https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 10:09:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182994 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:12:33 +0000 Sammyfab 182994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Moreso that DH doesn't hear every little stir so he gets way more consolidated sleep than I do. He still gets up to put LO back in his crib after his motn feed, which is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182957 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:53:59 +0000 WiLLoWtReE 182957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee- I used to be like that! It would take forever to fall asleep, but the first 3-4 weeks I was SO exhausted from sleep deprivation I would fall asleep in about 2 minutes. So hopefully that happens for you.</p> <p>I would get really lonely at night feeding DD every 3 hours for 45min at first. Sometimes I just wanted to wake DH so i could have someone to talk to lol. LO is 7 weeks old today and since about 4-5 weeks she will sleep until 5am after her 11pm feeding. Thank goodness! I was so tired... I'm just hoping it stays this way :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182956 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:53:56 +0000 Lozza 182956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really glad DH was able to take off 3 weeks after LO was born, because that meant I never had to feel bad about waking him up.<br /> (DH is another one of those guys who can fall asleep in thirty seconds and sleep through damn near anything)<br /> Because DH is such a good sleeper and I am such a crappy one who can get really frustrated about my sleep, and because DH is awesome like this, I have an open invitation to wake him up anytime. I try not to use it too often, but DH NEVER gets upset if I wake him up to help with the baby or if I'm just feeling cranky and lonely or sick or whatever. So after LO was born, I'd wake him up at the end of every night feed so he could do the diaper change, and then usually DH would take him away around 5 AM and give him a bottle in the morning so I could sleep. I tried to let him sleep more once he went back to work and i didn't, but then when LO was 9 weeks old we were both working, and I had zero qualms about making DH get up with me at night. Sure, it often meant that we were both super tired, but it also meant that we felt more like we were in it together, and nobody was resentful. (Just really freaking tired) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182954 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:53:01 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 182954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't while I was on maternity leave because I could get naps during the day. When I first went back to work I was jealous of him, but now it doesn't bother me. I look forward to a little more time with LO, since I feel like I hardly get to see her anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182934 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:42:56 +0000 Modern Daisy 182934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even have kids yet and I already feel this way towards DH! I"m a troubled sleeper so I'll wake up in the middle of the night and not be able to fall back asleep and since I'm so jealous I'll shake him awake :) We've also 'worked on' the rules on weekends - he is NOT allowed to wake me up if I'm still sleeping, this has saved our marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182836 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 06:46:06 +0000 heffalump 182836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That doesn't happen for us. Even when I was breastfeeding, dh would wake up for every other feeding to change her diaper so I'd have a little less work to do. Lack of sleep triggers migraines for me, so I'm the one who always gets to sleep more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182834 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 06:41:06 +0000 Andrea 182834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There may have been a few times if the LO was taking a particularly long time to get back to sleep but for the most part he was so good with helping me at night that I can't complain!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182832 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 06:39:47 +0000 Rubies 182832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES! Since LO was born, hubs's ears have turned off to her crying - he NEVER hears her! So he sleeps soundly. Sometimes when I woke to nurse her, I wouldn't be able to get back to sleep so the hubs and I made an agreement that I was allowed to wake him up anytime I needed him to since he was unable to wake up on his own. And actually, every now and then I'll wake him and he'll massage me until I fall asleep again. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182829 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 06:33:10 +0000 regberadaisy 182829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, when she's having her fits I get so frustrated I channel all that negative energy towards him. Poor guy. But I know I shouldn't because he's not only working but putting in hours renovating our new home. I've snapped at him a few times then geek super guilty about it. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182759 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 23:01:14 +0000 skibobrown 182759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I do all of the night feedings during the week while DH sleeps away. On the weekends I make him take over the formula portion of DD's feedings, which is awesome. (We supplement her w/ formula b/c I have very low supply.) During the work week I am always counting down days until the weekend comes and DH can help me out w/ the night feedings again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182746 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 22:13:03 +0000 Navy_Mommy 182746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly...never. DH has to leave the house at 530 to go to work where he's outside in the heat working all day and sometimes doesn't get home until 7 pm. I'd much rather be up nursing our baby all night (we've totally mastered breastfeeding lying down in bed, lol) then have his job... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182736 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 22:07:13 +0000 calsmom 182736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I was so bitter this morning bc of that and how he gets to leave the house during the day. I love being a sahm to an extent, but the lack of sleep is turning me into mega-betch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182719 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:45:49 +0000 mrsjazz 182719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! I woke up DH on a Friday night (no work the next day) when LO was being cranky because I wanted help. He rolled over and said, "I'm sleepy" and then was back to snoring. He does get up to do her diaper changes at night to help me out, but that takes 5 minutes and he's back to lalaland. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182684 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:26:10 +0000 MamaMoose 182684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. Even before I was pregnant hubs always had a much easier time getting sleep than me. Now it's even worse. I try not to hold it against him but it's really hard. Like last night I woke him up because I has terrible nightmares. He basically rolled over. Gave me a pat. And went right back to SNORING loudly. I wasn't happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182680 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:21:36 +0000 lilteacherbee 182680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I shudder to think about what this will be like during pregnancy and nursing...</p> <p>He is the type of person who falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow (like now...) and it always takes me at least 30-45 minutes to fall asleep. The other night we had been in bed for maybe 15 minutes and he was complaining about how he couldn't sleep... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182673 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:17:05 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 182673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OH YES!!!! but this was during my first pregnancy. Because now, with 2 kids, he's responsible for our boy and trust me he gets a run for his money...<br /> he was up at 5 am this morning, while i finished nursing and went back to bed for 1 hour. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-bitter-when-your-so-is-sleeping-and-youve-been-up-all-night#post-182668 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:14:19 +0000 mediagirl 182668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another Twitter-related post. Today I tweeted, "So jealous of my sleeping husband right now. I sort of want to wake him up so I'm not the only one wide awake..." </p> <p>I think, when I'm up all night feeding our lo, I will probably be a little jealous that he's sleeping and isn't the milk factory. I know I'll have to think reasonably though and understand he will be working while I'm at home for a few months. </p> <p>Do you ever feel negatively towards your significant other when you're up all night with your lo? </p>