https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 12:13:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142791 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 19:22:15 +0000 chopsuey 142791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind so much when I hear first time moms get excited about buying cute clothes and etc. Dressing your baby is fun and something to get excited about! They'll learn in due time that motherhood is tough.<br /> Internet sucks so I don't wanna look through previous posts, but good for the girls who decided to announce their pregnancies. We let everyone know as soon as we found out the first time around.<br /> I'm all about letting our friends and family know so they can pray for us and give us support early on. I had a friend tell us that she miscarried, but she never told us she was pregnant.<br /> Why keep the pregnancy a secret if you're going to share your miscarriage with your friends and family?<br /> Whoa. Long comment.<br /> HA! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142770 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:54:13 +0000 pastemoo 142770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dunno, but a lot of people expect me to think that way--they get weirded out when I'm practical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142749 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:38:01 +0000 heffalump 142749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Exactly! Plus I think there's a lot of denial going on. For the longest time, even when I was pregnant, I just ignored the fact that I'd be pushing something pretty big out of my who-ha. No sense in worrying about something I have no control over! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142745 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:28:51 +0000 MsMamaBear 142745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see nothing wrong with her saying she doesn't know if she wants a boy or girl, she's just thinking of all the fun possibilities of both. </p> <p>Being in lalalaland if fine, long as they aren't going into lalalaland about money,education,etc. Everyone doesn't want to be stressed out all the time. I'm sure they thought about all the possiblities, not just the stressed out, worrying about things you can't control part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142741 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:25:13 +0000 hilsy85 142741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably be one of those pregnant women that seems to live in la la land...most of my conversations with my mom revolve around baby clothes and how we'll decorate the nursery! :) I don't know...I mean, I share my fears with DH but with everyone else, i'm not just going to sit there and spill my deepest feelings, you know? Maybe those people annoying you are doing the same--going through the scary parts in private, but talking about the fun stuff in public. And as pps have said, there's really no way to know about the scary stuff, or just how scary it is, until you're there. And I certainly don't want to spend time reading through horror stories and freaking myself out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142709 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:58:39 +0000 googly-eyes 142709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a mom yet, but have studied child development/early education and so I do have my beliefs about certain things already..so I therefore bite my tongue sometimes, knowing that as a FTM I might be missing something, and also it's not my place to tell people how to treat their pregnancy or their child. My husband and I spend a lot of time talking about what we will be doing as far as parenting beliefs/strategies/etc (based a lot on things I read about in classes) but we also allow ourselves to dream a little and buy some cute stuff, too. :) I just think there has to be a balance. And I think it's important to realize that as much as you might want things to go a certain way, you can't plan for everything because there is no telling how that child's temperament, personality, etc will be for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142700 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:48:23 +0000 lovehoneybee 142700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It reminds me of my stepsister. She was a teenager when she purposely got pregnant (to "straighten out" her then-boyfriend). And she kept saying that she wanted something to be just hers that would love her. She was absolutely enamored with the idea of being a Mommy, but not the reality and responsibility that comes with being a Mother, and actually having to care for her child. </p> <p>I'm 25 weeks pregnant, and I'll be the first to admit I have no idea what it will really be like to have a newborn. I can try to educate myself, I can guess about what it will be like, but push comes to shove, I'm as clueless as any first-time mother. I try to think about the fun parts, because if I think too hard about the rest, about all of the unknowns and stories from other moms, I start to get overwhelmed and stress out and worry that I shouldn't have even gotten pregnant, that I can't handle it. </p> <p>So sometimes I purposely put myself in la-la-land, because if I didn't, I'd be a stressed out, absolutely terrified hot-mess pretty much all of the time, and that's no good for anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142699 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:47:13 +0000 Mrsbells 142699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @artbee: its good to focus on the exciting parts of being a mom, pregnancy would be way to scary and depressing otherwise </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142692 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:40:31 +0000 PBandBaseball 142692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know several people like this and it drives me crazy. I like to think that they're really scared when no one else is around but just afraid to admit it. That's what I keep telling myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142689 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:37:48 +0000 heffalump 142689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its good to be in la la land. If people knew what they were in for, they might not want to get pregnant to begin with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142650 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:00:57 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 142650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know a few people who are like that and I just avoid talking to them about anything baby related. Because everytime I say something they say "oh isn't it wonderful??".... and I feel like a bad mom if I say that it's not always sunshine and rainbows </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142648 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:00:26 +0000 meredithNYC 142648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't noticed this too much, though my friends are older and so maybe that makes a difference? I'm guessing it's the same way that some women are about their weddings, though- obsessing over the planning/fun stuff and not putting much thought into the actual marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142639 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:52:43 +0000 Maysprout 142639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes but sometimes I think people just like talking about the fun stuff instead of the less fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142629 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:44:37 +0000 LuLu Mom 142629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sweet T: I've had friends do this too! One even calculated her own due date to post because she hadn't been to the doctor yet to confirm....this is nuts to me!! And this was her second, she's a nurse and said she just knew it would stick. </p> <p>Another thing i thought was strange she announced it to EVERYONE on facebook at the same time, as in her mom found out with the rest of the world...this was a big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142628 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:44:33 +0000 Crisark 142628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can say that I feel this way a lot.