Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you ever get a break?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you ever get a break? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 00:16:40 +0000 snowjewelz on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1/page/2#post-2401641 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 10:45:52 +0000 snowjewelz 2401641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Kinda, not really? My mom is near by, but she already watches DD during the week on top of daycare so I feel bad asking her for more. MIL is not far either but she doesn't drive so we don't usually ask her. autumnlove on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2401112 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 19:01:25 +0000 autumnlove 2401112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mil watches LO 3 from time to time when I want to spend some QT with LO 1&2. travelgirl1 on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2401095 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 18:36:00 +0000 travelgirl1 2401095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. Until recently we didn't live in the same country as family and I chose not to use baby sitters. Now we live with my inlaws and I'm sure they would let me leave the kids with them and go out, but I would prefer not to until the baby is older, so not getting a break now is really my own fault. I would however kill for a lie in or early night and be more than happy for someone to help with the kids then! erinpye on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2401079 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 18:18:42 +0000 erinpye 2401079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not very often. Once a few weeks ago, my ILs took both of our girls all day, and I didn't know what to do with myself! Mrs. Champagne on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2401032 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 17:00:43 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2401032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not a lot. But the last couple days we were away at my moms and she is mega helpful. But three hours away. Our last date was in August. 2littlepumpkins on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2401030 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 16:59:24 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2401030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Every now and then we do from grandma but she only takes the three year old. We've only been away from the newborn once for fun in the past almost three months, and I think once maybe twice for an errand. He's easy though. Also when dd goes to school mwf mornings. She's about to go five mornings a week because I'm finishing some classes, plus all day once a week. So that'll be like personal time. We are hiring child care for lo2 at that time. Mrs. Pickle on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400920 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 13:46:54 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2400920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really. DH works really long hours and is often called in on the weekends. :( We like to spend time together as a family when he's home. Our moms live really far away. We do have an aunt that is local who will babysit for us once a month. I'm working on getting DD to take a bottle so I can leave her with a babysitter. HLK208 on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400901 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 13:10:31 +0000 HLK208 2400901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Probably a few hours every 2-3 months. Usually for an appointment. yin on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400892 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 12:32:39 +0000 yin 2400892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister lives with us, and she has been a big help. My FIL also takes the kids for a sleepover once or twice a month depending on his work schedule. The break is much appreciated, but prepping to leave the house for a few hours or longer is a lot of work. I still need to cook every one of their meals in advance since they have food allergies. coopsmama on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400888 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 12:29:05 +0000 coopsmama 2400888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Very, very rarely. Maybe one or two hours once every month or two! Rainbow Sprinkles on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400877 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 12:10:46 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2400877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I get breaks when I'm working (I work PT) and then my mom takes my kids once a month or so just to give me a day to get stuff done. looch on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400865 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 11:39:05 +0000 looch 2400865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep, I have a pretty big village, so if I want it, I could get me time regularly. ALV91711 on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400832 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 10:35:39 +0000 ALV91711 2400832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We don't have anyone here. My break would be when I'm at work. I'd have to take a day off and send DS to daycare to get a day to myself. Date nights are non existent. Luckily DH is good and will stay home if I want to get out of the house by myself. Baby Boy Mom on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400816 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 10:05:38 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2400816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I didn't really ever have a break for the first four years of being a mom. Now the older one is in pre-k and the younger one started part time preschool- so on mornings they are both in school I have a "break". Of course I am expecting again so it will be short lived, but I am trying to be intentional of taking a couple hours to myself each week. FaithFertility on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400808 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 09:51:39 +0000 FaithFertility 2400808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes and No, DH is willing to let me go whenever, but for family no! Surprisingly they live 5-10mins away but really never offer or if I ask it is not good time for them! So it is what it is they love DD dearly and we do just fine!! For now..... lol Mamasig on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400807 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 09:48:25 +0000 Mamasig 2400807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes and no. Yes because I WOH the home so I have time away from being a mom. And my mom now lives with us so she is there as back up. But because she watches my youngest while we work, I try not to take advantage of that at other times. And no because my children are night owls and are basically up whenever I am. Charm54 on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400768 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 08:11:21 +0000 Charm54 