https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 04:40:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs/page/2#post-1757239 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 12:25:19 +0000 MrsTiz 1757239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh for sure! Everyone has.</p> <p>ETA- I am more nosy than bitchy.. I'd rather hear stories/things I shouldn't know about people than bitch about them. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs/page/2#post-1757233 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 12:23:35 +0000 Grace 1757233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Certainly. But not in a malicious way. Usually it's about some quirk or flakiness. And I think it's helpful, because you get to realizing that's just how that person is. So you can either accept it and love them anyways or move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1757057 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 11:12:58 +0000 sandy 1757057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think everyone struggles with this even if it's rarely. I can't stand to be friends to someone who is constantly gossiping about other friends...but everyone is guilty of it once in awhile. If I talk about a friend to another friend I make sure it's nothing I wouldn't say to his/her face. The only exception is to my husband - there's a reason the courts recognize spousal privilege ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756983 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 10:50:05 +0000 ottilie 1756983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I clicked never, but now I'm rethinking that answer. I have a couple of different groups of friends, and I might gossip about someone in one group to someone in another (people who barely know each other), but usually not in a mean way, more of a 'commenting on a situation I find interesting' way. I'd never gossip about friends to other people who are close friends with them, too. That feels too mean and bitchy, and I'd hate them to do the same with me. </p> <p>My husband and I often discuss what, exactly, gossip is -- like is it any commenting on someone's life? (Like if I tell him so-and-so is trying to get prengnant, but don't tell anyone else, because she is being private about it...that's not mean-spirited, and I heard it from the source, but I am passing it on, so is that gossip? I wouldn't pass on something I'd been told not to, but if someone tells me something, there's a good chance I'll tell my husband, unless I'm asked not to.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756931 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 10:28:11 +0000 Anagram 1756931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: oh yeah, my husband hears everything I think, basically. Poor guy. I put him in a different category though. </p> <p>But I still try not to gossip about 1 friend to another mutual friend. It help that my closest girl friends are super sweet and hardly have anything bad to say about anyone, so it makes it easier for me to follow suit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756918 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 10:19:30 +0000 Greentea 1756918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756906 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 10:16:25 +0000 mrsjyw 1756906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep- either to my husband or to other mutual friends. It's not very malicious in nature, but I'm the one that kind of keeps everyone in the loop about everyone; so naturally I do talk about them with other mutual friends when they're not there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756842 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:54:01 +0000 loki 1756842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you know what they say...if you don't have anything nice to say, come sit by me! haha jk jk.<br /> all my best friends are from completely different parts of my life so it's kinda nice. i can bitch/complain about them without worrying about it getting back to them. it's always innocent stuff like someone cancelled on me last minute, that kinda thing. my friends know i adore them and i wouldn't be friends with them if i didn't - but sometimes you gotta vent! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756803 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:39:27 +0000 coopsmama 1756803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: Yup! My husband definitely helps keep me balanced in areas like this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756760 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:28:23 +0000 JennyD 1756760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Buhahaha! That's awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756756 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:27:32 +0000 JennyD 1756756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes.</p> <p>My husband hears everything for sure. Most of my friends aren't friends with each other anymore. But I do have two friends from HS that are friends with each other, and two of us do gossip about the third. For sure.</p> <p>Mostly I gossip about petty stuff. I have a friend going through a really tough time, and I don't discuss her stuff with other friends that don't know her even. Some things are private. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756749 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:25:39 +0000 sorrycharlie 1756749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>so I only have a few close friends - but yeah, I've definitely gossiped about people! who doesn't? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756718 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:17:53 +0000 MrsKoala 1756718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes. I've learned through many mistakes not to gossip so I don't wildly speculate about people or talk shit anymore but I do discuss their actions with other friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756716 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:17:38 +0000 looch 1756716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was like our main pastime when I was in college! The best slip ever was when on of my roommates accidently called our other roommate by her code name. But I know I too was the subject of a few sessions, so it's all good.