<br /> Since I've been a mom for 9 years it's hard for me to see brand new first time mom's acting as if they just know everything.<br /> I guess that's somewhat normal but at the same time I want to look at them and be like "Do you have any idea what this is actually going to be like? Do you understand that some days your baby won't wear more than a onesie and you'll be so exhausted you won't bathe for days".<br /> It's not all cute clothes and sleeping babies. It's real life "crying in your face, pooping up it's back, not getting more than 2 hours of sleep at a time, motherhood." To hell with what your baby is going to wear.<br /> It makes me mad. (in case you couldn't tell lol ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142623 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:34:36 +0000 Andrea 142623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you've never had children or been around children, you would be in la la land though. There is just no way you can know how hard it really is. Hopefully they will educate themselves a bit before the baby comes. Otherwise, they will do it after the baby arrives anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142597 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:05:58 +0000 yoursilverlining 142597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Especially those women who are in absolutely no position in their lives to emotionally or financially raise a child but say “oh it will all just work out”. Life isn’t magic and hugely complex issues don’t just resolve themselves on their own – it’s about the work YOU put into it. How are they not stressed out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142596 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:05:54 +0000 Sweet T 142596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: YES!! I have had 4-5 girls announce their pregnancies on facebook recently. They all announced right after they found out...putting them at about 5 weeks pregnant. I don't think any of them are educating themselves on the risks of miscarriage in the first trimester. I guess they just live in a "that won't happen to me" state of mind. One of the girls is 9 weeks along and just bought a $400 crib. I can't imagine announcing and making huge purchases prior to having an ultrasound. It's just crazy to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142587 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:59:59 +0000 LuLu Mom 142587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm excited about dressing my baby just as much as the next person, but I'm more concerned about finding daycare, a peditrician, and safe carseat, ect. But when I need a break I do look at nursery bedding and clothes, it calms me and takes me from the stuff that brings on anxiety! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142581 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:56:21 +0000 Minnie_Girl 142581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been kind of...nonplussed by the entire experience of pregnancy so far. The way my body has reacted feels completely normal. There's been nothing unusual or even exciting about being pregnant, haha! </p> <p>Carrying a baby? No big deal. I just go about my business and it happens. </p> <p>Actually *raising* a child? Now that's serious! Who has time to fuss over outfits when you're wondering about your child's education and family environment?</p> <p>I say this as someone who has plenty of experience with kids, but doesn't have any kids of her own. Maybe it's different for people who already have kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142564 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:44:44 +0000 MamaMoose 142564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I definitely think some people really just don't have a clue. There are others who have had a lot of experience with babies and therefore aren't as terrified about the prospect of being responsible for a little person, so they focus on all the excitement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142563 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:44:26 +0000 littlebug 142563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know, I think these women probably are geniunely scared and anxious and all of that other stuff. But who honestly wants to sit around and say "I'll tell ya, I'm really terrified of parent-hood." In our society, admitting that you're scared of parenthood has such a negative connotation to it, that you're not ready and/or shouldn't be a parent. Even though I'm sure EVERYONE experiences that fear, no one ever wants to discuss it.</p> <p>I mean, I'm not even pregnant yet, and I'm definitely anxious about parenthood and all the things that can go wrong. But I'm also excited about dressing kids up in cute clothes and playing fun games. And most people would so much rather talk about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142560 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:42:27 +0000 Rubies 142560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lived in lala land of excitement and awe of being pregnant but was abruptly brought back down to earth when we started prenatal classes. I was super happy and excited in general, but not so much that I lost sight of how much change this baby would bring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-feel-many-pregnant-moms-live-in-la-la-land#post-142555 Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:40:31 +0000 Mrs. Pen 142555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lately a lot of the pregnancy people I know seem to view their pregnancy as something to be super excited about, but not be realistic about. They get excited about buying all these fun baby things, but not actually being realistic about all the changes a baby brings.</p> <p>one lady in particular acts like her baby is her fashion accessory. "I cant decide if I want a boy or a girl. for a girl, I can buy her all the cute pink ruffly things and it will be so fun to dress her up! But you dress your boy so cute, it makes me want a boy!"</p> <p>I dunno, it just seems so weird to me. Becoming a parent is such a real, scary thing and I was freaked out half my pregnancy trying to prepare for it! But it just seems so many moms live in lala land, not being realistic about what's about to happen. Do you feel this way? </p>