https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 13:21:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2470100 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 13:01:49 +0000 Jess1483 2470100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to use reward-based systems as a last resort, although for very specific behaviors, I think they can be quite useful.</p> <p>Have you thought about doing one of those clip charts? I tried to find a photo, but couldn't quickly. Basically, you have a posted chart that has "to do" and "done" sides. Then use clothespins, and put a task (or picture of a task) on each one. When the child completes one (brushes his teeth), then he moves from "to do" to "done." There's no reward associated, necessarily, but it keeps them on task and moving toward the goal, and the act of moving it is fun. I suppose you could attach a reward to it, but I'd probably just say that if I needed to remind him to stay on task more than X number of times, then we would lose a bedtime story or something.</p> <p>I think visual reminders for kids are crazy important, but I agree with the article that attaching rewards to "expected" behaviors can create long-term problems. But you can bet I bribe the heck out of situations where I expect him to go "above and beyond." :wink:</p> <p>ETA: Found a photo </p> [attach=5159/16/o2yngs.340x270.il_340x270.889543045_9xbm.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2470096 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 12:54:04 +0000 Mommy Finger 2470096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunshineandsushi: That's a very interesting article and something we'll have to consider. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2470073 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 12:35:32 +0000 sunshineandsushi 2470073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't do a sticker chart, I actually never gave much thought on the pros or cons. But just happened on this article that was an interesting read: "The Dangers of Using a Sticker Chart."</p> <p><a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/02/perils-of-sticker-charts/470160/" rel="nofollow">http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/02/perils-of-sticker-charts/470160/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2466733 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 16:33:20 +0000 Mommy Finger 2466733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: I'm actually impressed by the drawings. :) </p> <p>I think DH and I need to come together and figure out what the really important things are. The listening thing is so hard so we thought it might be helpful to break that one down into actions. We'll see how it goes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2466543 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 14:55:08 +0000 yin 2466543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now we're just working on having LO stay in bed all night. We have a sticker chart to show how many nights he has been successful. He didn't care for it at first and would rather join us in bed or have one of us in his room. This week he has been on a role and staying in bed. He wakes up to ask if he has earned a sticker. His reward will be a trip to TRU to buy a Chuggington train. He came up with the guidelines - how many stickers to receive the award and the actual prize when he has filled the chart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2466485 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 14:43:35 +0000 jmarionsmith 2466485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just started one with our 3.5 year old. Mostly to curb the (his and ours) habit of getting a new toy whenever we go to Target or somewhere similar. </p> <p>He has 5 "jobs" that he has to complete every day. At the end of the day we go through the list and put check marks on the jobs he completed. For some of them, like clearing his place at the table when he's done eating, he gets multiple chances to complete the task. (Breakfast, lunch and dinner) For now he doesn't have to necessarily do it for all 3, but at least once. That may change once he's gotten more used to the system. </p> <p>If he gets 5 checks he gets a sticker in his sticker book. Once he has 5 stickers he can pick a small toy when we go to Target. If he wants a bigger toy he has to save up more stickers. </p> <p>It's actually working because he's been saving up his stickers to get a paw patrol set and while we were out shopping today he asked for several toys but all I had to say was "you can use your 5 stickers you already have to get one small toy or keep saving to get 10 and get the set you want." There was no fuss from him and he happily put the toys back! This is what our chart looks like (excuse my poor drawings)</p> <p>[attach=2453/16/o2rdgn.450x600.image.jpeg]</p> <p>eta: the 5 jobs are listening (this is kind of a judgement call. Basically we discuss whether he listened to instructions more than he didn't. It's also the one he most often doesn't get a check for...) putting dirty clothes in the hamper, feeding the dogs, picking up toys, and clearing his dishes from the table. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-do-a-sticker-chart#post-2466467 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 14:33:02 +0000 Mommy Finger 2466467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have some behaviors that we'd like to correct. Basically it's the not listening when we ask DS1 to do something. I think he would be very receptive to a sticker chart but I'm not really sure what the best way to structure it.</p> <p>One thing we were thinking of was to create a chart for all of the tasks that he has to do to get ready for the day and get ready for bed. He would get a sticker if he does the tasks without being told more than once. However, does it make a difference that some of the items will be done downstairs and some will be done upstairs? Where do you keep the chart so that it's in view?</p> <p>How do you do a sticker chart? What tasks do you include on yours? What has worked best for your LO? </p>