</p> <p>As for now, I mean, I love me some good gossip, but I don't go out of my way for it right now. Plus, my friends are all pretty mellow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756713 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:16:50 +0000 snowjewelz 1756713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I def do it to a certain extent... I would try to never bad mouth anyone or pass harsh judgement, and I would only discuss other people with my really close friend or DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756708 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:14:37 +0000 swurlygurl 1756708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: Hah, yes, that's what's great about complaining to DH - he totally calls me out when I'm being petty and puts a new perspective into my head! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756706 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:14:04 +0000 swurlygurl 1756706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, pretty exclusively to DH though. And it's nothing terrible, just small things that might annoy me. I think it's healthy for me to vent about small things to DH so I can let it go and not allow a lot of it to build up and explode later. I used to be a pretty snotty friend in HS and would bitch about a couple friends with a couple other friends. We should not have all been friends, obviously, and it exploded in my face, and I've learned to love the friends I have and respect our friendships now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756704 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:13:18 +0000 coopsmama 1756704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, yes. Don't we all struggle with that to a certain extent, even minimally? I think it's part of human nature. :bummed: I will say, though -- it's mostly to my husband! I try not to be catty about other women to other female friends. My husband usually will listen and then tell me when I need to stop, whereas we females tend to love to engage in drama. At least, that's what I've found with my friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1756658 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:01:14 +0000 autumnlove 1756658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755811 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 18:04:26 +0000 Smurfette 1755811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: yep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755804 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 18:02:24 +0000 googly-eyes 1755804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Who hasn't complained about someone or gossiped about someone ever? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755802 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 18:02:05 +0000 Boogs 1755802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think anyone who said they never talk about someone else isn't being truthful with themselves. I'm sure everyone has moments where they need to vent about something they don't like.</p> <p>I actually had someone try to convince me how great someone was, and they said the person NEVER says anything bad. Really fool? because I heard them talk about you... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755766 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 17:18:13 +0000 Anagram 1755766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only rarely---I mean, I've absolutely done it and I'm sure I will do it again, but it's not something I *like* being involved in, so generally I try not to do it or be a party to listening when someone else does it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755725 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 16:42:19 +0000 Lindsay05 1755725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its something I have done in the past. I was never too bad about but its still not a great thing too do. Now if I find myself talking to someone and another person gets brought up, I keep it positive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755711 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 16:36:42 +0000 night cheese 1755711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll talk about my friends with my husband or bitch about them anonymously online :wink: but I won't talk about them with other friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755691 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 16:27:49 +0000 photojane 1755691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I made a hashtag out of my kid's name. No shame in my game. ;)</p> <p>I have before (let's be real, everyone has gossiped), but not regularly. I wouldn't be friends with someone that I needed to constantly complain about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755637 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 15:52:49 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1755637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't. But, I have a VERY small group of very close girlfriends (one of them being my own sister) and I have nothing bad to say about them.<br /> As far as this site goes, yeah....lots of people bug me and I admit that I do say things (not on snark websites!!) but I don't know why I feel like it's less of a crime? But then again, I have friends on hb who I would never ever say or think bad things about because I like them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755612 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 15:35:42 +0000 ShootingStar 1755612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, totally guilty! My college friends and I are always talking about each other. Sometimes it does make me wonder what they say about me behind my back, lol. None of it is mean though, we talk about how one girl doesn't make time for us, how one is always depressed about her life, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755611 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 15:34:45 +0000 .twist. 1755611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: They didn't call me out, but the comments were about a thread I made and about a comment I made. One of their comments was probably accurate and the other was stupid, but sometimes stupid happens on other websites and not just HB. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-talk-about-your-irl-friends-behind-their-backs#post-1755609 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 15:33:17 +0000 Cherrybee 1755609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Have they?? I've trawled through every single page now ( :grin: ) and I didn't see anything about you! </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: makes some very good points. I'm going to try to tone it down a bit, going forward..... </p>