https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 21:02:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1861027 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 21:52:50 +0000 LovelyPlum 1861027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, all the time, but she has no hair! It mostly doesn't bother me, but I do sometimes wonder why "he" is the default pronoun that a lot of people use for her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860889 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 18:20:01 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1860889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone the other day just asked if LO is a boy or girl - and he's 2.5! I thought it was pretty obvious by now... it irks me a little but eh what can you do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860886 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 18:17:40 +0000 Charm54 1860886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it doesn't bother me. This is my favourite convo with one of my grandmother's friends:</p> <p>Old lady: what a handsome fella! What's his name?<br /> Me: thank you! Her name is Charlotte<br /> Old lady: Well isn't he the cutest. How old is he?<br /> Me: She's 9 months<br /> Old lady: He's growing so fast! Is he eating well?</p> <p>Etc etc LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860872 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 18:09:16 +0000 Astro Bee 1860872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Night Cheese: It really bothers me too that people assume gender based on clothing colour. But more than that, that there is so much pink/purple/frilly clothing out there for girls. Don't get me wrong, I like pink - on occasion! - and have some pink in my closet. But my entire closet doesn't consist of one or two colours. When I was a baby, my mom dressed me in many colours, including blue and red and green. I got mistaken for a boy, but had no hair at all for a long time, and it bothered my mom. I plan to dress my LO in all colours, too. I know he/she will be too little to know the difference, but when they're older I want them to know that what colour they wear or how they dress doesn't define them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860804 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 16:31:44 +0000 spaniellove 1860804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@night cheese: haha no I still have it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860783 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 16:06:50 +0000 Lindsay05 1860783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes it happens. Even when they have a pink clip in their hair. But just looking at a small child, it's so hard to tell even for myself, their mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860780 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 16:00:14 +0000 tororojo 1860780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't happen anymore, but it did when she was a baby w/shorter hair. The only time it bothered me is when she was CLEARLY dressed like a girl, wearing pink/flowers/cupcakes/etc. Because seriously, why would you even think that was a boy and if in doubt, why not just say "hey, cute kid!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860778 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 15:57:55 +0000 MrsB2012 1860778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's happened 2-3 times. Every time she's been wearing a dress with a headband or bow. She looks pretty girly in general haha. It's been old people each time haha. It doesn't bother me, I think it's kinda funny especially considering how she was dressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860772 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 15:50:20 +0000 night cheese 1860772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: Did you donate it to Goodwill? Because my mom got it for me at a Goodwill and you live in the next town from me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860489 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 13:32:14 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1860489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've only gotten the wrong gender once, by a salesgirl that kept bringing me robot and dinosaur prints even after I asked for girl pajamas while holding my long hair, pigtailed daughter. </p> <p>Doesn't bother me. Maybe it would if it were more common. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860477 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 13:27:20 +0000 Mamasig 1860477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never, but both of my boys look very much like boys. And I dress them in totally boy clothes - nothing remotely girly at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860452 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 13:15:36 +0000 anandam 1860452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, DS is 16 weeks and has some pink outfits that really confuse people. Like, some act as if we're abusive or something for putting a boy in pink. Babies look gender neutral, I get that. But the stereotypes and assumptions bother me, like you said.</p> <p>Eta: not that it matters really, but we don't put him in dresses or ruffles or bows, we just use the pink onesies that came in multipacks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860346 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:14:04 +0000 Grace 1860346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, she gets called a boy all the time and still at 1 year old. Even if she's wearing a dress, people say "oh he's so cute!". Doesn't bother me, I reply with "yes, she is". And then they get all embarrased as if they've made the biggest faux pas in the world. It's kinda funny, actually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860330 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:07:40 +0000 avivoca 1860330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It happens a fair bit. The most annoying one was when we were on vacation and my friend was holding H. The cashier said that her little boy was cute, and I said, actually, she's a girl. The woman looked at me and asked why she was wearing blue. Uh, because her daddy bought this shirt and was bursting with pride that she fit in it and liked it? Whatevs. She has a lot of blue clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860305 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:02:46 +0000 immabeetoo 1860305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time no matter what he is wearing or not wearing. I don't care at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860304 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:02:34 +0000 Pepper 1860304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A good bit. He's little and has a ton of hair! It doesn't bother me. I think it's odd when he's in a shirt that says dude, and someone says she's so cute, (this happened awhile ago), but whatever! People don't pay attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860303 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:02:32 +0000 namaste 1860303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: lol very true </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you/page/2#post-1860300 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 12:01:50 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1860300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he gets mistaken for a girl quite often, especially when he's due for a haircut. I posted this on here before, but there was a woman at a party that we were at mistake him for a girl. When my husband politely corrected her, she told him that DS shouldn't be wearing yellow if he's a boy. Umm...ok crazy lady!</p> <p>It doesn't bother me. He has super curly hair, especially when it's long, so I know that people commonly associate that with being a girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860289 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:57:14 +0000 Mae 1860289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep all the time! She's little and no hair (and I rarely put bows on her in everyday life). And her carseat is teal (and my sling for her is blue). Doesn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860274 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:51:03 +0000 Glitter 1860274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People always think Gio is a girl, even though most times he's dressed in blue and never, ever in pink . On Tuesday three people commented on my "daughter". It bothers me a little, but whatever... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860236 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:38:10 +0000 mamimami 1860236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are not all that observant. Also, many people are idiots. So.</p> <p>Doesn't bother me when they get confused. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860222 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:32:58 +0000 catomd00 1860222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is only 7 months, so some people have definitely mistaken her for a boy before. Not often, but it doesn't bother me and I don't correct strangers who will never see her again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860216 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:30:20 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1860216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Chloe was mistaken for a boy twice. I wasn't offended, but I did think "how stupid are you?"</p> <p>The first time we were at Starbucks. She was in a purple and gold plaid shirt &amp; I had a purple now in her hair. A barista asked us how old our son is. Face palm. </p> <p>The second time we were walking around our neighborhood. She was dressed head to toe in pink &amp; I had a leopard print blanket on her lap. Someone asked me "what's your sons name? Why is he dressed in all pink?!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860213 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:29:15 +0000 jedeve 1860213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't find out the sex and so must of our stuff was green or yellow. We had a boy, and people would assume girl all the time! To make matters worse, his name sounds gender neutral too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860175 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:15:20 +0000 Amelieisme 1860175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD would be in pink and people would still call her a boy because her carrier was orange (used with older DS), I think? Didn't bother me too much though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860157 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:09:19 +0000 AmandaB8 1860157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD gets mistaken for a boy bc she has no hair.</p> <p>Sorry, I didn't realize 8 month old were supposed to have that much hair. And I rarely put bows on her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860151 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:08:18 +0000 blackbird 1860151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. Children have unidentifiable features. I don't care at all, though. E wears dresses and pigtails now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860134 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 10:59:39 +0000 coopsmama 1860134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time. Once DS was wearing all blue and was confused for a girl. My DD (8 weeks) has tons of hair and always has a headband or clip in -- and she was confused as a boy just the other day! I think people don't look that closely and say the first thing that comes to mind. </p> <p>I'm not bothered by it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860113 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 10:52:00 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1860113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No babies for me yet, but I usually pull the "Your baby is so cute! How old is your baby?" I sound repetitive, but I don't like assuming. In general, I wish we had commonly used gender neutral pronouns - especially as gender is becoming more and more fluid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-mistake-your-children-for-the-opposite-sex-and-if-so-does-it-bother-you#post-1860103 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 10:44:59 +0000 .twist. 1860103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: aaaw. so cute. </p>