https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 23 Jun 2026 06:58:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-843961 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 06:31:32 +0000 GrapeCrush 843961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>people were constantly asking when we were going to try for #2, almost immediately after DS was born. most would say 'don't wait too long!!' or 'the closer in age, the better!' THEN when I got pregnant with #2 when DS was 6 months old(surprise!) I got the 'OMG! was that on purpose! wow, you guys are going to have your hands full!!!!' make up your minds people!!!! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-843479 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 18:58:51 +0000 immabeetoo 843479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: that is so obnoxious! I guess I've just been lucky not to hear anyone say this to us. Those stereotypes couldn't be further from the truth for my siblings... I was definitely the spoiled one though so I can't run from that :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-843464 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 18:42:03 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 843464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: my mom has 3 (biological, she later remarried and got 3 more). People always asked us, "OK-who is the jealous one? the spoiled one?" Because there are three...so you've got the oldest (favorite, independent ) middle (jealous, middle child) and youngest (spoiled). People said it ALL THE TIME. Ugh... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842872 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 10:06:16 +0000 sorrycharlie 842872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh...yeah. i have someone keep telling me it's time for a second! LO is only 8 months. I just nod and smile and say, eventually.. but really, I want to ask if they are funding this 2nd baby!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842823 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 09:32:19 +0000 immabeetoo 842823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: whattt I'm a third and have never heard or felt that!</p> <p>@Smurfette: ha I think the same thing. We didn't even tell our parents until we got pregnant last time and will probably do the same again </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842809 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 09:16:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 842809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not this but people try to tell me how many kids to have! We're fairly sure we want three (I'm open to just two if next one is a girl) and everyone tells me three is the worst number of kids to have!! It's insane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842795 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 08:50:44 +0000 Smurfette 842795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People have asked me when we are going to try for #2. Um, once I forget about the horrible newborn moments. I really want to say I didn't tell you when we're trying for R so what makes you think I am I am going to tell you this next time!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842793 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 08:47:35 +0000 BananaPancakes 842793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All.the.time. And the general consensus is that the closer they are the better. But we have absolutely no plans on having another any time soon, and people can't get over it. They also can't get over it when we say we might be done with one. I don't know why people care so much. I don't even care as much as strangers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842781 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 08:20:18 +0000 Arden 842781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! After Vi's difficult birth we decided to wait 3-4 years for #2. A few people have already (!) started asking when we plan to start trying for #2 and when we say "maybe in three years" they flip out!<br /> Seriously, why do people care so much about other people's family planning?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842780 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 08:18:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 842780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, people have an opinion about child spacing and when we should start having kids.</p> <p>There's something about being 30 and being married that makes people think babies are close to mind (they are), but not really open for discussion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842779 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 08:16:41 +0000 Bookish 842779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: I hate that people think they have the right to comment on my family plans! I can't believe how many people tell me "you can't have just one!" Or "you have to have another!" Ugh. I don't have to do anything, people!! Mind yer beeswax... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842775 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 08:07:00 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 842775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone keeps asking when we'll have #2 because #1 is "getting too old to enjoy a sibling" ..... Really?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842757 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 07:43:34 +0000 anbanan15 842757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've heard comments on both ends of the spectrum...need to have them close/soon, need to wait so many years between.</p> <p>My mom was the worst! She has pretty strong feelings that you need to wait at least 2 years between having a baby and getting pregnant for your body. Anytime I would meantion a friend was TTC again she would go off on a tangent about how they need to wait 2 years between. I ended up getting a BFP ~2 mo before DS turned 2. Luckily it was close enough that she has laid off those comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842739 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 07:26:56 +0000 heffalump 842739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh oh, mine will be more then two years apart! I did that on purpose though- I get severe migraines and I can't take my normal meds while pregnant so having to take care of LO while she's tiny and I have migraines isn't easy! It's still not easy now that she's a little older, but at least she is old enough to sit through a tv show if needed. </p> <p>Nobody told me WHEN to have another, but they did ask me when. And I would just tell them the truth, that we needed LO to grow up a little bit first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842663 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 03:17:04 +0000 Sweet T 842663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Once J turned one, everyone and their mama came out of the woodwork to tell me I needed to have my kids close together. I was pretty set on waiting (4-5 year age difference) and people's mouths would fall open when they heard that. Turns out my kids will be about 26 months apart BUT STILL! People are so nosey! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842646 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 01:33:32 +0000 Sapphiresun 842646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't even made it through THIS pregnancy, and people are inquiring about how soon we'll give it a sibling, and the sooner the better seems to be general consensus. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842586 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:54:30 +0000 Grace 842586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha! Yes! Usually it's not to have them too close together, except for my mom, who after I said that we'd shoot for 2 years apart, said "well at most" (seemed so horrified that they'd be a whole 2 years apart). Weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842580 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 23:49:39 +0000 autumnlove 842580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: I hear comments about how I should get crackin now for baby #3 because I'm getting up there in age! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842558 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:57:20 +0000 Lindsay05 842558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As women in our fertile years, we will never do anything how we are 'supposed' to. Babies too soon. Waiting too long. Not getting KU on your honeymoon. Not washing floors right. Like WTF? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842553 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:49:16 +0000 doodlepoodle 842553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Why do people think they have a right to tell you what you should and shouldn't do!? Gah. Drives me banana sandwich. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842551 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:47:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 842551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: they tell me the opposite:( </p> <p>It's sad because we will be TTC this summer. They're like "you don't want 2. Trust me. Just wait! Not fun..."<br /> Um, really? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-people-tell-you-what-age-differences-you-should-have#post-842534 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:29:13 +0000 doodlepoodle 842534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't even tell you how many people have told me "Well you HAVE to start trying soon, you don't want your kids too far apart!" </p> <p>How in the hell do they have the right to tell me when I should get knocked up?! :P If they want to help our budge out then fine, go for it, but turns out we're being intelligent by not having another one right now...because of our life situation...helllOOOooooOOOoo....I'm not going to jump on the wagon just because our kids "need to be less than 2 years apart". Sorry, nope. Not a good enough reason. </p>