https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 23:42:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-21357 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 15:59:31 +0000 Weagle 21357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely don't feel uncomfortable, but my in-laws are very quiet and reserved, and I am, well, not. (Hubs doesn't take after them in that way) So I think that while I'm completely accepted, sometimes they don't know what to do with me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-21353 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 15:55:17 +0000 LuLu Mom 21353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very blessed to have amazing in-laws. My MIL never thought my DH would get married so when I came into the picture she treated me like I answered her prayers. Even now years later, she thanks me for meeting her son. I've never felt so welcome in a home before and accepted by a family. It's incredible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-21284 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:51:30 +0000 HabesBabe 21284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, totally accepted. They only have two sons, so I didn't have to worry about competing with/replacing a daughter-- if anything, they tell me that I'm the daughter they always wanted!</p> <p>My parents love the hubs, too, so it's been great. Wedding planning was a breeze and I hope the baby coming won't bring any drama, either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-21190 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 13:36:47 +0000 lilteacherbee 21190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I love them so much and they've always referred to me as their daughter. We started dating in high school, so they've really been a part of my life for a long time. DH and I actually lived with them for a few months until we found our house. It was a little strange, being newlyweds and all, but honestly, I felt more comfortable around his parents/family than I did my own at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19751 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 20:52:14 +0000 Rosie Girl 19751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH's family has always been so accepting of me and DS. They treat him just like their own grandson, even though he isn't. At one point, my MIL told me that I should just have everything removed (I was having a lot of girl problems) because I already have one kid and they have a great grandchild. It was so sweet! I don't know if they will be even more after DD is born or not because they already are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19686 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 19:39:48 +0000 Sweet_Pea 19686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, definitely. My husband and I dated for 10 years and basically grew up together so his family is like my family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19684 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 19:35:39 +0000 MH.Abroad 19684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not particularly, but that's ok I guess. I knew when we started dating (we were friends first) that his Dad would never like me, and I was right. His mom doesn't adore me, but she doesn't hate e either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19581 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 16:51:41 +0000 mediagirl 19581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. His Mom and his sister are two of the most caring and sweet people I have ever met. They all live quite far from us, so we don't see them all that often but we definitely got to see how welcoming they were at our wedding. It was fantastic how they all pitched in w/o being asked. I wish I lived down the street from his sister!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19254 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 10:19:05 +0000 Rubies 19254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws love me. My MIL maybe a bit too much. From the very beginning she always wanted me to feel comfortable at their home or in their presence but she can be a little overwhelming. She was just glad to have a girl in the house (my hubs and his brother fraternal twins). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19247 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 10:08:50 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 19247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh they LOVE me. and that's no understatement. His father actually thanked me for loving his son, for being there for him and for making him change his life around. He says he only has me to thank for that (well he's extremely proud of his son)</p> <p>Out of all the daughter and son in laws, they've always told me that I was "normal" haha. Meaning I ROCK THAT SHIT </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19208 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 09:20:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 19208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes; completely. I couldn’t ask for better in-laws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19200 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 08:59:44 +0000 Adira 19200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely accepted by my husband's father and step-mother, but his mom... not quite there yet. She's still pressuring us to have children, so I'm pretty sure that until we do, she wont' be able to accept me completely, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19084 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 23:26:40 +0000 ALittleP 19084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're still relatively newly married - just a little over a year. We hadn't spent much time with each others families before we got engaged/married and are just now getting to really know each others' families. We all get along wonderfully though and I feel like I'm more of apart of his and he mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-19068 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 23:12:29 +0000 MaisyMay 19068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His parents are wonderful! They've always treated me like a part of the family. Even his grandmas are amazing about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18951 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 19:59:46 +0000 MsMamaBear 18951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With his brother, yes, his sister? No. even when i had Baby Bear, she still hates me, for what reason I have no idea. oh,well. I don't care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18947 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 19:52:50 +0000 Mrs. D 18947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>By his sister, brother-in-law, and two nephews, yes.<br /> by his parents... sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18905 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:21:54 +0000 mrsjyw 18905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They were always accepting from the get go. Even through our dating period, they were always inviting me over for family dinners and extended family functions. DH had a harder time winning over my parents, but I think it's the norm for my parents' generation with non-korean son-in-laws to be. Since the wedding though, both our parents refer to us as "daughter" and "son" and we hang with both sets of parents altogether frequently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18901 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 17:59:29 +0000 rawrasaur 18901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, no. They were not pleased with our decision to get married, even though we had been together for 4 years. I feel completely uncomfortable and awkward around them all the time. It is more than just the cultural barrier I think, but I think it plays the largest role. I'm really unsure about how things will be when we start having kids.