https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 19:36:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-471360 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 20:24:23 +0000 glimmersnaps 471360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BIL's wife and I were about a month apart in our pregnancies. I felt a little funny because she announced first and then I found out I was pregnant. She announced early (like the stick was still wet early) we actually wanted to wait until we went to our first appointment. So there was a good deal of time in-between the announcements. But then it was really fun to be pregnant at the same time and have babies going through the same stuff at the same time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-471137 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 15:13:34 +0000 sarac 471137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and I started trying at the same time, and now we have daughters 5 months apart. It's the most wonderful thing in the world. I wish I'd had a cousin close to my age in my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-470837 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 11:23:24 +0000 Modern Daisy 470837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you and your dh are ready, then just start ROTC and don't worry about what anyone else is doing. It could take you a long time and even if it doesn't your sisters life plans shouldn't influence yours esp something that has nothing to do with her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-470806 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 10:34:35 +0000 spaniellove 470806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I clicked on this not realizing it was an old thread! Wonder what ended up happening to the OP? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-470777 Sun, 30 Dec 2012 09:24:20 +0000 lomom 470777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's sister told us she'd be really upset if we got pregnant before her and her DH. She struggled with infertility for 7 years before having her baby this Christmas. When we found out she was expecting, we started TTC a few months later, and our kids will be 4 months apart. We waited until 16 weeks to tell his family, so she could enjoy her showers and everything. We were hoping to wait until after she delivered but it just didn't work out that way.</p> <p>We felt the need to be courteous of her because of the infertility struggles. Our timeline was to start TTC on our 1 year anniversary, I don't know if we would've changed that if she hadn't gotten pregnant. It just all worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79876 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 14:45:00 +0000 Shutterbug 79876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If anything, think of it as GOOD timing! I have 3 cousins that were all born within a year of me, and it was wonderful growing up with cousins so close in age.</p> <p>ETA: It's easy to get wrapped up in the 9 months before the baby's born, but you'll have a lifetime after that - so what if your showers/births/etc overlap? Once they're both born it'll be a non-issue. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79850 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 14:20:49 +0000 Adira 79850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, don't worry about what your sister is doing! And I don't think people will overlook your child or you'll take away from your sister's attention. I think you'll both get the attention you deserve AND it could be fun to be pregnant together!</p> <p>I had the same dilemma in that my sister-in-law got pregnant a couple months before my husband and I decided to start trying. Even though I know that if/when we get pregnant, his family will be dealing with her showers/new baby, I don't care. I'm trying to have a baby on MY schedule, regardless of what other's are doing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79824 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:55:25 +0000 banana 79824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should start right away. You never know how long it will take and you don't want to have any regrets later. I say go for it!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79768 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 11:48:21 +0000 Crisark 79768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't base your decision on what anyone else is doing. If it's right for you and your DH then don't wait!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79713 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 10:10:03 +0000 mamabolt 79713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't wait to start TTC. You guys planned when to start TTC for a reason, and it will be fun to have cousins close in age! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79698 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 09:41:52 +0000 MrsLilybugg 79698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second what everyone else says! Don't wait, have it now if that's what you two had already planned! Your family will love both babies, and they will each have a cousin close to their age to grow up with :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79674 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 09:05:45 +0000 mediagirl 79674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way! It's nobody's business when you have a baby, nor is it ever a bad time. There is no thunder stealing when it comes to babies and more babies. Your parents, I'm sure, would be THRILLED to hear you are pregnant. Sounds like you're not even TTC yet. My thought is - don't wait just because it doesn't seem like it's the "perfect time." You may come to regret that later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79668 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 08:54:05 +0000 tequiero21 79668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lol wow, (including myself) everyone voted for you to just go for it! so funny because my bro and SIL are waiting for me to have mine before they go for their 2nd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79622 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:17:17 +0000 googly-eyes 79622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with whomever it was that said there's enough love to go around! I would go for it anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79601 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 00:15:39 +0000 BoogieBea 79601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it'll be nice for the cousins to be close in age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79593 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 23:37:24 +0000 brownie 79593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You should just do it. It make take some time to get pregnant so I wouldn't worry about 5-10 weeks apart. My two sister's kids are all 6 weeks apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79563 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:26:24 +0000 heffalump 79563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every baby will get lots of attention - people love babies! I think this is too big of a thing to plan around someone else. It's something you should do when you want to. Plus, it will be so nice to have cousins the same age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79562 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:25:52 +0000 SugarplumsMom 79562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally don't think that babies compete in anyway. Even if every woman in your family happens to get pregnant at the same time, each baby doesn't take away anything from the other. Plus, babies aren't easily planned like that - sometimes it takes a while ... even for perfectly healthy couples.</p> <p>Babies are a life-as-you-know-it change! When you're ready for it, you're ready for it - it shouldn't matter what anyone else is doing with their lives. It's very different from say, a wedding (in that aspect). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79553 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:14:50 +0000 loveablebee 79553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cupcakemama Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79547 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:12:02 +0000 cupcakemama 79547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveablebee: that's incredibly sweet of you! There will be enough of a gap so she will have her time and then you will have kids that are similar ages! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79544 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:09:17 +0000 loveablebee 79544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! You made me feel so much better!!!</p> <p>@cupcakemama I just didn't really want to take away from her time or have people thinking we did it BECAUSE of her situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79540 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:05:15 +0000 MsMini 79540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should have your baby when you want to, it shouldn't matter what other people choose to do with their lives, if you are ready to make the next step, then do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79539 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:03:31 +0000 cupcakemama 79539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not sure I understand why you would put off ttc just because your sister is pregnant. There will be a while between the babies anyway, and that is presuming that you get a bfp straight away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79536 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:02:15 +0000 MsMamaBear 79536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have your baby when you want. I see this on Weddingbee so much and I'm so confused. There's enough love to go around for all of the babies that come into a family. Heck, I'm sure they'll be more excited because this baby will have a cousin to play with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79533 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:58:50 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 79533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have to do what you want to do. Unless there are some family issues/drama, I can't imagine they'd shun your baby or be any less excited just because your sister has one, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-i-need-to-wait-to-have-a-baby-now#post-79526 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:56:45 +0000 loveablebee 79526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I have been married almost a year now. He is recently confessed to me that he really wants to have a baby next year. Exciting right?! That would mean that we need to start TTC later this year which is fine. There is just one problem. My younger sister just announced that she is 5 weeks pregnant yesterday. The baby was completely unplanned and with a guy she has just started to see. </p> <p>Does this mean that DH and I should wait now? I am afraid that if we have a baby next year, it won't be as big a deal or our baby will get shunned because my family is focusing on her. I also don't want to take away from her attention OR have people feel that the only reason we are having a trying now is because my sister got pregnant. Should we still try since we don't need to revolve our life around her? Anyone been in a similar situation? </p>