2400768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes we are very very fortunate that my parents and 2 of my sisters live only 2 minutes away. They often pick the girls up for an afternoon and my oldest daughter loves sleeping over (she's there now!) My other sister lives across the country and I don't know how she does it all without help...she never gets a break and her and her husband haven't had a date night since my mom visited last summer. I wish we could help her more, it's tough :bummed: Mrs. Tea on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400765 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 08:05:54 +0000 Mrs. Tea 2400765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really and my parents live down the road... I am looking into sitters though, so there's hope PrincessBaby on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400763 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 08:01:17 +0000 PrincessBaby 2400763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes...I love my job and that's one thing that I appreciate is having the time to focus on something and stay focused. It gives me a mental break from Mom-ing. And if I want to go for a run or something before or after work, our nanny is willing to stay if my husband isn't home. My husband is also basically wonderful about wanting me to get out and do things for myself while he keeps the girls. We don't have family nearby so I feel really lucky to have so much freedom, and I still feel like I have tons of time with my girls. Andrea on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400744 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 06:05:56 +0000 Andrea 2400744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No breaks. No family around and they don't help much when they visit. Nutella on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400740 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 04:51:31 +0000 Nutella 2400740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sort of - when my parents visit from overseas every few months. No village here to speak of though 😞 But my DH is awesome at taking over on the weekends! Plus I SAH through the week and our gym has a crèche, so 1.5hours per day I can drop LO off there. And either go to the gym (!) or get errands done, or coffee in tiny café / pedicure which is my preferred option! I also think I get a break when LO is napping during the day. I do big meal prep on the weekend so I can usually chill out and catch my breath when he's asleep. I look forward to being closer to my mum & dad so that DH & I can get a break together more often though :silly: Cherrybee on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400736 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 03:23:31 +0000 Cherrybee 2400736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My inlaws have E three days a week to save us money. E is in daycare two days a week. This means that they are not up for weekend babysitting. We could afford FT daycare but my inlaws and my DH are ALL ABOUT saving money and Id never convince anyone this system needs to change. My mum wont look after E at all and so the only break I get over and above DH's input is when I take PTO and send E to daycare. We do have a babysitter we trust but she needs to be booked well in advance and we never remember to book her - plus, my DH would have something to say about the expenditure if I used her without a damn good reason (family wedding etc); date nights are out! Anagram on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400698 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 23:44:02 +0000 Anagram 2400698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We basically only get breaks if we pay for a babysitter or if we fly in a set of our parents (they all live far away). Babysitters are $$$, so the breaks are few and far between. mrs.shinerbock on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400651 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:44:51 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2400651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Every couple of months we will ask my parents to watch LO - they live almost 2 hrs away, and have to drive and spend the night and they have to find someone to take care of their dogs, so we try not to ask to often. For short periods of time, we've developed a small network of friends and neighbors that will watch LO for a hour or two. We try to do the same for them. Mrs.KMM on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400647 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:37:34 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2400647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not much. DH travels for work every week so he isn't around except weekends to help. His parents live about 30 minutes from us but they both work FT. They help us out occasionally but it isn't and all the time thing. lilyofthewest on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400640 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:06:48 +0000 lilyofthewest 2400640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thankfully, yes! I work Tuesday through Sat. LO goes to daycare for at least a couple of hours most of my Mondays off. The price difference between 4 days (at the higher part-time rate) and 5 days was only $20/wk! Sweetie, on the other hand, takes care of him solo on Saturdays while I'm at work and gets much less in the way of breaks Mae on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400634 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 20:57:56 +0000 Mae 2400634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really currently. My parents lived a few hours away and they have babysat a handful of times (maybe 5 or 6?) in LO's 19 mo so we could have a date night. But I've never gone out without LO or DH when my DH was not watching LO. My parents just moved to my city a few weeks ago though, so I think in the future they will take her more. Maybe not a ton in the next year or two because my mom finds her toddler-ness exhausting. But when she's a bit less.... crazy... I think my parents will take her more lol. MrsSRS on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400622 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 20:20:35 +0000 MrsSRS 2400622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We just joined a gym, mostly so I can drop off the kids in the nursery for an hour a few times a week and take a long, hot, solo shower lol. travellingbee on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400610 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 19:41:43 +0000 travellingbee 2400610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents live nearby and take him overnight at least once a month, sometimes twice. I also work 4 days a week and have Friday's off but have to pay for daycare that day anyway so he goes. I get errands and cleaning done. Eta: things will be different when this LO cooking arrives Im sure. No break from him for a while... MamaBehr on "Do you ever get a break?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-get-a-break-1#post-2400608 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 19:40:30 +0000 MamaBehr 2400608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Besides DH taking over? No. But I gave up freedom when I had four kids. And, my definition of "freedom" has changed. I'm stoked if I just have one :) hahahaha