https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 00:26:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515097 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 15:57:45 +0000 tequiero21 515097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually, I don't feel appreciated...but I know for the most parts I am... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515078 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 15:39:03 +0000 mrbee 515078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: That may be true (not sure), but there are actually many signals that the more active household partner often sends to the more passive partner. Then the more passive partner often gives up.</p> <p>Not sure if that dynamic applies to your household, but here are some links on it!</p> <p>* <a href="http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1219962,00.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1219962,00.html</a><br /> * <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gatekeeper_parent" rel="nofollow">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gatekeeper_parent</a></p> <p>I struggled with this myself, and it's a tough dynamic for both partners! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515055 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 15:07:59 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 515055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: would you agree that men aren't as intuitive as women and they need to be told what to do sometimes?</p> <p>Example: a women would SENSE that her husband needs a break, while the husband would need to be told flat-out that the wife needs some down time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515046 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 14:52:21 +0000 mrbee 515046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: You should definitely ask! Or better yet, just tell him that you're taking a night off and that he's in charge of dinner/bath/bedtime! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515044 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 14:50:49 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 515044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: nope, I don't ask. I just keep waiting for the magic offer. But I guess that is practicing poor communication skillz on my part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515042 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 14:48:41 +0000 mrbee 515042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: That would be nice huh!!</p> <p>Do you ever ask him for a night off? Hopefully he says yes when asked point blank!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515024 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 14:24:21 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 515024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: maybe taking some of my burden sometimes (cooking, putting LO to bed, etc.). Or letting me have a night off to take a break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515020 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 14:20:53 +0000 mrbee 515020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: What kind of actions would make you feel appreciated? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-515008 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 14:08:30 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 515008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dh is very vocal with expressing his appreciation, but his actions don't show it all the time.<br /> I think it has become routine for him to say "I appreciate you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514987 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 13:39:42 +0000 78h2o 514987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514982 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 13:33:16 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 514982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: I don't think my DH fully realizes how much exactly I do<br /> But, he appreciates me a ton &amp; shows it:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514642 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 01:05:08 +0000 Penny Lane 514642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, most of the time I don't. </p> <p>He seems to have this idea in his head that my life at home with a 5 month old is all relaxing cookies and rainbows and unicorn marshmallows. </p> <p>So he's always exasperated when he gets home and dinner isn't done, or yesterday's dishes are still dirty. But then he takes it for granted when they are done, you know? </p> <p>I guess that's something we have to work on :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514606 Sat, 19 Jan 2013 00:05:21 +0000 MaisyMay 514606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends how I'm feeling at the time. Most of the time I know that DH appreciates all that I do, but there are other times when I cannot help but feel that he doesn't realize how much I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514159 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:48:34 +0000 T-Mom 514159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I guess I'll be the odd man out and say no, I don't always feel appreciated. I work as many hours as DH and do most of the kid related chores and wish he would verbalize or show me more how much he appreciates me. I think he does appreciate me but is terrible at showing it. Also, To your point about online vs IRL, I tend to avoid commenting on this kind of topic since I hate to be a downer but if you asked me in person I could probably go into length analyzing the how and whys of it all... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514145 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:31:51 +0000 Smurfette 514145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he tells me all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514098 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:01:41 +0000 Bao 514098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we both appreciate each other, whether or not we show it everyday I'm not sure, but I think we could get better at it. Having a LO makes for a busy day, and sometimes I think we need to take a step back and focus on each other for a minute, and express appreciation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514096 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:00:10 +0000 runsyellowlites 514096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES! I'm the one that could do a better job showing my appreciation for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514093 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:58:54 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 514093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He tells me he appreciates me all the time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514074 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:46:09 +0000 autumnlove 514074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514061 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:37:42 +0000 stargal 514061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup he tells me a lot which I like hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514060 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:37:40 +0000 Rubies 514060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know he appreciates me but sometimes it's hard for him to show appreciation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514055 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:36:01 +0000 sslm 514055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely! He's very good about being verbal about it too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514052 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:34:11 +0000 Alivoo01 514052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure he appreciates all the things I do, because I certainly appreciate all the things he does. Like @Banana said, we could definitely do a better job of showing it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-514040 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:23:27 +0000 banana 514040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both appreciate each other. We can do a better job of showing it though. =\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-513990 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:58:13 +0000 chopsuey 513990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i do! he lets me know how much he appreciates everything i do. :) haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-513988 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:58:07 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 513988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He does, and I appreciate him. We both work hard in our own ways! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-appreciated-by-your-so#post-513974 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:52:32 +0000 mrbee 513974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In real life, I hear from a number of moms tell me that their SO's don't appreciate everything that they do... but online, people seem to feel more appreciated. Or maybe it's just my imagination?</p> <p>Do you feel appreciated by your SO? </p>