https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 19:15:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-124303 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 10:30:28 +0000 Alivoo01 124303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Hubby is a communicator, and I bottle up. It's great that at least one of us is the talker, but I never know what to say in response for some reason. I just shut up and furrow my eyebrows in anger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-124200 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 09:44:57 +0000 LuLu Mom 124200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We we are both stubborn and it takes us awhile to move on, this makes fighting very difficult for us. We try to nip the problem in the bud before it gets to this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-124139 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 09:17:22 +0000 winniebee 124139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to try to nip it in the bud and talk talk talk about why I'm upset. DH tends to get quiet and bottle things up/retract when he is upset - he rarely gets upset with me though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-124131 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 09:12:51 +0000 mrsjyw 124131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH isn't one to argue. He doesn't get upset that often. If we argue, it's usually because I'm upset. At which point, I like to talk and he obliges. He only gets upset when I start raising my voice because I'm still caught up in my upset emotion. </p> <p>Usually, if it's a minor tiff, we just go into separate rooms and cool off and we're fine within the hour. </p> <p>If it's something major, we usually talk/argue it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-123783 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 03:24:29 +0000 mediagirl 123783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: we're the same way as you. I let it build up until I explode and he talks things out. I hate talking!! </p> <p>When we argue, he wants to talk it out and I want to go hide in the bedroom and let it pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-123743 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 01:32:00 +0000 cyneswith 123743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's weird. Sometimes he'll start fighting right away, but usually, we both sit and stew for a while. With him, it's usually figuring out whether it matters to him or not. With me, I have to figure out WHY it matters - and usually, it's my problem entirely. The rest of the time, we've had the same goal in mind, just different ideas of how to go about it. Once we figure that out, it's easier to come to a reasonable compromise. (I foresee circumcision being the next argument. He has the final say on that, but I really want him to have a better reason than "well, I am.") </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-123727 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 00:43:20 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 123727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both like to confront our issues/problems/frustrations as they happen. However, he is a yeller and I am a very calm talker. When we argue, he just gets more and more mad as my voice gets more and more quiet.</p> <p>He has no problem with moving on as SOON as a fight is over. I tend to hold grudges and act kind of sullen for a day or so after the fight. He immediately wants to hug/kiss/act like nothing happened, but I am NEVER in the mood for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-123655 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 21:47:35 +0000 cupcakemama 123655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: we are pretty much exactly the same. We have also never had an actual fight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-123097 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 12:39:56 +0000 chrispygal 123097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Haha, good point! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122965 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 10:09:07 +0000 chopsuey 122965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I like to talk things through right away. We get annoyed/pissed with one another, but have never had a real "fight." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122964 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 10:07:08 +0000 dc yoga bee 122964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am much more blunt, whereas hubby is sooo laid back to a fault almost. I won't know something is bothering him until oh I don't know-weeks later! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122934 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 09:05:48 +0000 Andrea 122934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like to talk about things and DH likes to bottle things up but he doesn't explode or anything. He has almost no temper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122931 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 09:05:19 +0000 mrbee 122931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chrispygal: I think most people are pretty rational! It's just that the logic underlying their reaction may not be clear to anyone else besides them hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122921 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 08:57:51 +0000 chrispygal 122921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to be more "immediate" in my reaction to situations and will complain or make my view known right away. DH is very laid back and not much bothers him. Every once in a while though, he'll hit his breaking point and get really po'd about something silly, and then have what I deem as an irrational reaction. He's actually having one right now. lol. He just slammed the bedroom door and doesn't want to be near me right now. We disagree on how the nursery should be set up and for whatever reason, it sent him over the edge today. Sadly, he doesn't get over these moods easily either. He'll hold a grudge for most of the day. *sigh* I guess there is always a price to pay for someone who is easy going 99% of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122909 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 08:50:57 +0000 mrbee 122909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I'm like your husband in that regard! If I'm really upset though, sometimes I will wait a while until I've had a chance to process things so I can articulate my feelings better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-fighting-style#post-122907 Sun, 15 Apr 2012 08:49:33 +0000 heffalump 122907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my husband is upset with something, he talks about it right away. When I'm upset, I let it go and it builds up and builds up and then I explode. Hopefully one day his approach will rub off on me. </p> <p>For the actual fight we have a pretty similar style though. We're pretty good at talking about it calmly. If someone raises their voice, the other points it out and we go back to calm. I hate yelling! </p>