https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 00:24:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931222 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 06:57:59 +0000 heffalump 931222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so looking forward to the day my friend's have kids! They're into going to bars and drinking, something I was never into but I would tag along and get a water just so I could hang out. Obviously I can't do that with LO. </p> <p>I have the issue where I'm not usually invited to things, I'm assuming because of LO. Like my friend had an OOT bachelorette party that I wasn't invited to. She also had a local one that I attended. But if she would have asked, I would have gone to the OOT one too. Our other friend is having a bachelorette party at the same OOT place when I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant, and I'm planning to go to some of it at least. Ask and I will come! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931204 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 06:45:37 +0000 wonderstruck 931204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: This is true for me too, I'll go have dinner and hang out with my best friends from HS (none of whom have kids yet or are married) once every two or three weeks while DH stays at home with LO, and it's nice getting a chance to catch up and, like you sad, not be in mom mode for a few hours. When I'm hanging out with other moms it seems like our kids are all we talk about, so it's nice to break out of that pattern occasionally. And sometimes they come over here and they're always very excited to see LO.</p> <p>Generally speaking, as long as the two of you can be excited for each other and show interest in what's going on in the other's life (and isn't that pretty much the point of being friends?) I don't see it being an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931191 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 06:37:23 +0000 dagret 931191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes...but I think some of our friends wo kids are more accommodating or understanding to our new normal than friends with other kids (who won't do anything after 7 pm ever bc their kid won't/can't sleep anywhere but at home), and we have friends without kids who we haven't seen in months bc they're humongous homebodies. We also have friends with kids whose life never skipped a beat - they made the kids fit into their own life rather than the other way around. It really comes down to the temperament of the kiddos - and the parents! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931170 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 05:54:27 +0000 honeybear 931170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved to a new state when LO was around 6 mos old. Very few of my friends had children, and the one who did kind of went her own way long before I had LO (we were totally not partiers, so it wasn't like she was ever excluded, but she did quit responding to emails and calls, so eventually we just gave up). </p> <p>I think starting out in a new place is a huge opportunity. But you have to give it time and make an effort. I'm not very extroverted, but I sucked it up and politely introduced myself to anyone whose child LO started to show any interest in, especially if we were at a place I liked to go. Half the county must have my phone number by now! ;) LO is nearing three and I have two good friends now (we all have children who are the same age). That's the 'happy ending', but a year ago I felt really isolated because I had basically no one besides DH and LO to talk to (good thing I love those goobers!). I'm not even sure anyone else here knew my name! </p> <p>As for friends from my pre-baby life, I keep in touch the best with those who write letters. I love getting mail on pretty stationary and I make time to do that for them, too. I feel like pen and paper neutralize the fact that we lead differently scheduled lives, and - importantly - conceal the interruptions. I may have to wipe a bottom or make a snack while 'hanging out' with my friend, but she doesn't have to feel left out in a letter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931157 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 05:10:14 +0000 lamariniere 931157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None of my pre-baby friends were or are anywhere near having kids. It was really disheartening for me after DS was born because I felt like I had been dumped by so many people. However, we moved after DS turned 1 and I've met a lot of new friends who are all parents and so that has been very positive. I definitely miss some of the old friends, especially since I have known them for so long, but I just feel like they aren't interested in my new life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931076 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 23:15:09 +0000 AprilFool 931076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally! We went to a BBQ for a friends birthday the other day and we are they only ones with kids. Everyone loves LO and gives her so much attention but I felt a little left out. They were all pretty drunk and talking about being drunk and it's just so worlds away from where I am. </p> <p>Luckily I also have my mummy friends and I know my friendships with my non mummy friends will catch up when they're in that place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931038 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 22:25:33 +0000 lolabee 931038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you! All of my gf's that have littles live in another city. I find myself wishing, frequently, that we all lived in the same place. I do find it a bit harder to connect, as most of my friends here are just married or single. I am beginning to become closer with DH's best friends wife though, and they have two LO's :) I agree with @googly-eyes: I think it will be a time in my life where I start forming new relationships. </p> <p>It's one of those times in life where you figure out which relationships are going to endure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931022 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 22:17:06 +0000 googly-eyes 931022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made new friends! Lol. Seriously, though, aside from the ones that work with children and therefore "get" babies...I have sort of let a lot of friendships fall by the wayside... They