https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 01:16:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2277657 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:58:39 +0000 californiadreams 2277657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: makes perfect sense, i am the same!</p> <p>My problem is i take my alone time at night after everyone is sleeping, but then i get less sleep as a result! something i really need to work on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2277632 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:40:00 +0000 bushelandapeck 2277632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I need about the same, but I never get it (unless at work or commuting) so I feel like I need it, and appreciate it, more. I never really considered myself an introvert but, compared to my DH, I definitely am! He needs people around all the time and I find it extremely draining. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2277620 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:29:12 +0000 snowjewelz 2277620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More for sure! I am def an introvert. Being with LO equals to having to be "on" all the time. So while I love being with LO, I def feel more need to be alone. So I love alone time driving to/from work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2277039 Sun, 30 Aug 2015 14:53:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 2277039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I desire about the same amount of time alone, but I just get way less than I used to, so I am left craving it more. Does that make sense? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276873 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 23:21:14 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2276873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Introvert here! I love my alone time. My husband is at a football game and my baby is sleeping and I am loving the quite time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276685 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 13:23:02 +0000 ElbieKay 2276685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel kind of desperate without an hour or two of alone time on a regular basis (several times per week). I don't always get it. This is definitely the worst part of parenting for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276649 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 12:20:55 +0000 blackbird 2276649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I spend all day at work in a cubicle with minimal human interaction, so I stray towards less now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276636 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 11:56:35 +0000 HLK208 2276636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More! I really look forward to me time at night when my husband is working </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276584 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 10:08:43 +0000 TrailRunner 2276584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseDMB: I could have written that very same thing about my MIL. She's such a sweet lady...just overkill. Most of the people she talks about I don't even know! She also gets her feelings hurt really easily so I am already prepping myself for the phone calls we will get from DH's aunts saying that we upset his mom by not letting her basically move in after baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276552 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 08:52:35 +0000 gentlelunette 2276552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More!!! I miss my alone time so much. I'm an introvert at heart and I used to love just snuggling up on the couch for a couple hours by myself and just being ALONE. Now that I have a baby, I wish so badly I could get that time back, but I also worry about her and miss her when I'm by myself. I think more than anything if prefer a "life pause" option, where the world around me just stops for a little bit while I relax, regroup, and sleep. How do I get one of those?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276541 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 08:30:11 +0000 wonderstruck 2276541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More!! It was way worse when I was a SAHM, now I'm commuting to school and its 45 minutes alone each one, so that helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276214 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 18:09:43 +0000 NurseDMB 2276214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TrailRunner: Our MILs sound similar! She was hurt when I didn't ask her to help out more when my son was born, and I had my mom come over a lot instead (I had a csection) but seriously, having my mom over is completely different because I don't have to entertain her all the time and I can just be myself. With my MIL, it's constanttttt talking (especially about herself) and after an hour of it I just can't take it anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276210 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 18:06:35 +0000 NurseDMB 2276210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I agree, it's definitely an introvert thing! I'm not an only child and I'm this way, but I've always been more introverted. DH and his family are extroverts and it drives me bonkers. Every time they come over to visit they stay for so long and I seriously feel like I just need to get away and go to a different room for a half hour just to get a break. Sounds horrible to say that (and I obviously don't do it) but there comes a point after too much social interaction that I just want to be by myself and watch tv, read, play on my phone, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276179 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 16:46:44 +0000 PawPrints 2276179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Less, since I'm still on leave and so I'm alone for all the time that she's napping during the day, which is 4-5 hours. I feel like I spend a lot of time alone. I'm sure that when I go back to work I'll crave alone time, so maybe DH and I will start doing a little more separate activities after LO goes to bed rather than spending all evenings together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276153 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 16:13:22 +0000 PurplePeony 2276153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>About the same? I've always needed a good amount of alone time, and while I definitely get less off it now, I wouldn't say I necessarily crave it more than I used to. I do look forward to DH's work starting back up in a couple weeks because he's usually out of the house 2-3 evenings, which means that I can have a couple hours to myself after DD goes to bed. I feel kind of bad because I *should* want to spend that time with him, but I'm just a better person all around when I get that time to myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2276136 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 15:29:42 +0000 Cherrybee 2276136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More more more!!