https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 12:05:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-137167 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 13:16:27 +0000 banana 137167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purpletulips: You should totally cash in on those! I totally do! haha. For us, we just realized that nothing will ever be "fair" or "even steven" as he likes to put it. As much we'd like it to be, somebody has to give in, which is hard considering we're both so stubborn. hehe. But it's an ongoing process for us too. And that's how it should be...an ongoing process so that you're always trying to make things better. The second somebody gives in or stops trying, that's when the problems could begin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-137155 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 13:12:44 +0000 purrpletulips 137155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: It is an ongoing process. Mostly I remind him of all the time he takes away from the family and that I don't ask for nearly that much which quiets him for awhile. The other thing we've done is for every evening he is away, I get an evening away even if I don't have any specific plans (although I rarely cash in on these). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-137051 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 12:18:41 +0000 MsLipGloss 137051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ArtBee: lol! and *augh* @ the toilet seat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-137050 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 12:18:36 +0000 banana 137050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purpletulips: Ugh, I'd be mad about the second item on your list. My husband and I talk about being "fair" to each other but sometimes we don't necessarily see eye to eye. How have you worked through it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-137049 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 12:18:02 +0000 MsLipGloss 137049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. He likes to sass me about not answering my phone or not responding to a text quickly enough. But he responds on his own timetable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-136971 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 11:48:58 +0000 purrpletulips 136971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, there sure are:<br /> -he refuses to do laundry but expects me to help mow the grass</p> <p>-he has several activities that he does during the weekday evenings yet my 1 or 2 activities a month are met with griping and whining from him</p> <p>-he can leave a light on when he leaves the room but if I do he insists I turn it off immediately </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-135214 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 11:15:21 +0000 yoursilverlining 135214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have rules or double standards for each other. I cannot imagine if my husband told me I wasn't allowed to do something lol that makes me laugh just trying to imagine it. It would only happen once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-135156 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 10:43:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 135156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: Totally agree, we run it by each other out of respect for the other person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-135093 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 10:07:24 +0000 Alivoo01 135093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: We're the same way. We know each other well enough that we know what's okay and not, but always, always, always, run it by each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134245 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:30:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 134245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh that would not fly in our house. We both have free rein, we run things by each other but I would never "ask" permission to do anything. He sometimes ask if it's okay to do stuff, if he knows that it's with people I don't necessarily like him hanging around (some bad apple friends) but we are at a place in our relationship that we know what is okay and not okay with the other person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134238 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:24:19 +0000 heffalump 134238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hes allowed to make mistakes but I'm not. He'll never admit that he makes a mistake though. He says that I left the toilet seat up. Obviously that's just not true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134136 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:18:28 +0000 banana 134136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lozza: SCOOORE! I hate emptying that thing out. Makes me gag every time. I blame it on the pregnancy hormones. hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134127 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:15:01 +0000 Lozza 134127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Haha, I have also never emptied the diaper genie! Score for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134076 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:55:53 +0000 Crisark 134076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, if he can go out and stay out til he's ready to come home the same applies to me.<br /> We also share the household responsibilities and "take turns" doing things like the dishes and stuff.<br /> Our biggest saying is "We are a team". May seem corny but with that we always reel ourselves in and focus on the both of us as equal partners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134067 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:50:36 +0000 banana 134067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lozza: Oh yeah, I forgot about chores. There are definitely man chores (like taking out the trash, which I never do) but I don't necessarily have any chores that are dedicated just to me. He does dishes, laundry, ironing, etc. But I won't take out the trash or empty out the diaper genie (ew). lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134061 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:48:35 +0000 Lozza 134061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Yeah, the only thing that comes to my mind is the fact that there are definitely some "boy" chores that he always does, whereas I don't think there are any chores that only I do. And DH will also do stuff like pick me up from the metro or at an event, while I'll let him walk home. Pretty much all our double standards work in my favor :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-134002 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:28:23 +0000 Adira 134002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I would LIKE if he checked the oil in my car and stuff, but he won't do it (he'll only "teach" me how to do it - no thanks!). But I guess I'd prefer the equality to him thinking I can't do things just because I'm a woman. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-133987 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:23:59 +0000 chopsuey 133987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>none that i can think of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-133983 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:22:58 +0000 MamaMoose 133983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess a little bit... but they are always to my benefit : ) There are certain things around the house that hubs just doesn't like me to do (mow the lawn for example)... but he will help me with anything I ask him to (vaccuuming, laundry, etc). As far as staying out late I do whatever I want... but if I was out really late with a bunch of girls he would prefer to come pick me up then have me take a cab home alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-133974 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:19:49 +0000 Mrs. Bee 133974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope. if anything i stay out later than mr. bee. :) </p> <p>haven't really gone out since olive came along, but i did go out (and stay out late) regularly when we had charlie, while mr. bee stayed home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-any-double-standards#post-133967 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 12:16:51 +0000 banana 133967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband won't let me go out with my friends past midnight but he's allowed to go out til 2 or 3 in the morning on special occassions. WTH? He says it's cause he's worried about me but the same applies to him!!</p> <p>Do you and your SO have any double standards? </p>