https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 08:23:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-800467 Wed, 22 May 2013 11:10:38 +0000 Mrs. J 800467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I slack waaaaay too much on the laundry. Like now. Or this week when I was very unsympathetic to him not sleeping well. Hi, me neither--I'm pregnant-- and he can snooze for an hour because he doesn't have an "official" start time. The rest of the world (me) has to be at school bright and early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799641 Wed, 22 May 2013 05:03:02 +0000 SweetMamaM 799641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, we have had the worst day today and I totally feel like "crappy wife" after tonight. I went to make a risotto tonight and our houseguests must have taken our rice when they left (they had a bunch of groceries in our pantry). I just lost my shit... straw that broke the camel's back, unfortunately. Poor DH. Indian takeout for the eventual win. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799592 Wed, 22 May 2013 00:39:22 +0000 daniellemybelle 799592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessKas: Hahaha, I love that so much!</p> <p>I'm a really good caretaker when DH is sick, but day to day I can be a bad spouse. He's always so happy to see me when I come home and I'm just worn out and want to be left alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799588 Wed, 22 May 2013 00:19:14 +0000 StbHisMrs 799588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: Exactly!! Put the controller and the beer/wine/drink down. You are done. Don't tell me the next day how tired you are, you slept through the night!!!</p> <p>I am not a sympathetic wife, but he's not a very sympathetic husband either. We're truly a match made in Heaven ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799585 Tue, 21 May 2013 23:37:29 +0000 .twist. 799585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: so so much worse since getting pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799526 Tue, 21 May 2013 22:39:30 +0000 JamieLee 799526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I feel the same way. DH works a lot of hours and at a very physical job and is not really content to lie about and relax, while I am. I also feel like an ungrateful person because I complain that he works so much because I miss him. But I know he does all the work to provide for us. I'm also not a good housekeeper and its only gotten worse since I got pregnant... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799193 Tue, 21 May 2013 19:49:58 +0000 MrsRoo 799193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: hahaha! "Maybe suffocate him with the Boppy" I am guilty of plotting this same scenario. Especially if he calls me from work to complain about how "tired" he is..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799147 Tue, 21 May 2013 19:32:51 +0000 avivoca 799147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, yeah. My husband is diabetic, so when he's sick, he literally cannot do anything without getting ketones, and while I know this, another part of me wants to say "suck it up, buttercup." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799113 Tue, 21 May 2013 19:18:09 +0000 Reese 799113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes.</p> <p>Came home to all of the laundry clean, folded and put away (and there was a nice pile accumulating) after DH worked a long day and before he went to hockey. His sloth wife on the other hand worked 3 hours today and managed to accomplish a nice dent in the ice cream. Yay me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799084 Tue, 21 May 2013 19:04:00 +0000 Lozza 799084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: @.twist.: Same here. DH works, works out every day, does all the yard work, all the mail, his own laundry, 50% of the cleaning, 75% of the cooking, and ~55% of childcare.<br /> I, um, gestate the babies. And make all the phone calls. And that might be it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-799038 Tue, 21 May 2013 18:45:07 +0000 autumnlove 799038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Haha, yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798767 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:33:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 798767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell him all the time "I have no sympathy for you" when he's complaining of being tired (don't stay up playing video games) or hungover (I told you that last beer was too much), ect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798755 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:25:48 +0000 lawbee11 798755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! DH is so much more patient than I am. I also feel like an awful spouse every time I read the "what's for dinner?" threads--I don't know what half the stuff on there is! My DH thinks I am Julia Child if I prepare dinner without the use of the microwave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798748 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:23:15 +0000 .twist. 798748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: hahaha for real! Getting home and putting my purse away sometimes feels like a big task! (ok... that might be an exaggeration). But yea, my husband works out too. I have no idea how he does it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798736 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:19:19 +0000 IRunForFun 798736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Same. He's very motivated and seems to have lots of energy to get a million things done every day, when I count the day as a win if I get out of bed, go to work, manage to work out (some days), and do like, one chore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798730 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:16:05 +0000 JessKas 798730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The man cold! My DH definitely gets them. He's such a baby when sick! </p> <p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbmbMSrsZVQ" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbmbMSrsZVQ</a></p> <p>I feel like a bad partner lately being pregnant and not able to do all that I used to. The first trimester was the worst, I pretty much stopped cleaning and cooking. Now I just feel extra hormonal and irritable. I feel like I snap way to easily! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798729 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:15:13 +0000 mrs. bird 798729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More often than not. I wish I was a better wife, a better person, I'm not but I know I could be &amp; I think that makes it even worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798722 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:12:35 +0000 Smurfette 798722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More so over since R got here. I feel bad when he gets home and there is nothing for dinner. Even when R didn't nap well and then the only time he gets to spend with her, she is cranky and just wants me. And lately too that I don't have a sex drive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798716 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:10:35 +0000 googly-eyes 798716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: we text too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798713 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:09:26 +0000 googly-eyes 798713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sort of. I've been more selfish around DH since lo, since all my energy goes into her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798700 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:05:50 +0000 Charm54 798700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL I am so unsympathetic when he's sick too. Unless he's throwing up I usually roll my eyes. Which is sad because he takes such good care of me when I'm sick. I need to get better a this!! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798697 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:04:31 +0000 tinyperson 798697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: DH loves that commercial! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798692 Tue, 21 May 2013 16:02:25 +0000 .twist. 798692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. My husband is so very efficient. He does tons of dishes, cleans, does homework, makes breakfast, lunch and dinner for me. All this and he is not a stay at home dad and his job is VERY labour intensive. </p> <p>I feel like a bad wife/partner most of the time. I just don't have the drive he does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798682 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:58:27 +0000 lovehoneybee 798682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, when DH comes home and the dishes aren't done/kitchen isn't clean/toys aren't picked up/etc. He never says anything, because he knows how challenging LO has been the past few weeks, but I always feel like a huge wife-fail. </p> <p>And sometimes, very late at night when I'm up with LO for the billionth time and DH is snoring away I stare at him and plot ways to kill him in his sleep. Maybe suffocate him with the Boppy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798667 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:51:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 798667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally. I got back from a week long business trip and DH scolded me saying I don't know I how to act when I am away because I don't call I him or call him back. We text! Lol</p> <p>I am also guilty of not taking care of him when he is sick. Excuse me for not wanting to lay in bed too when he has a migraine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798652 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:44:09 +0000 heffalump 798652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh is actually better than I am when sick. </p> <p>I feel like s bad wife during the holidays. He's a much better gift giver than I an, and better at surprising me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798644 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:41:01 +0000 photojane 798644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: hahaha.. this is me! Dan gets a stuffy nose and it's THE END OF THE WORLD. I always tell him to man up. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798638 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:39:06 +0000 mrbee 798638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Like this?</p> <p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0umLwBBypYM" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0umLwBBypYM</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798634 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:38:18 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 798634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. DH is the only one who does the dishes. Wife fail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-like-a-bad-spouse#post-798630 Tue, 21 May 2013 15:37:21 +0000 Bookish 798630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. DH is infinitely more patient than I am... and although I know we bring different strengths to the relationship, this whole pregnancy I've felt like the worse half! </p>