https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 13:57:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-426029 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 20:35:39 +0000 prettylizy 426029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope- I really hope she can learn to be more and more independent. Right now she is in a super duper mumma phase (8.5 months) and its pretty exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-426020 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 20:32:20 +0000 banana 426020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennylynn: I feel the same! Like they're lonely or something. Ugh. I'm sure they don't but I just feel bad for some lame reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425957 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 20:11:04 +0000 sarac 425957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no. My daughter loves to play on her own, and when she wants my attention, she comes up to me, and I immediately give it to her. I love it - even as a SAHM I get down time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425708 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:24:29 +0000 Andrea 425708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really bc it never lasts for very long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425693 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:17:05 +0000 lemong 425693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do! LO is 3.5 months old and is sometimes perfectly happy sitting in her bouncer with a few toys. I feel like I should be entertaining her somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425663 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:00:10 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 425663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WISH my LO was that independent! She'll come looking for me if I even leave the room (even if she can see me)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425659 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 16:57:03 +0000 Bao 425659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel bad and LO is only 3 months lol! If I want me time to play on the computer (ok HB), check an email or something I'll put her on her play mat but then I feel bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425652 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 16:53:34 +0000 buffalove 425652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally do, and he's only 4 months old! But then I remember my mom telling me that babies need to learn how to play independently, and I try not to feel so guilty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425589 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 16:23:41 +0000 jennylynn 425589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always! She's 8 months old and plays independently great, but I feel super guilty if I leave her in her room to run the vacuum or catch up on chores. I worry she's lonely or something, or wonders where I am. I don't know. I hate it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425549 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 16:05:22 +0000 lovehoneybee 425549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bebefly: Ditto! E is really clingy, so I'm incredibly grateful when he decides he's okay by himself for a little while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425486 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:47:55 +0000 sera_87 425486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no. I spend enough time holding and interacting with him. if I get a blessed 20 minutes to do the dishes or make myself something to eat I feel lucky, not guilty. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425449 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:30:23 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 425449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When he was younger sometimes yes, but now no! He hardly ever plays totally by himself though...he always ends up coming to ask for help or show me something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425429 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:18:09 +0000 banana 425429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally do! I don't know why! I should be happy that he's playing independently but I feel like he's lonely or something. haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425411 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:12:22 +0000 Mrs. Pen 425411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: that's amazing!!! </p> <p>Not really... I wish he played on his own a little more. Caffeinated made a great point - my mom never played with me growing up and I doubt she felt badly about it! I remember being 8-9 and my grandma telling me she would play barbies with me and I was stunned because no adult had ever offered to play with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425405 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:09:01 +0000 LAGS 425405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! DH and I were doing projects around the house on his days off this week and I always feel guilty because she ends up having to play alone. I feel guilty, but to a lesser extent, day to day when I'm getting chores done and leave her to play too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425404 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:08:54 +0000 heffalump 425404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No..... because she doesn't give me the chance. I tried today to give her a new toy thinking it would keep her attention and I could just sit and watch. But she didn't want the toy, she wants MOMMY time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425399 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:07:28 +0000 loveisstrange 425399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C LOVES to be left alone to play by herself and roll around the room and explore things. She will happily play independently for an hour or more. </p> <p>Every once in a while I get a twinge of guilt but then I'll look over and watch her inspecting something with deep concentration on her face and I realize that she is learning all by herself. I think it has a lot to do with her personality. She has days where I can tell she wants my attention and wants me to play with her and she has other days where she could care less if I'm there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425380 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 15:00:25 +0000 rachiecakes 425380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES! At least once a week I've been Googling about babies playing independently, haha<br /> DS loves to hang out in a gated area of the house, playing with his toys, listening to music. I have the video monitor on him and will walk by him a million times if I'm not in the same room but I feel so, so guilty. He loves it though and certainly gets tons of interaction from us, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425374 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 14:59:41 +0000 mediagirl 425374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Mostly because I don't see her for most of the day during the week, though. I like to spend every second I can with her when we're home so, I feel guilty when I'm cooking dinner!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-425359 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 14:55:53 +0000 London Mama 425359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I do feel guilty, I also have to remind myself that DS doesn't need constant stimulation from me and that it'd probably do him some good to be left alone* every now and again</p> <p>*as in to play on his own, not as in abandoned </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-423228 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:49:06 +0000 Rubies 423228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - she likes to play by herself. But I have to be present. She just won't let me in on the fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-423211 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:47:25 +0000 mrbee 423211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not even once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-423122 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:32:11 +0000 Ree723 423122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I get terrible mummy guilt for letting LO play by herself! She's only 5 months old but she will happily play on the floor by herself for up to an hour at a time, and has done this since she was 2 months old. It's great in that I get a lot done, but it makes me feel terribly guilt as well. DH always reminds me that she doesn't require 24/7 interaction and it's ok for her to be independent, but I still feel bad that I'm not down there playing with her all day, every day....</p> <p>The worst is that I frequently talk to her, sing to her, whatever, every couple of minutes and every time I do, she gives me a huge smile. It makes me feel as though she's craving my attention and I'm starving her of it. Rationally, I know I'm not as we do spend a lot of time interacting and playing together, and I know I should be happy that I don't have a super clingy baby who needs to be held all the time, but the guilt is sometimes overwhelming! </p> <p>Sigh, we just can't win sometimes can we? If we have a clingy baby, we complain about that, if they're independent we complain about the guilt, etc, it just goes on and on! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-422967 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:04:05 +0000 MsMini 422967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When Sawyer will play by himself I am way too excited about being able to get shiz done to feel bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-422963 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:03:20 +0000 Freckles 422963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think our parents ever felt bad! I feel guilty sometimes, but not when i'm exhausted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-bad-for-letting-your-lo-play-independently#post-410043 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:00:00 +0000 chopsuey 410043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO plays really well by herself.<br /> Sometimes I feel bad for leaving her to play alone in her room though. :T </p> <p>Her door stays open and she can come out whenever she wants, but I still feel bad :D </p>