https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 22:09:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129422 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 14:57:24 +0000 Rubies 1129422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've raised my voice in frustration and it feels awful. However, and luckily, it's only happened a few times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129392 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 14:47:59 +0000 looch 1129392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but I come from a family of yellers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129356 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 14:36:04 +0000 HLK208 1129356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes :(</p> <p>I feel guilty and try really hard not to though. Sometimes I stop myself, go behind a door and let out a shriek which isn't much better but wow, it's hard to keep patient and calm sometimes!!!</p> <p>Also, I feel like I bottle in a lot of my frustration so when I think I raise my voice - it actually comes out as just strict but in my head, I'm upset. DH has told me that my "yelling" is just a lot more stern than my usual voice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129333 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 14:30:01 +0000 lamariniere 1129333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do it. But I feel like I do it as the problem escalates. I generally start out gently, move on to insistent and then turn into mama bear if I don't get a response. Is it bad? Sometimes I use a raised voice right away if I feel like something dangerous is about to happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129254 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 14:09:48 +0000 Cole 1129254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work with the toddler set most of the time so I am in pretty good practice of not but every once in a while (like a handful of times in ten years) something comes out harsher than I intended. I make practice of apologizing when that happens and explaining I was frustrated about something and that next time I am going to try X to calm down instead and then I give an example of a calming method. </p> <p>I try really hard not to lose my cool but I think having it happen and handling it well can be a pretty good learning experience for them too, so as long as it isn't habit I don't stress about it too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129162 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:50:44 +0000 Andrea 1129162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: ditto. Only when she is hurting baby sis. Then she yells at baby sis. Sigh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129145 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:48:21 +0000 mediagirl 1129145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am doing surprisingly well at this so far (I thought I would be really bad at it because I have a really wicked temper). The other night, though she was crying and yelling through dinner, after dinner and bath time. Finally, I got frustrated during her bath and yelled at her and felt awful afterwards. It doesn't help the situation at all. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129133 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:46:05 +0000 Running Elley 1129133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just did this for the first time yesterday and it totally freaked me out! E has been really clingy and if I set him down he'll just sit there and scream. The longer he screams the more frustrated it makes me and I ended up raising my voice because he was doing it while we were running late and I had to put him down to finish getting us ready to leave. I consciously try not to do it though and I feel absolutely horrible about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129101 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:35:57 +0000 sarac 1129101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only badly about 5 times ever, and each time I felt like a vile criminal. My father was a shouter, and I hated it. So I work REALLY hard to control my shout. I do well nearly always. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129076 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:29:49 +0000 mamimami 1129076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, without realizing it most of the time :( This is mostly what I meant yesterday when I posted yesterday about losing my patience with my son. I don't remember my parents EVER raising their voices at me :( :( :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129058 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:24:53 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1129058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't do it much, but it happens and I hate it. Mr. jacks does it more than me, but he doesn't realize he's doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129045 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:19:59 +0000 autumnlove 1129045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a lot but I feel guilty when I do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129042 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:17:59 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1129042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to save it for really important things, like DON'T run into traffic/put a fork in the outlet, etc. I have heard him raise his voice to me to get my attention, but not in anger (yet) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129040 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:17:58 +0000 oscarthegoon 1129040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes! and i feel so terribly guilty afterwards. it sometimes happens when i am very tired or not feeling well so my patience is less than normal. afterwards i explain to him why i got so upset (like, i'm really tired and i asked you three times to get in the tub and you weren't listening and i got frustrated, but we still love each other) and apologize for yelling. i've gotten better about taking a short break and taking some deep breaths to calm down when i feel myself wanting to yell, but it does still happen every once in a while. so far i haven't noticed him imitating my yelling, so maybe it doesn't happen as often as i think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129028 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:15:35 +0000 chopsuey 1129028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do -.- Trying to stop, but it's hard! Especially when she hurts her baby brother.<br /> She's been raising her voice back at me so I definitely need to stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-raise-your-voice-when-youre-frustrated-with-your-toddler#post-1129009 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 13:12:55 +0000 mrbee 1129009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try so hard not to do this, but I've been catching myself do it now and then. I didn't think I was that bad... but I recently noticed that when Charlie gets frustrated with his sister, he will raise his voice sometimes!</p> <p>Arghh!! I feel so awful... I'm sure he learned it by watching me. I am getting better but I am hoping I can stop doing this. I don't want the kids to pick up my bad habits!</p> <p>Do you ever raise your voice when you're frustrated with your toddler? Anyone else notice their kids doing the same? </p>