just don't get it, and I don't think they are supposed to. But at the same time we just simply don't have a lot to say to each other since I have had to let some other parts of myself fall by the wayside too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-931014 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 22:10:16 +0000 LovelyPlum 931014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was on the other side-all my good friends had kids early, and I felt so out of the loop. It actually hurt tot talk to them sometimes, because I so badly wanted to be where they were but couldn't yet, for various reasons. Now that we are TTC, it is better, but I agree, it sucks for all involved. I'm finding that the good.friends stick around, though, even if you are on different planets for a while. I'm sorry, lady. Hope it gets better soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930823 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 20:33:16 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 930823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like it will soon. All our BFFs from our home town three hours away are no where near even getting married and we just gt a bfp last week. </p> <p>Luckily all our new friends in our new town have kids, but it will be a hard adjustment I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930814 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 20:28:46 +0000 yin 930814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 27 and the only one among my friends to be married and have a family. Recently a few of our friends got married over the past year or two, but I'm just not at the same point in my life. They talk about weddings, and I'm so focused on taking care of my family. Also a lot of people assume that I do nothing but take care of my child (okay that might be true), and they usually leave me out of get togethers. I'm just used to it by now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930811 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 20:24:52 +0000 lilteacherbee 930811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like this a lot and I wonder how it will be when LO gets here. I'm "young" (almost 24), so most of my friends don't have kids yet. </p> <p>I think I'm pretty lucky though because one of my friends is getting married next March and she is a lot like me....done with partying and prefers low key stuff. They will probably TTC within a year of their wedding. Even now, she is super supportive and she can't wait for my son to be here. Her and I stick together a lot because most of our friends are still into the partying stage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930808 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 20:23:21 +0000 matador84 930808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SOmetimes. :-( Especially now that I am pregnant with 2 I feel more and more distant juggling solo parenting and working full time. Most of my friends are also around 30 with no kids or tossing around the idea of TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930792 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 20:12:24 +0000 MrsF 930792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can definitely relate to this. Most of my good friends are around 30, but don't have kids and won't any time soon. One of them has been inviting me to do a lot of things lately and wanting to see M again so DH and I brought her to a memorial day BBQ. After the initial greetings my whole group of high school friends were back to talking about bars and guys and who knows what for the rest of the evening. DH, M and I sat with some people I hadn't met before because they were interested in playing with the baby. I know they'll understand some day, but I felt like we were on different planets that day :( It's not easy to change all the naps around and lug the baby to a BBQ and blah blah blah... they could have made a little more of an effort to interact with us. </p> <p>On a happy note, one of the girls from this group who couldn't make it to the BBQ came to my house a few days later and sat on the floor with M and played with her and me for over an hour. She doesn't have kids but she was able to make me feel like I still fit in her world. It was so nice :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930775 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 20:03:05 +0000 blackbird 930775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't really yet....a few of my really good friends don't have kids. We just do things like dinner (sans baby--I leave her with DH), shopping, classes at the gym. But i also have friends who have kids that we can do kid-friendly lunches and adventures with. Sometimes it's nice to not be in mom mode for a couple hours :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930751 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 19:52:30 +0000 Mrs. J 930751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm starting to feel like that, but of course our baby isn't here yet. We're one of the first to have kids (we were one of the firs to get married), and my friend that has a baby girl is several hours away. I know life is going to change a lot once baby J is here, and I hope that someone hurries up and has a kid so I am not alone! We're totally in a different place than some of our friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-millions-of-miles-away-from-your-friends-with-no-kidsnot-ttc#post-930734 Sun, 14 Jul 2013 19:46:36 +0000 PrincessBaby 930734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF is getting married in Sept, so no kids and not ttc. Ever since I had H, I feel like we live on different planets. I LOVE her, she is totally amazing and would do anything for me in a heartbeat (and vice versa)...But she is all wedding right now, and I'm so consumed with solo parenting while DH is gone, and having good family time when he is home, that I feel like a bad friend! She is still in FL, and we just moved to SC.</p> <p>She called me at 2:30am a couple of nights ago bc she was in vegas for her bachelorette party (obviously, I didnt go as DH is offshore working so I'm flying solo w/H!)..And was tipsy and left me a sweet message about how she wished I was there. But that was night #1 of sleep training H, and even if I had been up I wouldnt answer bc I dont DARE wake H in this tiny apt (summer rental)...It made me realize how far apart our worlds are right now:(</p> <p>Did this happen to you? </p>