https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 20:56:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188501 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 14:09:32 +0000 Bookish 1188501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: aw thanks! same to you &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188470 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:59:58 +0000 Alivoo01 1188470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: AMEN SISTA!!!! </p> <p>I compare DS to the other August babies as a benchmark, but he was born super early so I just take it with a grain of salt. I haven't freaked out yet that he hasn't done xyz. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188425 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:43:07 +0000 luckypenny 1188425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! They'll all be talking, walking an potty trained by the time kindergarten rolls around :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188415 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:40:43 +0000 deerylou 1188415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get together with a group of moms about once a week, and we all have babies born within four weeks of one another. I do take notice of size, and accomplished milestones, but not in a particularly frantic way. I think it's only natural to compare and contrast a bit, especially as first time parents. </p> <p>@Bookish: DD rolls, but has zero teeth, and isn't really interested in grabbing toys, yet. But, she's a healthy, laughing, interactive goon, so I try to remind myself that she'll get there. You're doing just fine, mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188331 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:23:09 +0000 yin 1188331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's hard not to compare, even if you try your best to avoid it. At the same time I acknowledge that LO will be behind or ahead, and it's perfectly normal. He grows up at his own pace, and his individuality makes him unique. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188318 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:18:15 +0000 Bookish 1188318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah. Some of the summer babies are rolling over and have teef (!!), and have nap schedules... so yeah, there's definitely that voice in my head wondering if she's doing ok. She's a happy, healthy baby, but I wonder a lot if I'm doing enough to help her develop. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188307 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:14:16 +0000 MsLipGloss 1188307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: That's me! I assume it's all because of something I did/didn't do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188285 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:09:55 +0000 autumnlove 1188285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188270 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:08:00 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1188270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't try to, but I think a little comparison is natural... especially for first time parents. I just want to make sure that what she's doing is "normal"... </p> <p>@autumnlove: I have a girl like that in W's class. She's speaking full sentences and so clearly - always a happy kid. I can't help but think "holy cow! Is W supposed to be like that??". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188262 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:05:29 +0000 Smurfette 1188262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. I think that it is only natural. I try and not though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188258 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:05:13 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1188258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it's not worth anxiety or agony and I hate to see how doing so cripples so many parents. It's really sad. I know that kids develop differently and I'm totally okay with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188254 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:04:00 +0000 lizzywiz 1188254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I compare myself to other parents, more. Like if a toddler is doing something my LO isn't, I think, 'Oh, that mom must work on that skill and I barely get her fed and in bed after work. I need to try harder!' blah, blah, blah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188241 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 13:01:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 1188241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used too (so hard when we have 2 friends with babies within 11 or 30 days of LO) but I stopped. I would get too stressed. Yes, my daugther doesn't like to sit and read, but she loves to talk and is very verbal, she's advanced in other areas. I used to freak out about her not wanting to read, but she's an explorer right now, and I'm okay with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188235 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 12:58:59 +0000 banana 1188235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely used to, but not nearly as much anymore. I've just learned (the hard way) that every child is just so unique and develops at such different rates. I really try to put my blinders on when I see other children and try to enjoy my kids as they are. It's definitely hard at times, but I do my best. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188189 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 12:42:56 +0000 Adira 1188189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I compare Xander to all the other March 2013 babies and feel like he's woefully behind in just about everything! He's not crawling, not saying any words, barely will eat any solids! But I know that I'm lucky he's a generally good and easy baby, so I try to keep it all in perspective! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188183 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 12:39:55 +0000 Boheme 1188183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sad when I hear other people talk about their baby STTN. Or Even ST (half the) N haha! I feel like we will never get there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-compare-your-lo-with-other-peoples-kids#post-1188172 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 12:37:19 +0000 autumnlove 1188172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We try not to but there is a little girl at daycare who is 5 days older than my LO who is so advanced....she speaks in full sentences and she doesn't have a lot of tantrums! :) Her mom says she was a super difficult baby so I guess she mellowed out!</p> <p>I should schedule a play date... </p>