https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 00:39:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-54525 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 11:59:02 +0000 LazyLightning 54525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We share Mr &amp; Mrs' Bee's philosophy: we prefer a housekeeper to do it for us.</p> <p>Otherwise I think we differ a little. I prefer that everything be organized and put away all the time; Mr. N isn't quite so anal about it. We both do like a clean home though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52324 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 22:24:59 +0000 Nskillet 52324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are both let it build up and then clean it cleaners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52317 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 22:00:15 +0000 eudyptula 52317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is a complete disaster when it comes to cleaning. He does try to clean to my "standards", which is totally adorable, although i usually have to clean things a little more thoroughly after he finishes, ha!</p> <p>i do wonder what will happen with the messiness once we have a baby, especially a crawling one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52095 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:14:37 +0000 skibobrown 52095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have pretty similar cleaning philosophies, although DH is more meticulous than I am whereas I'm happy to get a lot of cleaning done in a little time even if it doesn't come out 100% spotless. We're both pretty bad about keeping the house clean during the week since there's no time, but we both tend to have just about the same threshold for mess. If it gets beyond a certain point we both start cleaning like mad. Unfortunately, we both hate doing dishes, so those tend to get neglected. I don't think I've ever seen DH clean the bathroom, so that always becomes my chore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52078 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 13:53:06 +0000 daniellemybelle 52078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, no. I am messy and lazy, DH is not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52040 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 13:02:42 +0000 Modern Daisy 52040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, yes. My DH has ADHD and cannot stand anything that is out of place to the extent that he is totally unable to be at home or even leave the house until everything is put away. I've never used to mind a mess until we moved in together and now I definitley prefer things to be neat, but still not to the extent of DH. As far as being clean, DH never used to even notice if something was dirty, but after I got him helping out with the cleaning now he's much more into keeping things clean in addition to being neat. He never argues with me when I say it's time to clean so I can't complain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52036 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 12:57:58 +0000 MrsLMA 52036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH makes fun of me because I am way OCD about cleanliness (ie bleahing countertops 2x/day). His philosophy is if it doesn't "look" dirty, then it's not.</p> <p>Needless to say, I do all the cleaning because it drives me mad:) The one exception- I make him clean the toilet at least once a week. I don't pee on the seat, so I shouldn't have to clean it up:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52033 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 12:54:03 +0000 Rubies 52033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cannot tolerate a mess. The hubs doesn't notice any mess whatsoever. It's so annoying! The floor of the hubs' side of the bed is nicknamed his secondary closet - on any given day he'll have 3 pairs of jeans, 2 sweaters and socks in a giant heap by his side of the bed. UGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-52028 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 12:48:57 +0000 Rescuemom10 52028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I def do more cleaning! Before we moved in together he lived with a bunch of guys in a house and HE was the clean one in his house and was pretty good about it. I think he cleans less now with me because he knows I will do it! -Grrrrrr! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51933 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 11:21:41 +0000 mrsjyw 51933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is the germ freak; I'm the organization freak. I also do a daily job of trying to keep things tidy and clean; while, DH is very good at the big, deep cleaning jobs we do every month or so... I work from home once a week - so I try to make that my laundry/tidyup day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51928 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 11:15:03 +0000 cyneswith 51928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mop or vacuum much (the vacuum can't keep up with the hair even if I vacuum twice a week), and neither of us fold clothes and we rarely put them away. BUT. I like things to be mostly in their place, bathroom is presently disgusting to me (I spray it down and use paper towels every week, but the shower needs to be scoured again), litter box needs daily cleaning (he likes having two and then cleaning them out once a week - GROSS), I need the kitchen to be relatively clean when I cook, which I do almost every day (often more than once a day)... It boils down to we both have the same tolerance for mess, but he doesn't see or smell or react to dirt, even to the biohazard stage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51912 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 10:58:00 +0000 prettylizy 51912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a theory that there is boy dirt and girl dirt. He will tidy things up by making piles and putting them in corners (think magazines and receipts and mail on the corner of the kitchen counter) but won't see things like dust that has built up along the baseboards. He'll also wash enough dishes to that the sink isn't overflowing, but leave half of them in there. As if doing a few makes it look better so that's good enough. We're working on him being more proactive, and me being less of a nag about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51911 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 10:57:14 +0000 tequiero21 51911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no, that's why we had major problems in the beginning. much better now that we have a cleaner. but i'm trying to pick up after him a lot more now to keep the place somewhat tidy after the lady cleans up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51902 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 10:49:09 +0000 yin 51902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband says that the major difference between us is our tolerance level. While I may not be a neat freak, I don't like the house to be super messy. My husband has a very low tolerance level and can go weeks without cleaning up if he had a choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51877 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 10:33:18 +0000 winniebee 51877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: LOL, ditto!</p> <p>My husband is kind of a slob (leaves his crap everywhere). I prefer a tidy house, but don't have time to keep up. I clean 10x as much as he does. We also have a cleaning person that comes every other week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51867 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 10:17:15 +0000 mamabolt 51867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's unable to see most messes. Like he'll cook on the stove splattering oil everywhere and not realize he needs to wipe up the cooktop afterwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51846 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 09:54:24 +0000 heffalump 51846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's cleaner then I am. I often get told that I left "crumbies." We currently have a cleaning lady so I really don't have to worry about much cleaning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51674 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 00:03:08 +0000 cyndistar3 51674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While we both like a clean house I am the one that cleans up after his messes most of the time haha... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51660 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:52:34 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 51660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband can tolerate a mess longer than I can so I do most of the cleaning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51634 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:00:07 +0000 Sha 51634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>he's way more into keeping the house clean than i am. this used to cause a lot of arguments so now we have get a cleaning service once a month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51592 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:29:50 +0000 msmug 51592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg no!! We both hate mess but where we differ is that I dont mind clutter but I can't stand dirty. Hubs hates clutter but doesn't mind dirty. Gag </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51588 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:27:00 +0000 SAHM0811 51588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i could've written your post (except my DH doesn't really cook)! we are complete opposites, but i've learned to accept it. having a housekeeper helps too, but day-to-day, i could go mad with how he leaves things around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51572 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:14:51 +0000 chopsuey 51572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both like to keep the house clean.. DH likes to throw his clothes on the floor though. SO ANNOYING. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51566 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:11:55 +0000 yoursilverlining 51566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is way neater than I am and he views that as "his problem" - so that's why he does the majority of the cleaning :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51545 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:59:13 +0000 Boogs 51545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully, yes! Luckily he is pretty good about cleaning up after himself, most days anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51541 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:58:06 +0000 mrbee 51541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we have the same philosophy on cleaning. We prefer it when a housecleaner does it!</p> <p>Overall though, Mrs. Bee does way more cleaning than me... I am working to catch up. Sometimes around 2050, we will be about even! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-and-your-so-have-the-same-philosophy-on-cleaning#post-51537 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:56:17 +0000 eudyptula 51537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>love DH to pieces but good grief, the man can make a mess! i have a hard time going into the kitchen after he cooks without getting really frustrated! and don't even get me started on the bathroom! ha!</p> <p>do you and your SO see eye to eye on cleanliness in your house? </p>