https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 21:02:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108162 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 07:52:15 +0000 anbanan15 108162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked my college friend who lives between 2-3 hours away to come knowing that she most likely wont do to the distance and the day of the week the party is on. She was going to try and make it, but she has a test the following day and needs to study...I totally understand that and am not upset or feel guilty for inviting her. She was actually my only friend to visit DS right after I had him, dispite the distance so inviting her was a given. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108161 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 07:52:07 +0000 Andrea 108161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Hehe. Thank yoooooou! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108160 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 07:44:29 +0000 regberadaisy 108160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea:<br /> Bad friends! :P<br /> If you were my friend I would travel to your LO's bday party even if I lived in Westchester! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108133 Sun, 01 Apr 2012 05:30:46 +0000 Andrea 108133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: i was joking around but i do know a lot of people who don't travel. but even when i lived in manhattan we had a car and went all over so maybe it's just people that i know. if it were family, then i would always invite them and hope that they come. but friends don't always want to do that, especially if they do not have kids themselves...yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108055 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 22:07:02 +0000 regberadaisy 108055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: that sounds wonderful as well! I don't think there's a wrong or right way. :) my brother/SIL are much more of the big get together type so their way works out well for them. It's bit much for me honestly but my niece always has a blast with all the kids there!</p> <p>My brothers have had a car since they were 18 so it's very much a part of their life. Also they live 15 minutes outside of Flushing so it's much more convenient and time efficient for them to drive rather than take the 7 all the way to the end and then take the bus. My other brother lives in SI and he does take the express bus for work. But on the weekends with kids they drive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108050 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 21:51:30 +0000 mrbee 108050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Yah, we use Zipcar. It's interesting to hear you describe life in New York with cars! My experience without a car has been very different.</p> <p>Anyway I don't think we're going to throw big parties for our kids. What we'll probably do is have individual friends over one at a time, so we can get more time with each group of friends. To me, that feels more respectful of their time... and we can always have a small private birthday cake at home with just mom and dad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108049 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 21:50:13 +0000 autumnlove 108049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, I feel bad all the time about showers and get togethers! But I figure they wont go if they don't want to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108044 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 21:40:07 +0000 regberadaisy 108044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee:<br /> Yup, they do. It's no biggie to them to drive an hour + to go to a bday party. Their friends/family do the same for them.<br /> If you don't have a car there's always zipcar rental now! :)<br /> In fact for my nieces birthday parties the hour before and after are huge coordination ordeals. Not everyone has a car so there a lot of carpooling droppig off happening. Often my brother will drop off his in laws in Manhattan after the party. Without traffic about an hr RT.<br /> They've driven 2hrs into LI before for bday/parties. They spend a lot of time in their car! It would drive my husband crazy but my fam is used to it.<br /> @Andrea:<br /> My SILs and brothers all work in manhattan and live in Quuens &amp; Staten Island so they go back and forth daily anyway. It's no biggie to them just another part of city life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-108042 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 21:33:55 +0000 Red 108042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I invite them anyways with a little P.S. that I know it may be too far for them to come but that I wanted to extend the invitation anyways in case they felt like it. You never know, I've traveled two hours to attend parties, sometimes because it coincided with something else that was in that area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107913 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 18:00:07 +0000 heffalump 107913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: hays that's so funny. I never drink, probably why o prefer kids parties.</p> <p>@chopsuey119: I'm sure your mom and sister loved seeing your lo, especially for such a special event! The only person we're inviting who'd have to fly is my sister and her husband. But they'll be on their honeymoon :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107908 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:57:34 +0000 chopsuey 107908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>EVeryone I invited was local (30 min drive at most). My mom and sister flew out from CA though. Felt bad that they had to travel so far, but they wanted to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107907 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:57:15 +0000 Andrea 107907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: yeah....not everyone is like that. this jersey friend of mine used to complain that kids' parties didn't all serve alcohol. LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107904 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:55:37 +0000 heffalump 107904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I loved going to kids birthdays before lo! Free food, you get to see them open presents, and you get to buy cute presents. I was so excited when I started dating my husband and he took me to the Disney store to help pick out a gift for his niece's 4th birthday. Like a kid in a candy store. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107902 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:51:41 +0000 Andrea 107902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: well, it depends who they are. my friends who live in manhattan don't have kids so i don't think they care too much about coming to a kid's bday. i was chatting to my friend who lives in jersey and she actually wants to come so i was like wow, sure ok! but she just had a baby so she is more interested in kids now. :-D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107900 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:48:58 +0000 heffalump 107900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I get that, but I think id feel worse if I didn't invite people because I want them to know we like them. But I would tell them no gifts, I hate seeming like a gift grabber and don't want them to feel like they have to send something if they don't come.</p> <p>That being said, I'm in a driving city so its easier to travel. And the only super far away person invited are our siblings. We drive an hour and a half for my nieces party every year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107897 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:45:24 +0000 mrbee 107897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: do you have a car? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107894 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:43:30 +0000 Andrea 107894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: er, if you live in manhattan - you DO NOT want to go to brooklyn....or anywhere else! haha. :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107891 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:40:15 +0000 regberadaisy 107891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee:<br /> That is not far at all! My brothers and SIL travel all over the boroughs for birthday parties ALL the time!!! Often to Long Island as well! It's not a big deal! :)<br /> I thought you were talking about like interstate or something! :)</p> <p>I agree with @artbee: . If they don't wanna they don't hafta! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107853 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 16:20:17 +0000 heffalump 107853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. If they don't want to come, they don't have to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107852 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 16:18:36 +0000 Andrea 107852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked them for the 1 year but did not invite them for my LO's party coming up. I just invited local peeps because yeah, I don't think it is important enough to invite people who live further away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-guilty-about-asking-your-friends-to-travel-to-your-los-birthday#post-107840 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 15:18:35 +0000 mrbee 107840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that we have two kids, it's a real hardship to travel to birthday parties! Knowing that, I feel awful about asking my Manhattan friends to travel to Brooklyn for a birthday party. So much so that I'd almost prefer not to have a birthday party at all... or maybe just a small family-only event.</p> <p>Do you guys ever feel guilty about asking your friends to travel to your LO's birthday? </p>