https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 12:50:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-distant-from-your-so#post-202546 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 18:03:12 +0000 MrsH 202546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both work fulltime and both are in grad school so I often feel like I only "see" my DH when we are both sleeping. I second the pps who said to schedule some time together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-distant-from-your-so#post-202133 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 12:54:58 +0000 eeh 202133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We start to feel distant when he's working every 8-10 hours around the clock. Sometimes he'll work twice in the same day and when he's home all he does is eat, sleep, and shower. It definitely takes a toll because he's exhausted and gone so much but I've been home alone the whole time with a normal sleep schedule. When this happens I make it a priority to get up when he's headed to work even if that means I'm up at 2am making a meal. We have to squeeze in whatever time we can. I also try my best to adjust my sleep schedule to his. If I can predict that he'll be home at a somewhat normal hour I try my best to stay up and wait or if I know he'll get called at 3am and needs to go to bed early I try to do that too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-distant-from-your-so#post-202104 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 12:43:30 +0000 autumnlove 202104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: @Oceanis723: Yeah, we need to schedule a baby-less date night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-distant-from-your-so#post-201900 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 10:42:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 201900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have gone through spurts of this, the best thing we did was make one night a week "our night." Even if it was just a night at home where we cooked together and watched TV. I would work out in the mornings and he would be sure to leave work on time, we take them very seriously. We might have to swtich the night due to something coming up, but we are sure to always have one! </p> <p>Also when I feel distant I make sure to up the affection, whether it be a text during the day to say I love you, extra long kiss in the morning, cooking his favorite dinner, ect. This helps bring the romance back as well. I think every couple has this happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-distant-from-your-so#post-201898 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 10:41:08 +0000 Mrs. Train 201898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can try scheduling the time. Even if it's watching a movie on the couch while you nurse. My husband and I have one night a week where we plan to spend together. Once we ge the three toddler to bed my husband it's next to me and DD while I nurse her. We usually watch tv then go to bed, nothing exciting but we are together which is nice </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-distant-from-your-so#post-201841 Tue, 26 Jun 2012 10:10:42 +0000 autumnlove 201841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe distant isn't the right word but between our very different work schedules, nursing my LO each of us going to the gym separately...there is very little quality time with my SO! I know a lot of parents go through this...any tips? </p>