https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 23:52:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1449792 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 21:49:39 +0000 Greentea 1449792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Periwinkle: :sad: thanks peri. The latest was someone from dh's work and he thought it went great. Such a stressful and now awkward situation and dynamic! I also love my dog and spent years training her so (though not rational) I feel kind of offended :( I don't want to not have her in my life (had her before dh) so having a hard time placing her on top of that is really rough. She is a.maz.ing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1449596 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 19:58:31 +0000 Periwinkle 1449596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Sending all the best your way. I'm so sorry to hear the update on your dog :( I'll be sending positive thoughts in your direction. I know I would feel the same way too :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1449582 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 19:51:50 +0000 Greentea 1449582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: thanks edelweiss! It has been a real nightmare. She has had two interviews and then got rejected from both homes. A total rollercoaster and it feels terrible. I am taking it really personally :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1403218 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 11:26:57 +0000 edelweiss 1403218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lots and lots of hugs. sometimes it seems that the universe lines up to work against you. it is rough and very difficult to keep perspective.</p> <p>i'm so sorry about having to give up your dog, that must be heartbreaking :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1403120 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 11:05:31 +0000 MapleMoose 1403120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Me too, I know what you mean. Even if you just need to chat about the mundane with another human being you know where to find me. Here's to things getting better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1403093 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 10:58:39 +0000 Greentea 1403093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: I am trying to remember life is just like that- up and down. It helps to be reminded of that. I am glad yours is up and it helps to hear... sometimes I feel like the only one on earth in a crap time. I definitely need to get out and make some friends! (Because logically I know others have rough patches too..) just been so isolated here.</p> <p>@grizz: :) things already are. We went and visited our new place last night and that helped a lot to see it. I am excited now that it feels more real. Thanks for the kind words and encouragement. Attitude definitely pulls me through! Getting through January was just super rough... at least there is light on the horizon! </p> <p>@MapleMoose: thanks maple! I appreciate that! I have such a hard time being vulnerable... </p> <p>@MoonMoon: thanks moon! Yeah... what is with this winter?! I am not meant to be indoors. That's for sure! We talk about moving but it is enough on my plate just making things work here for now! </p> <p>@Periwinkle: :) I had a friend who said she didn't recognize herself when she got depressed so that is what I was thinking of. I was like, "oh no, is there a legitimate mirror test? Should I go check myself out?" Haha! I am feeling a little better, thanks. And I have eaten so.many.cookies. I asked dh to take them away :) so I think that's a sign things are looking up. (Things are rough when I have no qualms about eating a bag of cookies...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1394077 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 20:02:22 +0000 Periwinkle 1394077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Hahaha, just figuratively :) the journaling helps me to see what I can do to change and possibly improve the situation. But I also like the cookies approach too!</p> <p>Hope you're doing ok :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1394018 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 19:22:35 +0000 MoonMoon 1394018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time, that's a lot on your plate. I think our babies are close in age, so I really hear you in how that raises the pressure. I also really struggle to feel good in the winter, and this winter is especially brutal, isn't it? I hope you and your LO feel better soon! Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393903 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 17:20:37 +0000 MapleMoose 1393903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh dear when it rains it pours. *big hugs* If you need an ear to vent to I'm offering mine! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393891 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 17:16:06 +0000 Boheme 1393891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope things are looking up for you soon! It's hard in the thick of things, but they have a tendency to fall into place. I think you're an awesome mom, and I love your opinions and viewpoint on these boards - I think that same attitude will carry you through! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393802 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 15:55:41 +0000 googly-eyes 1393802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: well hopefully the carpooling works out then! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393672 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 14:03:20 +0000 cascademom 1393672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through a rough time last year. It does get better with time. It sucks when you're in the middle of it, but once you're out of it, life improves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393670 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 13:59:55 +0000 Greentea 1393670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beaker: :happy: Back at ya! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393668 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 13:57:42 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1393668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: :) </p> [attach=1630/14/n0du06.420x294.rottenecard_16135164_5qfthq85fs.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1393661 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 13:53:46 +0000 Greentea 1393661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: @googly-eyes: he works at 6am, before the busses run!!!!!!! :( Otherwise he would be on that bus every.day. I know, it seems like we almost have to go through rain clouds to see the sunshine after :/ at the new place he plans to catch a ride with a coworker as it is closer to work and on.the.same.street! (Go me for picking a better place!) :)</p> <p>@Mrs. Twine: thanks twine. Everything you said is helpful and true. Yesterday we got out and were a little active and LO had some huge milestones (sitting unassisted and letting us eat out and about- it was only scarfing sushi at whole foods but that was huge for us! She -up until now- has been very demanding) so it helps to celebrate those. I cried too and that actually helped! I appreciate the support and encouragement. Definitely a hard time, but I know I will keep working to make things better.</p> <p>@Cherrybee: thanks for the kind moral support! It helps to hear others have come through some crap times too. I sometimes feel like the stress is almost necessary TO come out at a better place sometimes.</p> <p>@beaker: I bet beaker. I know what you mean about just getting through. It is so hard, but kind of surprising how strong we are (?) It is like you just have to survive. I am trying not to be too hard on myself but that is in my nature. I love you and your LO. Love my chronic health support ladies! Oh, and yes, wonderful about the cookies! :) Thank you for reminding me of that. Every little happiness helps :) he lost his job as a designer and he is working at a local organic coop. Pretty great place to work in some respects. