https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 14:31:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565758 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:52:28 +0000 hellocupcake 565758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pray about it nonstop. I understand now why parents don't get sleep, not because babies are fussy, at least not in my case, but because I love just staring at her to make sure she is okay and that I take in as much of her as I can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565744 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:44:36 +0000 stargal 565744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time. I'm at the point sometimes where I know its really unhealthy but I can't help it. I have my reasonings for it which only give in to my anxiety. I'm terrifies p will die of a head injury. Utterly terrified of it. I hate typing that out to box I feel like it makes it more real or more of a possibility. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565742 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:44:17 +0000 luckypenny 565742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More than I like to admit. DH was just talking to me about this when he was giving her a bath tonight. We both have a fear that Things have been going so good for us it's only a matter of time before the show drops, right? I'm just glad I have so much to love and so much to be grateful for </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565732 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:38:37 +0000 Mrs. Pen 565732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has actually caused a severe amount of anxiety on my point. It was like having intense visions of awful things happening on a consistent basis. Definitely my worst fear is fear of losing my son.</p> <p>Today something happened, and though he's fine now, it worried me so much and I thought the worst. Even those "little" things impact me so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565730 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:38:15 +0000 Running Elley 565730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Ummmm I totally know where you are coming from. I googled infant CPR and watched a video on it because I could not sleep. Crazy paranoid lady here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565729 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:37:13 +0000 PrincessBaby 565729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: we just ordered a Baby CPR course, complete with a dummy baby, bc I am so paranoid! DH knows CPR but I do not. I've actually been thinking that if the monitor went off, everything might be ok bc DH is here. But he went to the gym a few times and was gone for longer than we're usually seperated for, and I started getting a little panicky about what I would do if that thing beeps and he's gone! It scares me to the bone!!!! I mean, if it goes off, there's only about 5 minutes to really work with! That's not enough time to get anywhere or get an ambulance, so Baby truly has to be revived at home. See? I've thought about it SO much!!! I cannot wait to be Infant CPR trained!!!! STRESS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565721 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:30:31 +0000 Running Elley 565721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Yes about the monitors! When E was sick especially I was scared to go to sleep because I was terrified to my core of waking up to the alarm going off. I'm relieved when he wakes up crying because it's one more section of sleeping that I didn't wake up to the alarm alerting me that he's not breathing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565718 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:29:06 +0000 PrincessBaby 565718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to block so much out of my head...I have flashes of terrible things happening to her, and I can't even bear the thought.</p> <p>My biggest fear is SIDS. I bought the Snuza Hero, and that made me feel better for about 5 minutes, but then I had a whole new fear of the alarm going off that she's not breathing, and we're unable to revive her. </p> <p>I live in fear that *this* will be the night I hear beeps. So it causes me a lot of anxiety. </p> <p>She is so beautiful and utterly breathtakingly perfect in every way, I'm in disbelief of her, and somehow that makes me suspicious of getting to keep her!!! Like she's too good to be true... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565717 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:27:27 +0000 Running Elley 565717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, all the time. I've told DH before that sometimes I wish I didn't love him SO much because it would make it a lot easier for me to relax. But of course I wouldn't give up loving him for anything! I'll be doing something with him and think "What if this is the last time I get to...." It's extremely sobering.</p> <p>I'm actually glad to hear that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I think it's something that people don't talk about a lot (for obvious reasons) so I didn't know it was this "normal." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565583 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:38:21 +0000 Minnie_Girl 565583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, those moments hit me pretty frequently...those moments where I know I would just die if anything happened to my sweet little girl. I have waking nightmares about falling down the steps with her in my arms or her just not breathing. It's an awful feeling, I want to feel the love for her instead of the worry, but it's so hard to stop thinking those things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565541 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:27:27 +0000 Ree723 565541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: Yes, my anxiety is not limited to DD, it also extends to DH and how I couldn't bear the thought of losing either one of them! I try to remind myself not to worry about things I can't change but it doesn't always work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565533 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:25:42 +0000 Ree723 565533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I feel as though I am constantly envisioning a worst case scenario happening and it's terrifying! We're currently in Darwin for DH's work for two and a half weeks, staying on the 16th floor of a high rise overlooking the ocean. Whilst I would love to be sitting outside on the balcony, I am so petrified of LO falling over the side, I hardly take her out there. She's only 7.5 months and no where near crawling (there's obviously a railing anyway) but I'm scared she'll lunge out of my arms, or I'll stumble and lose my grip on her etc. I hate that these worst case scenario things pop into my head all the time, but I'm just a worrier and can't help it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565529 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:23:56 +0000 mrskc 565529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I have these thoughts all too often. I get so scared something is going to happe to him and it will usually make me cry. And it's not just DS I worry about. I worry about losing my DH as well. I try to make the thoughts pass quickly and think of something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565528 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:23:26 +0000 wheres_c 565528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ive been feeling that way a lot and LO cant even walk yet.