 5 siblings are divorced but all three of them got divorced after 20 or 30 years of marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1968535 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 22:40:19 +0000 erinpye 1968535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@marionberry: I agree 100%. After being a child of divorce, I will do everything in my power not to put my kids through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1967930 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 15:25:25 +0000 marionberry 1967930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that many of us now married were the first generation to go through the true divorce culture and learned a lot from it. While I feel like having divorced parents showed me that sometimes it needs to happen, it also made me realize the true effect it has on children and will certainly make me work harder on my marriage before ever divorcing.</p> <p>That said, I'm actually surprised that every friend I know who got married (some who even got married straight out of high school to high school sweethearts) is still married. I'm only 29 and many of my friends married in their mid-twenties, so while not 19, it's still a relatively younger age group getting married and that hasn't affected the divorce rate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1967925 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 15:22:31 +0000 JennyPenny 1967925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad to see this. Me and my friends are in our late 20s and until 6 months ago I could have said none of my close friends have gotten divorced. But in a crazy onslaught 3 couples have started divorce processes since June. Id guess it's about a third of the weddings I've been to, so hopefully that means no more divorces in my circle... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1967908 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 15:10:48 +0000 LAZB 1967908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't surprise me that it is not 50%. I only have one friend that has been divorced, so it's not common in my circle.<br /> Divorce rates are definitely impacted by age when you get married, educational background, socioeconomic background, religious background, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce/page/2#post-1967864 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 14:48:07 +0000 namaste 1967864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been married for 5 years and we got married young. None of my married friends have been divorced and we all were married before 25. My bff's husband had a previous marriage but that's all I can think of. No one in my family in my generation is married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967833 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 14:34:27 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1967833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are coming up on 4 years - we married when I was 23 and he was 27. He was one of the last of his friends to marry, and I was the first of my group. In his side of the family, only his parents and step-sister are divorced. On my side, my parents are the only ones still married! None of our friends are divorced, but being in our later 20s/early 30s that's probably not surprising.</p> <p>All the couples in our families who have divorced married young and/or dealt with infidelity or substance abuse issues. Those that have stayed together are the ones with higher education and are the most devout Catholics. So I think it's a combination of all those factors - age, lifestyle, education (and corresponding income), and religious beliefs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967760 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 14:11:46 +0000 LuLu Mom 1967760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will be entering our 4th year of marriage next year, and have not been divorced. We got married when I was 26/DH was 32, so a little be later in life (compared to our area average and friends.) </p> <p>I know a TON of people who got married in their very young 20s, and so far they are all still married, however sadly I don't know if that will be the case forever. I have been a bridesmaid 13 times in my life, and only one of those have ended in divorce. They got married when she was 22. They grew apart, ect. </p> <p>I have another lifelong friend who is dealing with a separation right now, it's been a longtime coming, she was married at 23, and they have been on the rocks for 4-5 years. Honestly she's better off without him, she just doesn't want to stigma of being divorced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967657 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 13:37:25 +0000 Anagram 1967657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm...none of my close friends are divorced, but a lot of them are in their early 30's and still not married. DH has 1 friend that just got divorced last year (and he doesn't have any unmarried friends left). </p> <p>My family is another story. I have 3 siblings who have been divorced, some even more than once! Every single one of them got married at 19-20 and all 3 were married 8-12 years before divorcing. I think in all of their cases, they just married too young and in haste--before they were grown up and before their spouses were grown up and they made a lot of stupid financial decisions and had kids in those years too, and all of those things stress a marriage. I'd imagine it's not easy to be 20-21 and married with a kid, with both people not college educated and working crap jobs, and money is tight and you have so much responsibility. Not an easy recipe for success.</p> <p>My parents were uber religious and really pushed my older siblings into marriage as soon as they had a serious bf/gf because sex before marriage is such a sin. And that backfired so spectacularly that I never heard a peep about my many boyfriends and never heard a negative word about waiting until I was 32 to settle down. One of the benefits of being a 5th child. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967489 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:34:35 +0000 erinpye 1967489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None of our friends are divorced. A ton of my family has been, from the older generations, though- my parents and grandparents have all been married multiple times, except for my dad's parents. DH and I are coming up on our 5 year anniversary in March! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967439 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:09:50 +0000 .twist. 