https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 23:52:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1481243 Sun, 09 Mar 2014 00:22:44 +0000 StbHisMrs 1481243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I'm around them yes, if not then I don't go out of my way. My (and this sounds so childish) ex best-friends Mother is a total bitch and ruined our friendship, she's now one of our clients and a high maintenance client at that. I have gone above and beyond many times, I only hope it makes her think. </p> <p>It's a little harder to be extra nice to my ex husband and ex MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1481175 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 22:50:28 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1481175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: lmao! There are some people I've known where my civility is my gift to them. But it takes a LOT for me to dislike someone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1481154 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 22:33:08 +0000 Anagram 1481154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I totally ignore/don't associate with toxic people. But this strategy is for those well-meaning but super annoying people you can't get away from (like coworkers, or certain family members I guess).</p> <p>As I said....it's not full-proof for me, but it calms my rage a little. Which is good since I hate feeling ragey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1481143 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 22:12:37 +0000 artsyfartsy 1481143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just ignore and don't associate with people I don't like. Luckily I'm not forced to work with anyone I don't like or be in situations where I can't avoid them. I think that is a good strategy though.</p> <p>I know when I feel real jealous of someone, like if they had a prettier wedding than I did or is going on vacation or buys something I can't afford (petty things) I always make myself compliment and congratulate them sincerely. It makes me feel much better afterwards and I know it's the nice thing to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1481135 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 22:06:57 +0000 bunnylove08 1481135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes doing it with my FSIL. It doesn't make me like her anymore because she doesn't appreciate these things. I think I dislike her even more lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1481074 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 21:11:37 +0000 CottonCandy 1481074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: me too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1480776 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 17:03:33 +0000 Modern Daisy 1480776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol, yes! Our downstairs neighbor is an extremely immature, overreacting, passive aggressive crazy person and complains ALL THE TIME about how "loud" we are. During daytime hours. Lol. INstead of waging war against her I go out of my way to try and be quieter, I don't see a point in making an enemy out of a neighbor. But I did put her in her place last week when she put words into my mouth, I doubt she'll ever do that again ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1480752 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 16:43:40 +0000 BSB 1480752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about this yesterday.</p> <p>It depends for me. My one coworker and I don't get along but in order to keep the peace, I will do nice things for him. Just because it might be easier for me to do it. Although, I get in moods where I want him to stop relying on me and I'll make him do it.</p> <p>Then I have someone in my vanpool. I just don't feel like being nice to her. I won't be rude to her but I will just keep my distance from her.</p> <p>I do feel like a bitch saying that outloud.</p> <p>On the flip side, I am very supportive of volunteering and giving back to the community by donating blood, money, food. Oh, and volunteering my time when I can. So I'm not a total bitch. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1480741 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 16:38:51 +0000 cyndistar3 1480741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: that's what I try to do, it certainly makes it harder to dislike people when you are praying for them. Now, softening my heart enough to genuinely pray for those certain people is a whole other battle ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1480727 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 16:31:13 +0000 babycanuck 1480727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to come off being a total biotch but I do my best not to be rude to them and that's enough of an effort for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1480310 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 12:02:27 +0000 808love 1480310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great idea!! I will try to do this more often. </p> <p>It does work! There was a parent bad mouthing our school and complaining to other parents practically in front of me. I invited her to coffee so she could get linked in because she recently moved from another country. She never took me up on it but within a few months she was sending gifts and cupcakes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1480077 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 09:15:16 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1480077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only had one coworker that I really can't stand, because she blatantly disrespected me and treated me poorly, so I would think that catering to her would be acting like a doormat, or confirming her superiority complex? But in general I think this is a great strategy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1479920 Sat, 08 Mar 2014 04:37:12 +0000 Lolo 1479920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this idea! Having a bit of a hard time with my mother in-law at the moment. I decided a couple of days ago that I should tackle this by making a bigger effort &amp; being nice even when it is not reciprocated. She is coming to visit soon &amp; will be living in our home for a week. I think I will make point if spoiling her while she is here &amp; hopefully this should help to build our relationship a little. I really want my child to have a good relationship with both grandparents! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477786 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 10:05:50 +0000 autumnlove 1477786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477677 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 09:44:50 +0000 Smurfette 1477677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope but I should. Makes total sense! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477671 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 09:43:45 +0000 mfa_lady 1477671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love this! I want to do it more. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477593 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 09:25:42 +0000 BananaPancakes 1477593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do this and never really thought about why. I know I can't stand the feeling if disliking someone, and I think being annoyed all the time is not good for anyone. Maybe doing nice things just diffuses the tension for a bit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477591 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 09:25:25 +0000 pui 1477591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't bump in to the people I really disagree with often, but I make an effort to pray for them which very effectively makes them harder to hate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477578 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 09:23:29 +0000 LuLu Mom 1477578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, same situation with a coworker. i will help her out when it's not necessary trying to put a good vibe out there. Sometimes it works, sometimes it annoys her that "I didn't ask." 50/50 shot with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-do-something-nice-for-people-you-dont-like#post-1477566 Fri, 07 Mar 2014 09:22:06 +0000 Anagram 1477566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my zen strategies for not letting people get to me is to do nice things for them.</p> <p>For example, I used to have a coworker (at a previous school) that really, really annoyed me for multiple reasons. She was the teacher in the next class, and was on my teaching team, so I couldn't avoid her.</p> <p>SO I started doing nice things for her. Like, she would mention that she was about to start a unit on the Renaissance, and I would email her my lessons on that topic, or if I made brownies or cookies at home, I would wrap some up and bring them to her.</p> <p>My mom does this. I'm not going to say it works for me 100%, but somehow it makes me dislike a person less. Which...zen principles aside, also benefits me because disliking someone takes energy and makes me feel angry.</p> <p>Anyone else ever try this technique? Does it work for you? Is it hard to do nice things for people you don't like? </p>