<br /> I hate that he sleeps in a different room, i hate all the crazy drivers here, i hate when hes out of my sight for a minute.<br /> If i thought i had anxiety before i was pregnant, i had no idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565514 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:19:46 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 565514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I agree. I'm not a physician, but I am (not at the moment) a family/child case worker and I see some terrible things happen to neglectful parents or sometimes just mis/uninformed parents. It's a constant reminder that parents need to be parents, because children depend on them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565507 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:17:15 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 565507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, of course.<br /> I watch him like a HAWK when our cleaning lady is over, I make sure the door is locked even if DH is only taking out the trash, I only go grocery shopping alone if it is day time. I just feel like I now have such a responsibility with having a young child around. I owe him to be as cautious as possible with his life because he can't protect himself. This has been kind of stressing me out ever since he was a few weeks old, at the time that the love really kicked into high gear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565503 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:16:07 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 565503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way all the time. I see too much at work and am well aware of how fleeting it all is :'( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565450 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:04:11 +0000 .twist. 565450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I actually have intense fears about my child being murdered. So morbid... maybe too many Cold Case Files! LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565446 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:03:02 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 565446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our Hoglet isn't even born yet and I think about it all the time. I freak myself out WAY more than I need to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565445 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:02:34 +0000 Mrs. Train 565445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, things come into my mind like that. I wish it wouldn't but I can't help but worry about the extreme situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565437 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:01:03 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 565437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I tend to think those thoughts more than I would like. I try to always let her know how much I love her, even though I know she doesn't fully understand. I think it's somethingbthat becoming a parent does to you, and it's a scary and wonderful thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565430 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 21:59:58 +0000 sorrycharlie 565430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been pretty bad the past few days for no real reason. Not sure where the anxiety came from. I've always been anxious but not usually with catastrophic thoughts! I try to just think of something else or I get sick! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565415 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 21:56:49 +0000 T-Mom 565415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think like this too..Scenarios definitely play out in my head all the time. it is scary and overwhelming sometimes when I get to thinking like this. so I just remind myself that I can only do my part in keeping them safe. I don't know what the future holds. I can only ask God every day to keep my family safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-ever-worry-about-what-if-scenarios-where-your-child-is-injured-or-dies#post-565384 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 21:48:48 +0000 mrbee 565384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lately I have been feeling so in love with Charlie and Olive... but it has actually made things harder in a lot of ways. That's because somehow it has triggered this fear of loss... that something will happen and the kids will be sick or worse, and I would just be smashed to bits.</p> <p>The other night I was putting Charlie down and I just felt really strongly for a moment that something might happen to him (soon? someday? no idea.). So I gave him a big hug and told him that I loved him so much, and told him that no matter what we would be best friends forever. And he said, "Of course, my daddy!"</p> <p>He had no idea what was on my mind, but I guess it was what I needed to hear. Still though, whenever we are outdoors I am always worried about his safety. I worry when he's running ahead of me that he will just keep running and plow into traffic... or if he's climbing up on the couch, I worry that he will fall backwards and hit the back of his head on the train table. </p> <p>The thing is, I'm not a worrier at all (although I'm very cautious in ways, so that may be part of why I don't worry). Still though, I'm thinking about "worst case" scenarios a lot more than I'm used to. I can't really let my guard down in the mornings, because Olive has been climbing up on things more and I worry that she will seriously hurt herself. We can't really do any more childproofing either, unless we just throw out our couch.</p> <p>Do you ever worry about what-if scenarios where your child is injured or dies? </p>