</p> <p>My husband feels totally comfortable around my family though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18889 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 17:16:55 +0000 cyndistar3 18889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I love his family and as far as I know they love me as well. His mom actually said that if.we ever got seperated for some reason she would get custody of me lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18851 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 13:17:36 +0000 cyneswith 18851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely! Pretty much from the day I met them. I have a Mom-in-law (not a mother-in-law), and it's hard to think of his siblings as in-laws, since we talk more than I do with my own brother. His dad is no less communicative with me than he is with my husband. His paternal grandma is sweet and spent most of last Thanksgiving holding my hand and chatting with me about her kids (she had Alzheimer's.) His maternal grandma is just plain cool (world-traveler, gardener, great cook) and basically what I want to be at her age. I haven't spent much time with his aunts and uncles, but they seemed about as accepting as my own (and half of them are more or less avoiding him and his siblings after his parents' divorce.) His cousins are AWESOME! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18845 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 13:00:25 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 18845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do now, very much. Initially my mil was not happy with my husband's choice to date me because I am seven years younger than he is. She thought I was too young, that there was no way I could know what I wanted out of life yet, and that I would get bored and break his heart. I understand now that she was being protective, but it did hurt then. His whole family is so sweet to me now and always tells us how good we are for each other. I love them all a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18789 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 10:46:34 +0000 ks8911 18789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In some ways yes. His mother,sister and his sisters husband (does that make him my BIL now? lol)have all been amazing right from the start, Now,a few years later, his sister,although one of my closest friends, struggles with jealousy issues (although she has never been hostile towards me) and she doesnt really like to share her mum. His FIL is...difficult. He is one of those people who Im never sure of,and Im not sure if he likes me,although he is accepting of me!Bil is one of the nicest people I know though (apart form Husband lol) and he will call me his sister and always helps out with anythiing we need. So all in all, it could be a lot worse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18774 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 10:30:29 +0000 oliviaoblivia 18774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FIL's side is wonderful and have added me to the mix in such a great way. MIL is another story. Maybe some day we'll have a nice relationship, but she's been really difficult for about four years now. Ugh. I just think to myself that I have to be the DIL I want to be and that some day she may come around. It's really hard on DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18746 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 08:28:04 +0000 heffalump 18746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt accepted from the day I met them. The big kicker was when we got engaged, he gave me a family ring, the one my mil was wearing! She gave me a very sweet card to read after he proposed welcoming me to the family. Of course we're still close now that we have a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18743 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 08:19:50 +0000 tessabella76 18743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very much so. I have the best inlaws. They accepted me from day one without any question. Out of the two daughters-in-law, I'm the favorite ;) The other DIL nags BIL, is very bossy, and is not as supportive as a spouse should be. She has four kids from a previous marriage and some times it seems like she's just using BIL as a meal ticket. </p> <p>This week I've been sick with pneumonia and my inlaws were awesome. My MIL made me chicken noodle soup and cookies. They picked up my prescription &amp; my work release from my doctor and brought them to me. She called and checked on me every day. My family all lives over an hour away, so it's been great to have such supportive inlaws nearby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18733 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 06:12:58 +0000 Andrea 18733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I have never had any issues with his fam. He had to wait a while to be accepted by my mom. She did not want me dating a white guy but got over it after 9/11 happened (long story) and we haven't had any issues since then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18708 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 02:43:14 +0000 tequiero21 18708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yup. they've definitely accepted me as part of the family. but they're definitely not intrusive. i have a feeling i'll see more of them when we have our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18695 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 01:38:53 +0000 leelee 18695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I would say that DHs family has definitely accepted me. I was only with DH for a year when they started throwing me birthday parties and now that we're married I call them mom and dad. I am very fortunate And can only hope it will get even better after LO arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18645 Sat, 19 Nov 2011 23:02:52 +0000 runsyellowlites 18645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've felt VERY accepted by DH's dad side right from the start... His mom's side was a totally different story.</p> <p>We've been together for just over 2 years now, married 7mths, and after ALOT of opposition &amp; turmoil at first I'm FINALLY starting to feel accepted by MIL.</p> <p>There have been a few concerns with having kiddos since we (I) already have DS and want our "whole" family to be accepted 100% but I feel pretty confident that things will get better from here on out =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-accepted-by-your-sos-family#post-18640 Sat, 19 Nov 2011 22:57:55 +0000 MrsLilybugg 18640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know, I never really thought about that! I felt completely and wholly accepted by my SO's family. My first time meeting them was at their Christmas Eve party 5 years ago, and I knew what a huge deal it was because he'd NEEVER brought a woman to meet his entire family before. I knew we were meant for each other. They loved me. And his mom has been crazzzy for a grandchild even before we got married, lol!! I wonder how that will change the dynamics! </p>