https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 15:48:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women/page/2#post-2364822 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 12:15:16 +0000 PawPrints 2364822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah this is always awkward for me. I sometimes say teasing type stuff, things I would have said to him. But I never know what to say when the husband-bashing gets going since my husband has been an absolute miracle from heaven ever since LO was born. I feel like anything I could contribute to the conversation would seem like bragging. I guess I wonder if women are so irritated with their husbands, wouldn't it be more productive to voice those concerns to the husbands? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women/page/2#post-2364757 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 11:30:31 +0000 ShootingStar 2364757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't really like to air my dirty laundry. In general my husband is a way better spouse than I am anyways, lol. I do have one friend who's good friends with my husband and both of our husbands are practically the same person. So sometimes we'll talk about the two them and kind of laugh at their quirks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women/page/2#post-2364748 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 11:25:23 +0000 Mommy Finger 2364748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Venting to close friends? Absolutely. Bashing? Never </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women/page/2#post-2364350 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 03:20:38 +0000 travellingbee 2364350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: why must men be so messy?? I never really complain except to my mom. Occasionally his mom. :) but he's a great husband and everyone knows I adore him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women/page/2#post-2364346 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 03:12:02 +0000 lamariniere 2364346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: hehe. Husband messiness is my number one complaint as well, especially since I'm borderline OCD. :silly: </p> <p>I may make a rare comment to a best friend, but truthfully, I don't have much to complain about! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women/page/2#post-2364339 Fri, 20 Nov 2015 02:16:17 +0000 gracecat 2364339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only to my bestest friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2364217 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 22:53:42 +0000 travelgirl1 2364217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not to groups or our families. But with close friends one-on-one, I do share if I am annoyed about something. It helps get it off my chest. I wouldn't do this for genuinely serious issues, more day-to-day gripes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2364185 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 22:18:23 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2364185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I remember as a kid when my mom had friends over and they spent much of the night bashing their husbands and even though my mother didn't participate (and I'm so glad she set that example for me), it made me uncomfortable just to hear them talking like that, and I was only around 10-12. It stuck with me, I still find it very disrespectful. </p> <p>If I have a genuine problem I need to discuss, I don't want to disrespect my husband in the process. I will find someone I trust deeply to talk to, and try to share both sides. I just really, really want him to know he has my respect, even if he upset me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2364183 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 22:14:57 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2364183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My closest friends and I will occasionally make one-off comments or the occasional vent over something boneheaded our spouse did. But we don't have spouse bashing sessions or anything like that. I would not bring up any major issues or anything like that though. That should stick within DH's and my relationship. </p> <p>We also know each other's spouses really well in our spouses are all best friends so we all understand! All the guys act so much alike sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363765 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 18:23:42 +0000 Truth Bombs 2363765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sitting around bashing him for an hour? Absolutely not. Sending a text in a group chat with my BFFs like "gggrrrr hubs is making us late for this birthday party and its making me crazy"? Sure. I really don't think it's so horrible to complain to friends every now and then to get something off your chest. I never say anything really terrible about him or air big issues (though we really don't have big issues). I also will text my friends things like "hubs just surprised me by cooking dinner and cleaning the whole kitchen with no help", so he gets his credit 😝 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363761 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 18:21:08 +0000 kitty 2363761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I can't even imagine being that inappropriate! How awkward! If my SO spoke about my private parts to others that would make me consider separation, it's such a breach of trust! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363757 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 18:17:17 +0000 Boogs 2363757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes with my sister. Usually as a sounding board to see if I'm crazy because she's not afraid to tell me if I am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363717 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 18:00:35 +0000 gingerbebe 2363717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've made a gripe or two about little silly things, but my husband has a completely hard fast rule about never speaking ill about me to anyone so I try to respect that as much as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363713 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:58:03 +0000 Cherrybee 2363713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To my close friends, yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363710 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:56:20 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2363710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one (maybe two) close friends I would talk things over with if I was really having a hard time and needed advice, but I try not to just complain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363708 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:55:38 +0000 fancyfunction 2363708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have friends that do this. I may make more of a funny comment on how he doesn't replace this or that. Nothing serious - and I'll usually tell him what I said. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363667 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:23:32 +0000 CRGmama 2363667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I think that's a great way to say it. Sometimes venting to a friend avoids an actual argument. I think that's very true for my relationship. Especially after having a child, there's not much that's worth a fight, but there's still plenty of frustration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363655 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:18:17 +0000 HLK208 2363655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only with my best friends - never to groups of women </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363652 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:17:30 +0000 Anya 2363652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only in a lighthearted way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363640 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:10:10 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2363640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>just to my online group of besties. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363637 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:09:40 +0000 autumnlove 2363637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kitty: super awkward...I hate that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363634 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:08:34 +0000 travellingbee 2363634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only to family members and only about his messiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363633 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 17:07:12 +0000 .twist. 2363633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both vent about each other to our close friends. I think that's totally natural and normal. I don't bash him, but he does frustrate me and I don't think it's healthy to bottle it up inside and honestly, there are some things that are not worth fighting over, but I can vent to a girlfriend and then forget about it and avoid a fight with DH. </p> <p>@kitty: Honestly, I don't like this either. I had a friend who used to publicly comment on her husband penis size, in a group, in front of him. He's asian, so "YOU KNOW?". Not even joking. We aren't friends any more (due to a lot of other shit, but that certainly wasn't helping her cause either). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363624 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:59:56 +0000 kitty 2363624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I agree. Tbh we don't have that much to complain about but it's almost a rule in our relationship that we don't speak ill of each other. </p> <p>What I hate is when someone criticises their partner in front of others (directly to the partner, not behind their back ). It's the worst. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363577 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:42:52 +0000 daniellemybelle 2363577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted yes because I share with a couple best friends who I go to for advice, and I vent to my very small Oct 2013 moms FB group when I just need to get something off my chest. I don't sit around talking bad about him in random groups of women, but I have been known to make a lighthearted, "Husbands, am I right?" comment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363542 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:29:53 +0000 babypugs 2363542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just jokey stuff--like, oh, men kind of things. I always make sure to bring out the positive as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363535 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:28:14 +0000 Ms. RV 2363535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only silly stuff like how he'll lose my tools and they'll show up in his pocket... just teasing stuff, nothing that actually bothers me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363534 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:28:04 +0000 CRGmama 2363534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To a group, no. But a casual complaint to my sister or a close friend, sure! My husband is a really wonderful partner and father but he certainly isn't free of faults. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363531 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:26:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2363531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I complain about stuff with friends, but certainly don't bash him. Things I share are always said in a lighthearted way and appear to be taken that way too. Any real beefs I have are kept in our house.</p> <p>ETA: honestly if I felt the need to vent about something and get feedback I'd go to my therapist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouse-with-other-women#post-2363527 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:23:18 +0000 LuLu Mom 2363527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: I agree, my best friends have all been with me before DH and have seen me at my best and worst. We all know a lot about each other's lives/marriages/ect. </p>