https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 22:10:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1114132 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 14:41:02 +0000 mrs. bird 1114132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I had just kicked a very long term, less than awesome for me (not to say he's a bad person, we just weren't good together) partner out. My list of what I wanted at the time was: no one, I wanna be alone! But DH was super sweet, and was all, 'but what if the right thing was right in front of you?' and my mom was all, 'if you don't give it a chance, he's not gonna hang around waiting, and you'll be stuck wondering, what if he was the one &amp; I didn't even give it a fair shot'. I still wasn't going there... But my power went out, and I needed help lighting this emergency lantern... So I called my personal trainer... And he spent the night. And we lived happily ever after ;) haha. I was almost 25. </p> <p>Knowing what you don't want makes narrowing down the list easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1114105 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 14:31:52 +0000 Pirouette 1114105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: this is exactly how i feel. DH and i met at 27 and got married at 29 (RIGHT before my 30th haha) and it makes a huge difference to me. We both agree things wouldn't be as perfect as they are if it all happened in our early 20s. </p> <p>I am extremely independent, and never viewed marriage as something necessary to my life - in fact, i wasn't sure it was what I wanted at all. But meeting DH changed my mind 100% on that, and i have not had one second of regret about marrying him. If I'd known all along that marriage was going to be like it is with him, i'd never have been so against it in the first place :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1114070 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 14:22:52 +0000 meganmp 1114070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: I read, in my Phoebe voice, "He's her lobster!"</p> <p>Made my day:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1114040 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 14:17:00 +0000 MsLipGloss 1114040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: @plantains: @mrs. bird: I was 31 when I met DH. At that point, I didn't have a list of what I wanted in a mate, but I definitely had a list of what I didn't want! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1114024 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 14:12:37 +0000 mrs. bird 1114024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: I wish everyone had at least one period of time where they got to do that before settling down. Being independent really teaches you so much about what you are looking for in a partner. when you've been responsible for it all, once someone does enter your life, you really appreciate what they bring to the relationship &amp; the weight they take on. I met DH when I was, for the first time, on my own &amp; alone. I'm so glad I had that time, but I wish it'd been longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1114008 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 14:05:13 +0000 plantains 1114008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: your honesty is so refreshing, you are one of my faves. </p> <p>I have never for a second regretted getting married, but I started dating DH at 29 and got married at 31 so I had a to. Of time to just do me and put myself first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1113969 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 13:51:38 +0000 loopedd 1113969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: happy anniversary! </p> <p>We're only 6 weeks into our marriage, so I'd be in big trouble if I was regretting this already! He's the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/3#post-1113934 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 13:43:47 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1113934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: @scg00387: Thank you :) I now get what people mean when they say don't get married at 20 ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1113828 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 13:19:55 +0000 GrapeCrush 1113828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope. i would be lying though if i said i didn't wonder sometimes what my life would be like if i didn't marry him. but majority of the time, i wish we had met sooner than we did(26 yo) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1113822 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 13:18:56 +0000 MsLipGloss 1113822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am truly, madly in love with DH . . . I am pretty sure in this relationship that I love him at least a little more than he loves me. :P </p> <p>I'm with the pps in that I don't think regret is the right word . . . I regret the long-term relationship I was in before I met DH (to the extent that I didn't end it sooner), but it set me on a path that led me straight to DH. There have been moments during our relationship though that have made me take pause . . . but he is my happily ever after, even if he isn't always my happily ever right now. </p> <p>Before I had LO, there were moments when I imagined that I could feel incredibly *free* in solitude . . . but she has changed my world--and my heart--so completely, that I can't imagine that anymore. I haven't thought about that in a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1113780 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 13:12:47 +0000 LuLu Mom 1113780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was tough, I have thought "what if" occasionally but in reality I never seriously regretted it as I am very happy and in love with my husband. I do sometimes wish we didn't rush as quickly as we did to get married, we could have used a little more time to date/get to know each other's quirks as that was a lot of our arguments in year one! We've moved on from that and I can't imagine having a child with anyone else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1113698 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 12:58:14 +0000 wahine08 1113698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't regretted my decision so far! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1113619 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 12:43:17 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1113619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't do "regret". Regretting something, to me, is to say "I wish that never happened; I wish my life was different." and to dwell on it. There's no good to come from regret.