</p> <p>I'm an only child as well but I've always hated being alone. I am a total extrovert and I have historically craved company.... until I got married/became a parent and alone time was in short supply! Now I realise how much I really need time to myself to recharge in order to be the extrovert people are used to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275543 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 03:37:56 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2275543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a teacher and I need alone time to recharge. I make it a point to take a mental health day once a term where I send my son to daycare and take the day to sleep, read, catch up on TV shows, maybe get a manicure or a massage. Anything except work or childcare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275534 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 03:08:13 +0000 lamariniere 2275534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: This is how I feel! I was alone for long stretches in my 20s, but I am also very social! I agree, I need a little bit of alone time every day to quiet my mind and just relax. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275292 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 20:07:44 +0000 Greentea 2275292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was alone A LOT prior to meeting DH (moving a lot, but I am very social) so I was never really interested in alone time until I had DD. Now just a little bit a day would be nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275191 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 19:22:52 +0000 TrailRunner 2275191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really need alone time. My entire family jokes about it. I get stressed out when family comes to stay at our house...esp my MIL bc she is an extreme extrovert and doesn't get my need to be alone. I am worried about this when we have LOs. I am also worried that my MIL will essentially move in once we have a baby and I will def never get alone time again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275158 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 19:09:48 +0000 BSB 2275158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely an introvert here. Guess I should be taking advantage of all the alone time I have now before the babies arrive. DH is an introvert, too, but he will be the SAHD. I'm hoping we can give each other one night off to unwind. Don't know when that will that should be practical to start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275150 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 19:06:24 +0000 Mae 2275150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More now, but only because I don't get hardly any of it. Before I had a kid I worked at home. So I was alone like... 8-12 hours/day while my husband was at work. Plus any time he had anything to do without me on weekends. And even though I'm an introvert/hermit it took like 2 years for me to adjust to being alone THAT much but then I really liked it. </p> <p>But now I'm a SAHM so I'm NEVER alone. Except I guess during her 1 nap? But then I'm usually cooking and eating lunch and catching up on email and whatnot and boom then she is awake. </p> <p>Anyways yea. I miss alone time a lot. I usually try to get at least 30-60 min at some point during the weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275146 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 19:01:46 +0000 youboots 2275146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had lots of alone time before T came. I would not say I needed it. Now it's nice, but much more rare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275059 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 17:17:23 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2275059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't consider myself an introvert either but I really need alone time, especially now. I'm a teacher so it's loud all day long and it was a huge adjustment to come home and not have quiet time (for me quiet is more important than alone). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275035 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 16:50:43 +0000 DillonLion 2275035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: True, but I have a stomach ache right now just thinking about it! Ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275034 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 16:49:50 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2275034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really need time to unwind and relax, which is probably why I stay up so late at night. But I also don't really enjoy being away from my kids do extended periods of time! If I had an hour a day to do whatever I wanted, that'd be ideal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275033 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 16:48:38 +0000 Raindrop 2275033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DillonLion: Haha I think everyone hates stuff like that! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275030 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 16:46:00 +0000 DillonLion 2275030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: Bars and concerts don't bother me, since the noise is expected. Things that make me jump are the culprits (like being in a quiet room and someone runs the ice machine on the fridge. That makes me crazed) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275026 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 16:43:08 +0000 Raindrop 2275026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DillonLion: Oh so you don't like being in noisy places? Like bars and concerts?</p> <p>I don't like bars and concerts because there are just WAY too many people. People I don't know! </p> <p>I'm a social introvert but I have my limits. I can only really be around a lot of people if I know most of them like family weddings or group friends birthday parties. Other than that I'm usually a small groups type of person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-crave-alone-time-more-or-less-now-that-you-are-a-parent#post-2275022 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 16:40:24 +0000 DillonLion 2275022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: Okay I must be an introvert then because I am super drained being around lots of people, ha! Although I do like being around people and socializing, I just have noise anxiety and people are noisy as hell LOL </p>