https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 03:32:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-132522 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 20:02:57 +0000 eeh 132522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I think it's disrespectful to my husband and to our marriage to air my complaints anywhere other than to him. I won't air them to him in public either because I would be devastated if my husband did that to me and it makes it awkward for everyone else around. We have both agreed that we will always handle our differences privately and only speak highly of each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-132426 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 17:56:01 +0000 Maysprout 132426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. We both have strengths and weaknesses in life, and our friends are aware of what they are so we don't try to hide them. But relationship stuff I don't really vent about, we don't have big issues luckily so it's best just to talk to him. Especially when we first meet people we really talk up our spouse, and def no complaining to someone of the opposite sex, people tend to flirt but after they hear hubby love they back down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-132317 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 16:23:40 +0000 mrsjyw 132317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. My gfs and I def have general vent sessions about "men and their brains." But, I would never talk smack about my husband (who is my best friend) to anyone besides him! LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131975 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:42:31 +0000 winniebee 131975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have, but rarely, to my best friend. Not in a malicious way, just expressing frustration over certain things. I do not complain about him to my family....ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131945 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:26:57 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 131945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In real life... never. I expressed one frustration here once but I learned my lesson since people didn't really care to sympathize, but instead criticized me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131939 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:23:43 +0000 lemondrop 131939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. The last thing I would want is to hurt my husband's feelings, he tries hard in everything he does, only sometimes it doesn't work out as he plans. </p> <p>I may tell a joke about something he did, but never complain about him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131932 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:22:00 +0000 MsLipGloss 131932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He really is a superstar partner, and like ChopSuey119 wrote, he is great 99.5% of the time. We work our problems out together, and we deal with family (and other problems) as a united front. Sometimes it takes a lot of patience, but it is always (more than) worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131925 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:20:27 +0000 MamaMoose 131925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At work I sit right next to a very good friend of mine (our husbands are good friends too). The two of us will complain to each other about things like "uhh hubs left the bathroom so dirty today" or something stupid like that. But I don't really think that's a big deal. I certainly wouldn't discuss any serious issues with anyone other than my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131917 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:13:14 +0000 Modern Daisy 131917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. In fact, I never even act upset or annoyed by him in public even if I am! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131913 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:11:12 +0000 Adira 131913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh definitely. I complain about Hubs to my best friend and she complains about her significant other to me. We also tell each other the GOOD stuff about our significant others too, so it all balances out. We both understand that sometimes you just need to vent and have someone be understanding and we don't hold grudges against each other's significant other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131909 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:08:22 +0000 googly-eyes 131909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only in a joking way, about things that don't really matter, and only in a I'm joking to commiserate way... In seriousness everyone knows I think the world him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131906 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:07:23 +0000 Rubies 131906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my mom about our arguments for advice - she always sides with the hubs! She loves the hubs so much that she always talks me into being more patient and loving! LOL. I NEVER say bad things about the hubs (there aren't many, anyway!) to anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-131902 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 12:05:01 +0000 BSB 131902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try hard not to do this. I don't want him to look bad. Although, when it comes to close friends or family, I do tend to vent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-4006 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:36:19 +0000 alongfarview 4006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try really hard not to do this, as 1) I would never want anyone to hold a grudge against my husband for something that I said out of frustration, and 2) generally I think frustrations I have with my husband should be brought up to him or I need to work through it on my own.</p> <p>However, that being said. I have talked in more general terms about little things that bug me to either my mom or my sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-4004 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:30:08 +0000 HabesBabe 4004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vent to my two BFFs and that's it. They vent about their hubbies, too. Just typical girl talk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3994 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:10:22 +0000 PitBulLover 3994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. If I have a problem with my husband, I tell it to my husband and work it out with him. I've actually never been one to talk to others about stuff going on in my relationships, because I don't think it's anyone else's business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3974 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 13:45:16 +0000 Adira 3974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a best friend who I vent to and who vents to me. We're both very good about not holding grudges against our friend's significant other. For us, we're so social, we have to have someone to talk to about things. Venting is a way for us to get past issues that tend to not be very big and that if we hold in, would just explode into something it's not.</p> <p>I NEVER complain to my parents though - they are major grudge-holders and I don't want to give them any fuel to not like my husband.</p> <p>And for the serious issues, my husband and I work out together - but those are usually pretty calm, deep conversations, so not really something that needs to be vented about. My vents are usually about him leaving his dirty laundry lying around or being moody for no reason - nothing that really matters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3945 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 13:11:27 +0000 filly 3945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vent to two people: my dad and my bestie. Thats it. My venting is usually bc I want to know how to work with it and/or bc I need to see the larger picture!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3862 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 09:37:02 +0000 katdevargas 3862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 1 really good gf whose husband is JUST LIKE MINE - they were separated at birth, I swear. And the things that annoy me also annoy her, so we will laugh about them together - it's more an "oh, men!" thing than a for real complaining, though.</p> <p>I do not straight up for real complain about him to anyone, no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3852 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 09:26:10 +0000 geekinheels 3852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only to my dearest and closest friends (including my mom), who I trust never to talk about it again, not blow it out of proportion, and understand that sometimes I just need to vent! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3847 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 09:20:52 +0000 mrsjyw 3847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My besties and I vent to each other, but I think it's a general consensus of "men" things that get under our skin sometimes. We are all with/married to great men, but they do have their weak moments and all of us need "girl" time to keep our sanity alive sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3721 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 21:21:47 +0000 leelee 3721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to say anything negative about SO to others. I crack sometimes and tell my best friend but she understands and never uses it against me later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3695 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:56:03 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 3695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nooo never... but he is awesome (most of the time)! it may also be my personality too... i'm very private and don't vent a lot of things to anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3690 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:51:42 +0000 tequiero21 3690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>although i have lots of complaints about my husband and i know he has a lot about me, we'd never discuss it with anyone else. just the way we handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3688 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:49:50 +0000 tessabella76 3688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really try hard not to complain to anyone about my husband-especially in regards to any serious issues (which are few and far between anyway). And I try to keep a lid on complaining about the petty stuff too. Keeping our relationship/marriage sacred is very important to us. Of course, like Mr. Bee, my SO is wonderful so there is rarely anything to complain about!</p> <p>One of my biggest pet peeves is when people use facebook to complain about their SO. That is not the place to air your dirty laundry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3654 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:18:59 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 3654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>egh.... ya. this is one area we need serious work on. It's definitely improved but the hubs is a general complainer. so ya. not fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3633 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:09:14 +0000 PBandBaseball 3633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try really hard not to say anything negative about the hubs. I have one friend who is an unsolicited advice giver and the one time I mentioned something to her about him she took it the wrong way (I didn't think it was a negative at all). I had to listen to her opinion for 30 minutes and then she made a snarky comment to him. It's better to just keep that stuff between the two of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3631 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:08:35 +0000 chopsuey 3631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never complain about my SO and only speak highly of him to others. I don't want my family/friends to think poorly of him.. especially since he's SO GREAT 99.4% of the time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-complain-about-your-spouseso-to-others#post-3624 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:04:20 +0000 mrbee 3624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work really hard not to say anything negative about my SO to others. Of course that's easy for me, because Mrs. Bee is awesome!!!!1</p> <p>:-)</p> <p>There's also a real danger to saying negative things about your partner: we've all vented about an SO to a friend and then had the friend end up hating your SO even after you've reconciled your feelings. It's a dangerous game to play, and so it's often just safer never to say anything.</p> <p>Do you complain about your SO to others? Ever had it blow up on you... curious how you dealt with it! </p>