https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 11:01:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1013231 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 12:05:25 +0000 looch 1013231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually let kids of the same age work it out themselves, but if they need intervention, I use neutral phrases like "we keep our hands to ourselves." You're more likely not to offend patents with that kind of language and it doesn't highlight a victim. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1013025 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 11:07:18 +0000 indi 1013025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you disciplined them, you just reminded them to play safely.<br /> I agree with @Lozza:, and we do the same with our group of friends. If your kids are being watched by others, they can correct them (like @artbee: did), but also discipline them (time outs, take away mis-used toys, etc). Even if the parents are around, if the child is misbehaving toward another adult, that adult addresses it right off the bat if the parents don't catch it right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012980 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 10:58:11 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1012980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If a parent has given me their permission (or asked me) to discipline their child I would, ie my nanny children or my nephew... </p> <p>I probably would have done the same, and I've done the same to protect my LO when he is playing at a park with bigger kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012970 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 10:56:00 +0000 Freckles 1012970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you handled the situation well, and don't see that as discipline. I wouldn't hesitate to do the same thing as well, and have done that at indoor playgrounds when the parent is not around (or on her phone not paying attention). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012901 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 10:36:07 +0000 lilteacherbee 1012901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you handled that really well.</p> <p>@JoyfulKiwi: I share that DNA too ;) I hear myself doing it in my head all the time to kids when we're out to eat, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012892 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 10:34:21 +0000 artsyfartsy 1012892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandmother has custody of a 5 year old. Her idea of discipline is "Stop that" "Don't do that" "Go sit in the chair and don't move" and when he gets up just to defy her she ignores it. I struggle with knowing if I should discipline him or not. Especially when we are out in public he runs wild. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012793 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 09:55:16 +0000 GrapeCrush 1012793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only other kids I discipline are my nephews and niece. I did have to discipline my cousins son when he was at my house because he was throwing DS toys at other kids and hurting them. My uncle(and his wife) weren't paying attention to him so, I scolded him and took away the toys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012684 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 09:26:47 +0000 Lozza 1012684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think reminding other kids to be careful, or asking them to please do something, really counts as "disciplining" them, and I wouldn't hesitate to do something like that.<br /> When I think of "disciplining" other kids, I think more of enforcing consequences for actions. We have a couple of friends with whom we have an explicit reciprocal disciplining kind of arrangements- i.e., we will enforce time outs or other measures with their kid just like we would for our own, and vice versa. DH and I are actually totally fine with any of our close friends "disciplining" LO- they've all seen us doing the "I'm going to count to 3" thing and time-outs and such, and we have no problem with them doing that. I want LO to learn that he needs to listen to our friends and follow their directions just like he would for us.<br /> THere's also a lot of shared child-watching and babysitting in our group of friends, and I think you can't expect people to watch your child if they don't also have permission to institute disciplinary measures that you're both ok with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012674 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 09:24:54 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1012674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think what you did was discipline as in enacting a consequence for bad behavior. Asking them not to hit/play rough with a younger child is exactly right. I wish more parents would take those sorts of actions! I think when adults are afraid to reinforce basic rules of decency with children it sends the wrong message. </p> <p>But then I'm a teacher and I "discipline" others' children for a living. It's probably in my DNA :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012656 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 09:21:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1012656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To me what you did is not disciplining. You gave a child direction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012635 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 09:15:59 +0000 lovehoneybee 1012635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We regularly discipline our nephews (which is just to make them sit on a step), and I would discipline my nieces (especially the younger one, she's Trouble.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012578 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 09:04:23 +0000 mrs. 64 1012578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What you said is definitely fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012539 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:55:23 +0000 Maysprout 1012539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I play referee if something comes up. I don't think speaking up about dangerous behavior is disciplining, maybe if you told them to go stand in the corner afterwards but it doesn't sound like you did that :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012412 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:17:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 1012412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you were within your right as an adult, not really disciplining, more reminding them to be careful. I will discipline my nieces if my sisters aren't around, but I don't interfer with my friend's parenting unless it will affect my own child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012407 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:15:21 +0000 Mrsbells 1012407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with previous posters that I wouldnt consider that discipline per se. I think its my responsiblity to use words to control a situation where kids are being unruly and their parents are not around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012397 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:12:34 +0000 regberadaisy 1012397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In that scenario I would have said something but like others I agree, that's not really discipline.</p> <p>The only other kids I feel comfortable disciplining are my nieces and nephews. I don't even feel comfortable disciplining DH's nieces! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012390 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:09:58 +0000 littleveesmommy 1012390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mmm I don't think what you did was disciplining - you merely just reminded them to be careful. I would have done the same. =) And I also don't know what to do if a situation calls for disciplining other peoples kids. I don't like to and don't think I should, but it really depends on the situation. If it was a dangerous situation then I totally would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012380 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:06:46 +0000 Weagle 1012380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem correcting a child with words, especially if their parents aren't around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012349 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:59:23 +0000 kiddosc 1012349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really consider that discipline. I wouldn't hesitate to tell another kid not to hit my LO. If you had shouted at him, or tried to make him sit a time out, I think that would have been discipline and would have been pushing it. But I think what you did is perfectly fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-discipline-other-peoples-kids#post-1012335 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:56:41 +0000 heffalump 1012335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't like doing that. But what am I supposed to do if their parent isn't in the room? We were at a party and the playroom is upstairs, away from where the guests were. There were some 4 year olds playing and LO is 2. Some of the kids were playing with fake swords, and hitting each other with them. And then one of them hit LO. </p> <p>Not ok. First of all she's little so they need to be gentle with her, and second of all I don't want her thinking it's ok to hit. I wish I would have remembered what we learned in music class in the new version of Little Bunny Foo Foo, which is for her to say, "stop! Don't hurt me!" That way I could have used this to teach LO how to stick up for herself, and what she should do in this situation. Instead I just said, "please don't hit LO." And they did stop. </p>