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1392980 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 00:14:29 +0000 googly-eyes 1392980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have definitely had some times where it seems nothing is going right and there is no end in sight. I think @jennyd's idea about driving your husband or having him take public transportation at least on occasion is a good one. Being cooped up sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1392977 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 00:07:00 +0000 JennyD 1392977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, when it rains it pours. </p> <p>We seem to go in cycles like that. When things get really tough, I try to remember that something awesome is probably around the corner. </p> <p>Why don't you drive your husband to work? Then you could have the car. Or ask him to take transit a couple days a week? That would make me nuts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391761 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 06:54:49 +0000 Cherrybee 1391761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I'm so, so sorry to hear what a dreadful time you're having. It sounds very tough indeed. </p> <p>I totally agree with the phrase "it never rains but it pours". I've had some awful periods in my life when it felt like everything was going wrong but you come through the tough times and, eventually, they seem so long ago..... </p> <p>I'm sure things will get better for you really soon lovely lady. I will be thinking of you. xxx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391744 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 03:33:26 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1391744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm having a crap time too... My life has been really tough since my water broke on Aug 23rd! The only way through is through. I wish I had better advice, but @Mrs. Twine: has some good suggestions. </p> <p>And omg what job does your husband have where he gets free cookies?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391660 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 00:07:30 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1391660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That does sound very stressful. You're doing a great thing by being proactive. I find that yoga or doing something physical is really helpful to me in times of stress. And if there is any way to get any extra sleep (I know that would be hard with your husband being so busy with school/work and your lo not sleeping well) it can make such a difference in your outlook and how you feel generally. I agree that journalling can be useful on many levels. And finding or cultivating a support network. I know family isn't an option for you at this time, but if you have any friends you could reach out to it is always nice to have more people you can vent to and lean on when you need it. And of course we're here for you-- so that can be a good resource, too. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391615 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:56:54 +0000 Greentea 1391615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseMommy: thanks for the encouragement. It is kind of ironic too that it seems in order to make things better I have to kind of go through a disaster area/ tunnel so-to-say... I just look forward to feeling like myself again! DD just gave me some super sweet snuggles before bed just now. Really helps :) Thanks for telling me it will make me stronger :)</p> <p>@Periwinkle: thanks peri. Writing sounds like a great way to slow down, take a minute, and reflect. I think at least that investing right now in all of these changes really will eventually pay off. But golly. So much at once on so little and so exhausting. Do you metaphorically hold up a mirror or literally? :) Willing to try anything :) easy to just eat a lot of cookies. My husband brings home all of these amazing free cookies fresh baked from his job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391590 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:31:33 +0000 Periwinkle 1391590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear about all that's going on for you right now. When it rains, it pours, right?</p> <p>I have been in the type of situation (more than once) when it feels like nothing (and I mean nothing!) is going right all<br /> at the same time. It takes every ounce of energy to get through it, and matters are only made worse by sleep deprivation. </p> <p>I find that journaling helps a lot during these time. Or writing myself a letter. I know it sounds so simple, but it helps me to put things into perspective and also to prioritize. Also, the writing helps me to see what's working and what's just not working. Sometimes, it also helps me to hold a mirror up and see what I can do to be more active in making changes that will lead to more happiness. </p> <p>Sending you the best during this tough time :) it sounds like you're doing an amazing job to make things better! Best wishes on your move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391587 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:26:16 +0000 Greentea 1391587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsScottish: Thanks very much :sad: we move March... the 4th I believe? I hate to wish time by... oh and there is so much mold in our current place everything in my closet including my wedding dress and LO's clothes got ruined. Nightmare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391586 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:25:11 +0000 NurseMommy 1391586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, definitely been through those trying times. They suck, don't they, especially when you feel like you'll never see the light at the end of the tunnel? Sorry you have so much on your plate right now, but it WILL pass, and you CAN get through it, and be stronger for it. Good luck to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391573 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:20:06 +0000 MrsScottish 1391573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no!! I am so sorry you having a tough time.<br /> When do you move? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-have-have-you-ever-had-kind-of-a-sht-time-in-your-life#post-1391566 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:17:58 +0000 Greentea 1391566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am kind of freaking out :(</p> <p>I think I just need to vent. LO had a health scare. We decided to move to a better place for her. To do so we must rehome my be.lov.ed. dog. I called my estranged mother and the results were not good. We have to move and find new tenant for current place. DH is GOING BACK TO SCHOOL and I am already alone with LO all day. Now when he is home he is slowly working on his computer. He wants to go to school part-time while working fulltime so it would take him ten years (no joke). He makes very little money. We are estranged from family. Our current place is not easy to get out with LO. We share my car (which means he takes it to work.) Ahhhhhh! </p> <p>It is just a stressful time! I know I just have to get through it but it is hard not to go nutty and feel like I am wasting into a blob of cellulite. Plus the winter... I know at the new place I can be more active (lots to walk to, an elevator, better neighborhood)... but man right now is stressful! I know I have been through worse.</p> <p>I have to reassess our school and work plans... And LO isn't big on sleep so we are super tired. And my couch broke :( It is just kind of a rough patch. :( I just look forward to being more balanced again. </p>