</p> <p>But, beyond that, I've never wished I hadn't married my husband. I have no idea where my life would have led without marrying him and I'll never know that. I'm happy with him as my partner, even when shizz is hitting the fan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112807 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:09:36 +0000 deerylou 1112807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I appreciate your honesty, and totally see what you're saying. I can also relate to your fierce level of independence. </p> <p>I feel that I would have more reservations had I started dating DH when we were younger. We got married at 27, and I had dated my fair share before settling down with him. Most of my "coulda, woulda, shoulda" revole around things like spontaneous travel, relocating on a whim, etc. All things made impossible by the fact that we have DD now. My elation with her pretty much cancels out any longing I have for the aforementioned, but I think we all have our "what if" daydreams, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112762 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 09:59:27 +0000 BananaPancakes 1112762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I'm with you on this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112377 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:50:58 +0000 CottonCandy 1112377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm honestly surprised at how many people answered no. I guess I am obviously in the minority when saying that yes, there have been times I have regretted getting married. I don't feel like that often at all, but in the heat of an argument, or when I'm really down about certain things in our life, I can't help but think sometimes what it would have been like to not be married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112368 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:48:52 +0000 ShootingStar 1112368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we've been married - never. I can't imagine a scenario where my world would be better without him. Right before we got married we had a couple of crazy arguments that made me question whether we were making a mistake or not, though. But I think most of that was the stress of the wedding. In our first year we had some huge outside stressors with me losing my job and struggling with infertility, and DH changing jobs to increase our income. And those challenges just made us stronger as a couple. </p> <p>He is my rock and my best friend, and the best thing I ever did in my life was choosing to spend it with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112358 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:48:11 +0000 MrsBrewer 1112358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't regret it at all. We married when we were young (we were both 23) but we dated since we were 19. I knew he was the man for me. Ever since we met we've been inseparable. I wouldn't have it any other way.</p> <p>I mean, of course he gets on my nerves, but that's going to happen in every relationship! :-) We're in it till the end!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112335 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:44:13 +0000 looch 1112335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I could basically copy and paste what you've written, so I will just say, for me, nothing is black and white. Did I make the best decision possible? I can't really answer this until I am on my deathbed. But for right now, where I am in my life, yes, it's the best thing that has happened for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1112294 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:35:51 +0000 blackbird 1112294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to think about this one. Regret is not the right word. But who hasn't entertained the fork in the road? There was a time where I wondered, "omg did i do the right thing? holy shit" and freaked out. I don't know a single person IRL who is married and hasn't. I've been with DH for almost 10 years now. I don't regret marrying him, but like @lizzywiz said, there are things that make me pause because being married means that I can't entertain some options (like a really really great job possibility came up in another state. I absolutely cannot take it because of DH. It makes me a little sad). </p> <p>I've had times where I've questioned our path, but I think that is normal and I think everybody eventually has those thoughts at some point. </p> <p>And I will fully admit that a lot of this is due to my independence...as DH says, I'm independent to a fault. So it's sometimes difficult for me to be attached to someone else because that means considering "us" and not "me" and marrying young sometimes means I did not get to 100% focus on the "me". But the flip side would have been walking away from him in my 20's (while he was deployed, no less...and what bitch does that? lol) and I wasn't willing to do that. Not that I wouldn't change being married, though, because I can't imagine life without him. </p> <p>A longer answer than I expected to give, for sure. I thought a lot about this one last night </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111852 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 00:19:43 +0000 birdofafeather 1111852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: he's your lobster! So full of win!</p> <p>My answer: nope. There were some times before got married that I questioned, is this right, etc but that was part of premarital counseling that we did and when we got married, it was the best day/weekend of my life. He just gets better the more time goes on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111846 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 00:05:47 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1111846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I always love your raw honesty too! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111676 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 21:11:37 +0000 MrsSCB 1111676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, never. I'm actually a very regretful person -- the grass is always greener and all that. But being with my husband is the one thing that I have never, ever regretted in almost 10 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111665 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 21:04:45 +0000 immabeetoo 1111665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: rock on for blunt honesty</p> <p>Nope never regretted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111649 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 20:51:31 +0000 sarac 1111649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. As the years go on I see more and more how uniquely suited we are for each other. I never expected to meet my future husband at 17 - I think I just got really, really lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111566 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 20:11:24 +0000 DigAPony 1111566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only in fleeting moments of anger/extreme stress. I would marry him a million times over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111522 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 19:50:54 +0000 mediagirl 1111522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. He's the second best thing that has ever happened to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111490 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 19:29:58 +0000 MrsH 1111490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No regrets! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111468 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 19:24:39 +0000 MapleMoose 1111468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, he's my male bff and hanging out everyday with him is fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-regret-getting-married/page/2#post-1111457 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 19:17:58 +0000 hellocupcake 1111457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never ever; do I sometimes wish I were single so I could go out and drink for free? Possibly (: </p>