1967439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been married 3 years. I only know one of my peers who has been divorced. Although we are not close friends. </p> <p>I have more aunts and uncles who have been divorced, or people in their age group, thank anyone in my age group so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967428 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:06:56 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1967428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw this and found it kind of comforting! My husband and I both come from divorced parents and he has been divorced once himself. I'm not surprised that it's not actually 50% </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967423 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:05:19 +0000 Andrea 1967423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been married almost 9 years. </p> <p>The divorce rate in our friend group is very low so far. We've been married the longest though ... so I guess we'll see how it all plays out. Hope everyone lasts! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967411 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:01:36 +0000 mrsjyw 1967411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been married over four years. None of our close friends have divorced. But I have several acquaintances, old friends I've lost touched with, mainly "fb friends" that have separated/divorced over the last couple of years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967410 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:01:14 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1967410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been married 5 years. I don't know anyone that's been divorced, but we're still relatively young and many of my friends have only been married 2-3 years so only time will tell. Right now I can't imagine many of them getting divorced though.</p> <p>Maybe the divorce rates are down because the economy has been down? Some people can't afford to divorce. I feel like there has to be a correlation there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967404 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:58:20 +0000 birdofafeather 1967404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been married 4 years and while none of my close friends have been divorced, one is a 2nd wife/stepmom and I know a decent amount of people who have been divorced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967375 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:46:30 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1967375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None of our friends are divorced. But all my friends married in their late 20's to 30's, have graduate degrees for the most part. We're in our sixth year of marriage.</p> <p>In my family, there had never been a divorce as far back as I can trace (sometimes into the 1700's), then in a 5 year span, 3 relatives divorced. I don't anticipate that there will be any more though!</p> <p>I feel like pre-marriage counseling and awareness of the history of failed marriages have made an impact on divorce rates. We're all looking for the relationship that will last... And we're more willing to be single if we can't find it. I didn't get married til I was 38. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967337 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:33:45 +0000 Mama Bird 1967337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely think marrying older is a factor. And I feel like there is less of an expectation that you have to marry, even if you haven't met someone who's right for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967325 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:32:10 +0000 dc yoga bee 1967325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm from the south, where everyone I know gets married either at 18 (after high school), 21 (after college), or 24/25 (after grad school). None of my friends are divorced, and I think that's especially awesome for the ones that got married right after high school! We got married after grad school at 24/25 and are right at 3 years going strong! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967322 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:30:41 +0000 Greentea 1967322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: I know people that live apart like that too. They stayed married for insurance reasons but have completely separate lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967313 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:28:53 +0000 Greentea 1967313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I agree.</p> <p>I guess I am not putting too much stock in this. But, if rates really do go down I wonder if it has to do with how high the rates climbed with no fault divorce introduced, and a fallout from that. In other words, pretty much everyone I know has divorced parents so they approached marriage differently in our own time. Living together first, finishing college first, and also living different places first, being exposed to more first, also increased access to birth control. Theories. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967297 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:22:54 +0000 photojane 1967297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting! We have been married 4 years. We got married right out of college. So far we're happier than ever, but either way divorce is not an option for us. All of my close friends are mid-late 20's, all married in their early 20's, no divorces yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967294 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:21:31 +0000 loveisstrange 1967294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think less people overall getting married and people not being able to afford a divorce and simply living separately might have someone to do with it.... </p> <p>I know several people who live apart from their spouse because they can't afford to do a divorce. I also know several people who are divorced, one girl is my age and has already been divorced twice. But that could be because she wants a wedding and babies more than she wants a marriage </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/divorce-rates-are-down-at-current-rate-nearly-2-out-of-3-marriages-will-never-involve-a-divorce#post-1967283 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 11:17:16 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1967283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I have been married for 4.5 years and are as happy as ever.</p> <p>We don't have any friends who are divorced and, like us, they all got married in their early to mid-20s (within a few years of college graduation). So I don't really think the marrying later trend explains things necessarily. I only know of 1 person I went to college with who has gotten divorced. </p>