https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 20:27:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-956048 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 11:59:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 956048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: that. is. AWESOME. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955993 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 11:51:22 +0000 mrs. bird 955993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I do get things addressed to 'princess &lt;my name&gt;' :) hehe </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955859 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 11:31:08 +0000 mrs. wagon 955859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: well, at least that makes you a PRINCESS.... YESSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!! ;)</p> <p>I wanted the boy! He's one of two boys so of course he wanted a boy... neither of us knew what to do with a girl. We were both happy when WJ was a boy (we were team green). So when we found out LMW was a girl we were both a little freaked out. Of course now she totally has us wrapped around her little finger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955832 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 11:24:14 +0000 Bao 955832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. We are both happy with whatever we get. Although if we do not get a boy, our last name will stop there...but that's ok :) He does really well with our daughter, and he already mentioned to me he is happy with another girl if that's what baby turns out to be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955831 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 11:24:12 +0000 bunnylove08 955831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope. I don't feel the need to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955823 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 11:22:03 +0000 delight 955823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel a little bit of pressure because we are the last ones to carry on his family name. We are team green though right now and since we are about to have our first, we have no preference on sex. However, I would eventually like to have a boy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955725 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 10:58:27 +0000 dagret 955725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted us to have a son at some point b/c his family has a naming tradition and his brother and SIL didn't do it. </p> <p>That said, as others have said, gender determination is in the sperm...so it's really the luck of the draw what we end up with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955457 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 09:51:13 +0000 Pirouette 955457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i want to give DH a son having nothing to do with carrying on his name or anything of that nature. I want him to have a son because as much as he's excited to have a daughter, he would absolutely die for a 'mini-him' for some of his more manly hobbies (like heavy construction). Plus, we've agreed on only having two, and i think he may freak out if we have two daughters (he'll be ecstatic, and he'll deal, but he wants a boy). And, on a selfish note, i want a boy because I want to see what a mini-DH looks like!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955433 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 09:44:22 +0000 thismustbetheplace 955433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel a lot more pressure to give my parents/grandparents a son than I do DH.. I think he'll be happy either way. </p> <p>Out of 15 grandchildren on my side of the family, only 2 are boys!!! And I KNOW my dad wants a grandson to spoil. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955419 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 09:39:54 +0000 skibobrown 955419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sort of do actually... and I'm normally about as feminist as they come. DH is the last male in his family with his last name. Considering that our society is still so patriarchal, it is far more likely that his name will get passed on if he has a son (although I know this is changing). For this reason, DH really wants a son. I also really want a son, mostly b/c I want a mama's boy :-) My little girl is a daddy's girl, and she is so independent, she rarely ever wants to snuggle. I'm so jealous of all of my friends with mama's boys. We'll be happy with whatever gender of child we have next, but we will probably try that timing method (shettles) for trying to have a boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955373 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 09:22:25 +0000 blackbird 955373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH really wants a son, and I always remind him that it is his job to make one! But now that he has a daughter, he's commented on having more! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955263 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 08:43:58 +0000 SugarplumsMom 955263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. If he really meant a lot to him, maybe ... and I get it cause I really wanted a daughter. But it isn't a big deal to him and he thinks DD is more than enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955220 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 08:30:57 +0000 looch 955220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I was the one with a preference, I really saw myself as a boy mom, can't explain it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-955215 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 08:29:30 +0000 kml636 955215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While of course I will love our family however it ends up, I personally would love to have all girls. I had two brothers and it was not fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-954895 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 03:22:49 +0000 Boheme 954895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: hahaha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-954811 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 00:24:21 +0000 googly-eyes 954811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: nope. I know gender shouldn't matter and we would be happy with either next but I think my DH is a good girl daddy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/3#post-954787 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 23:50:39 +0000 lemondrop 954787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: Yes! I. LOVE. THIS! I even read it to him ;) He laughed. </p> <p>@autumnlove: Yes, it's more for me than for him, he'd be more than happy with little princesses to spoil! I wanted a little boy so badly, and would be perfectly happy with a spunky girl... as long as she can be a tomboy too. </p> <p>I gotta go with biology on this one, I only carry an X chromosome, he has the deciding X or Y vote. It's unfortunate when the woman gets blamed for baking the "wrong" gender :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954782 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 23:42:45 +0000 78h2o 954782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No - he wanted a daughter anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954772 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 23:32:23 +0000 lamariniere 954772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all, in fact, I know he wants a daughter. We have one boy and are hoping for a girl this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954623 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 21:45:16 +0000 marionberry 954623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never did and DH wanted girls, but we got pregnant with a boy so I guess I did so without intention. I am excited though that this boy will carry on the family name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954609 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 21:40:07 +0000 jhd 954609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. We will be happy with either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954552 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 21:25:20 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 954552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DH has a duty to provide me with a daughter :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954495 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 21:09:02 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 954495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not one bit. Neither of us can consciously decide what we are having so there is no reason to expect me to produce a specific gender. Also, it is the sperm that determines gender so technically if he wants a boy and doesn't get one, is his fault! Lol. </p> <p>He also doesn't care entirely what gender we have as long as they are ours. Sure a small part of him wants a boy but I can't even describe how proud he is to be the daddy to a little girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954478 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 21:04:42 +0000 MrsKoala 954478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel a duty to (HA!) but I would like to have a son. I think we would be both be great parents to a boy someday so I'm hopeful it will happen. But if we end up with all girls, that's great as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954406 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 20:48:26 +0000 pl0508 954406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: I. Just. Died. Hahahaha ! </p> <p>No I didn't - but I wanted a boy first !! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954273 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 20:18:20 +0000 rachiecakes 954273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH really wanted a girl &amp; initially was disappointed we were having a boy.</p> <p>I did get some weird congratulatory remarks about giving him a son though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954179 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:54:18 +0000 Honeybee 954179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither of us had gender preferences. My husband and I both thought it would be nice to have one of each, and we were lucky it ended up that way. I think DH would be just as happy if we had all girls, though. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954174 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:50:29 +0000 chopsuey 954174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH wanted girls!<br /> He looooooooooooves having a boy though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954154 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:45:09 +0000 mediagirl 954154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! And our last name will die with our daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-a-duty-to-provide-dh-with-a-son/page/2#post-954149 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:44:25 +0000 MrsMccarthy 954149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think my husband and i both liked the IDEA of a boy better and would have been disappointed until our baby girl came then i think we both would have felt completely different. my hubby is kind of a guys guy but he also has a lot fo female friends. we got a son. likewise i love the IDEA of having one of each but i truly love having a boy too so all boys would be wonderful as well. </p>