https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 08:11:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33859 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:49:18 +0000 HabesBabe 33859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel obligated, and we've gone to all of our friends' kids' birthday parties that we've been invited to. I mean, it's really for the adults (what 1-year old is going to enjoy/remember this party, anyway?), really. Not to mention, there's always booze for your refreshment. </p> <p>Makes you think about your own kid parties-- what were our parents doing that entire time? Probably getting hammered in the back yard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33726 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 11:41:09 +0000 Red 33726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was a close friend that I see often, then yes. But if it's a good friend that I see once or twice a year, then no. It's not a good use of my time to attend a kid's party and hang around when in reality, it wouldn't make a difference to them if I was there or not. I would, however, send a gift and my apologies or make a date to drop it off in person. At least that way, I would get more interaction with the family vs. just "being there".</p> <p>I recently had a birthday party for my LO at a play gym and I invited my childless friends with the disclaimer that they should not feel obligated to go nor do they need to send a gift. But that's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33698 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 11:23:05 +0000 Rescuemom10 33698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love kids parties, so I guess thats a YES for me! : )<br /> Like someone else stated, you just hope they return the favor to you one day and attend your child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33621 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:04:50 +0000 Modern Daisy 33621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's convenient I'll attend. I already have 8 nieces and nephews with 2 more on the way, so the parties are frequent. If it's no more than an hour drive and being held on a weekend I had nothing else going on, I"ll go. But honestly I don't understand why they want me there so bad, it's really a kid thing the adults just kind of stand around eating pizza and watching the kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33618 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 10:02:37 +0000 rachiecakes 33618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have felt obligated and have gone in the past but I don't think i should feel that way without kids of my own. Unless its a first birthday or a party where it's mostly adults anyway. My son's first birthday will be mostly for adults (&amp; those with babies). But anything after that will be family &amp; kids. Friends will be welcome of course but they don't have to feel obligated, I've been there :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33612 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 09:57:40 +0000 prettylizy 33612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't feel obligated, but I love kids parties so I go anyway. If it was a 'couple' friend DH would probably come, but if it's one of my girlfriends, then he likely wouldn't come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33567 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 09:07:23 +0000 Mrsbells 33567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love kids so I have always been eager to help if my friends throw a party for their kids. I enjoy kids parties, theres always a lot to do keeping an eye on all those kids and they kids are always so happy and excited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33562 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 09:00:57 +0000 mrsjyw 33562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: we have attended every single birthday party for DH's best friend's baby boys. (They're 5 and 3). It's usually family/kid-oriented, so we always go near the end of the party to see our friend, because we don't want to obligate him to have to keep us company with so many family members to attend to... we see them do the cake, get 1 on 1 gift time with the boys, and spend a lil qt with DH's best friend&amp;wife before we take off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33553 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 08:42:00 +0000 chopsuey 33553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! I used to go to all parties.. Esp if were invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33535 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 07:39:31 +0000 heffalump 33535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd also feel like I should go. But I'd make my husband go with me. I go to his friends kid's parties with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33531 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 06:24:48 +0000 mediagirl 33531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily we haven't been invited to our friends kids bday parties. We just get together still at our birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33522 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:58:04 +0000 autumnlove 33522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely feel a little obligated but luckily I enjoy parties. Also, I hope my friends will attend our parties in the future! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33512 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 00:19:07 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 33512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend really wants me to come to one of her children's birthday parties next year. Even though I live out of state I feel obligated to go. I didn't get to visit her in the hospital either time and I havent made a party yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33507 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 23:58:45 +0000 MsMini 33507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always feel obligated to go, and I do, and I always bring a generous gift. I would want others to do the same for my child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated#post-33506 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 23:56:09 +0000 tequiero21 33506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>to go to your good friends' kids' bday parties? when you don't have any kids of your own? especially if they have it where it's "kid-friendly" - like a gym? and you know your hubby's not going with you because he's so not into kids' parties? especially when they're back to back and it costs $20 to go to jersey lol....</p> <p>yes, i feel obligated to go. especially since i missed the past few years (when i was out of state).... </p>