https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 11 Jun 2026 12:07:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-10755 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 12:34:21 +0000 Maysprout 10755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think holding is good for newborns so to me its like asking will nutritious food spoil a kid. I think babies do like it but already my 5-1/2 month old is exploring more on her own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-10124 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 16:13:47 +0000 Boogs 10124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. For the first couple of months our LO was held A LOT because he had so many visitors on a daily basis. If anything, it made him hate being held because now he just likes his space and only likes to be held for feedings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-10112 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 16:05:15 +0000 yin 10112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I first heard that you can't spoil a newborn, I was so excited to be able to give my LO lots of cuddles without any repercussion. Now that he is older, I do believe that you can spoil a baby early on. I think babies are smarter than we think. Of course I still love to spoil him, but I do it sparingly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-10106 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 15:49:10 +0000 HabesBabe 10106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think once the baby starts looking cute (and less like an alien), that's when you can definitely spoil them by holding too much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-10099 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 15:20:57 +0000 Rubies 10099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not when they're a newborn. My mom says that after LO's 100th day (or, roughly 3 months), then I should hold her less, let her cry a little more and sort of let them work things out on their own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-10042 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 13:28:06 +0000 Andrea 10042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I think you can. Not when they are a newborn but later on. However, I think some kids are naturally clingier than others. I tried not to hold my daughter unless she needed me while feeding, comfort, etc, but she is still on the clingy side at 18 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-9995 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 12:28:09 +0000 chopsuey 9995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I held my baby all the time when she was a newborn. I hold her whenever I can now that she's older (7 months). She's definitely not spoiled. She plays by herself really well. :)<br /> Sometimes I feel like she'd rather play with her toys than be held by me. -.- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-9983 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 12:05:51 +0000 Killer b 9983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so, but it's not like I have any experience to pull from. I like to keep Charlie close to me, either leaning back against my chest or laying on my lap. I feel like I'm neglecting her if she's chillin' on her play gym alone while I do other things. I know that's not really valid, but it's so hard not to hold her! But we don't cosleep at night, she's either in her crib or swing, so I think it's a good balance of bonding time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-9967 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 11:20:58 +0000 reggie 9967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a postpartum doula when Eli was first born. She held him constantly. By 4 - 5 weeks, he would not sleep unless someone was holding him! We asked her to leave early because I was afraid that was going to be a habit that we cannot get rid of. It took us a week to change that and a lot of crying from Eli! Slowly he got better and now at 12 weeks, we can just swaddle him, turn on the white noise, and place him in his crib. He plays with himself for a few minutes and dozes off. I think you can spoil a newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-9913 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 09:16:55 +0000 MH.Abroad 9913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it can spoil them. An infant can't really understand what's happening enough to feel demanding - it just asks for what is natural to them. I plan to hold my babies as much as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-1533 Wed, 28 Sep 2011 22:35:43 +0000 Honeybee 1533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't want to put my daughter down when she was a newborn; I held her constantly, and if I wasn't holding her, someone else was for at least the first... 3 months of her life. Even after the newborn stage, I held her a lot. She's a very independent toddler now, though, so I don't think it spoiled her at all.</p> <p>More likely, I think some kids are naturally clingy and some kids are naturally independent. Although it's easy to say parenting is the reason behind these personality differences, I think biology plays a bigger role than we often admit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-1390 Wed, 28 Sep 2011 11:06:44 +0000 MamaDreams 1390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you can spoil them by holding them too much in the first two or three months. After that, they do begin to develop habits. That being said, I think you'd have to hold them A LOT in order to spoil them. But if you have a normal schedule, and then the baby spends a Saturday being passed around to family members -- I don't think this will spoil the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-1389 Wed, 28 Sep 2011 10:41:23 +0000 TheFixIts 1389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in the first 12 weeks all bets are off. Before 3 months they're more like a fetus than a baby and need extra attention, support, care and comfort. The bonds of attachment are also at their earliest phase, and your baby having the sense that you will be there for them is an important foundation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-1388 Wed, 28 Sep 2011 10:31:08 +0000 Mama Ek 1388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i believe the newborn stage is just survival mode - if jack was fine not being held I wouldn't have held him all the time but if I put him down sleeping or awake he would lose it! so at 13 months he is still pretty clingy - i don't need to carry him but he always wants me in the same room as him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-1351 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 21:56:18 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 1351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I think for the first month they need to be held. Feel like they understand where the are (outside of the womb) but I do believe down the road too much holding will definitely affect how the child reacts. I didn't smother Mavrick and glad I didn't. Yet he loves to be cuddled ;) (on his own terms) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-believe-you-can-spoil-your-baby-by-holding-them-too-much#post-1343 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 19:13:07 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most things I've read said you can't spoil a newborn and to hold them as much as possible. But I've talked to many baby nurses who have worked with hundreds of newborns, and they all believe that you spoil a baby by holding them too much because they expect to be held all the time.</p> <p>What do you think? </p>