https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 17:14:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-679447 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 20:06:10 +0000 Mrs. Twine 679447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel obligated, but if Lowly weans before age 5 I won't have my decade. But seriously, I guess I do feel kind of obligated to let her self-wean also since big sister did, but if she doesn't nurse for the same length of time that's cool. They will each have their own journey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-679349 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 18:46:35 +0000 tequiero21 679349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorta... I will want to feed any subsequent children at least a year. I try to make my twins eat the same lol... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-679290 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 17:07:34 +0000 runsyellowlites 679290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel obligated to breastfeed exclusively for atleast a year &amp; continue offering through the 2nd year. After that I'm okay with each individual munchkin deciding when they're ready to wean.</p> <p>I nursed my first, G, for 6 weeks &amp; have nursed P 2 weeks shy of a year! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-679282 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 16:56:31 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 679282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm like you, I feel like I should try to do the same. So far ODS at 21 months is at once a day and meanwhile I've started nursing his baby brother. I hope I can stick with as long as I have the second time around as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-679206 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 15:32:23 +0000 sotomorrow 679206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about it. Some babies are more into nursing than others and mom's situation/attitude can change so much in that period of time. Ultimately, it's not the be-end- all-end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678968 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:46:52 +0000 GrapeCrush 678968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anbanan15: i keep going back and forth with the same thing as your friend. i HATED BFing...so it's like do i even try, just to feel the same. or try and have a (potentially) different experience. right now i'm say i will try and if it doesn't go right to pumping and not stress so much </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678965 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:42:18 +0000 anbanan15 678965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: I'm actually trying to decide what I should eliminate and when (now, 2nd tri, 3rd tri etc). There are too many things for me to eliminate all of them and still feel that I am safely providing enough nutrients to grow a baby. There is also conflicting evidence that eliminating during pregnancy does anything to help prevent/lessen allergies, so I'm not sure where to start. Maybe we should start another thread seeing if any mama's on HB had a similar situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678942 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:23:47 +0000 anbanan15 678942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if I nursed my first for say 3 months I would want to exceed that for sure with the next, but since I nursed for more of an extended period I feel more obligated (and that might not even be the right word) to go as long. </p> <p>My friend had trouble nursing her LO. Nursed a few days then pumped but ultimately stopped around 10 days. She just had another LO and didn't even bother trying to nurse. It makes me a little sad because this baby/experience could have been completely different for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678938 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:20:41 +0000 brownie 678938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anbanan15: at least I know now. No milk or soy before next comes and try it slowly. And eliminate before medicate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678928 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:12:51 +0000 GrapeCrush 678928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: this is exactly how i feel! we made it 5 days/pumping for 2 weeks. i was beyond stressed trying to get him to eat, i don't want to end up like that again. i'd like to get at least 2 weeks of BM in LO #2, but if not, i'll be ok with it and not stress. if i works much better, than that's ok too. and i won't feel guilty if #2 gets more/less that #1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678927 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:11:51 +0000 yin 678927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I exclusively pumped for 13 months, and I'm afraid breastfeeding won't work out with my next LO. I can't imagine pumping for over a year while caring for a baby and toddler as a SAHM. I would feel extremely guilty if I can't provide a year of breast milk for my next baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678906 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:52:47 +0000 duckduckkristen 678906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: same here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678898 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:42:33 +0000 autumnlove 678898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope I can nurse longer! I had to stop at 9 months when my supply dried out from being pregnant. I hope I can make it a year! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678893 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:38:05 +0000 pastemoo 678893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. Good question! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678872 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:22:53 +0000 Running Elley 678872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I'm hoping to nurse future LOs longer. The reason that we quit at 3 months was ultimately LO's gassiness and I'm hoping not to have the same issue with future children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678792 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 08:07:54 +0000 Dandelion 678792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No...in fact, I nursed DS until about 15 months...if I have another, I'll start the weaning process at a year. I know the extra benefits, but I remember being so touched out and thinking that I *had* to keep going. Once I weaned, I felt way better. Next time, if there is one, I'll let loose a little more and not feel like everything has to be so regimented. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678772 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 07:45:30 +0000 anbanan15 678772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: This is DH's (and mine) biggest fear. From comments made by other FPIES mom's it seems their child after their first FPIES one was worse. Rarely one said they had no issue or milder issues. I'm trying not to tell DH that...</p> <p>@chopsuey119: I agree it depends on the child. If I am able to I would nurse again until a year and go from there, but I think I would have some guilt stopping. I don't know. I guess we will cross that bridge when we get there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678771 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 07:43:00 +0000 hummusgirl 678771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don't feel that way. If there's one thing I learned from my 7-week hellish struggle with BFing, it's that parenting means being open to changing your approach depending on the child's and parent's needs in the moment. I do hope my next LO takes to the breast more, but I won't be upset if it doesn't work out again. Besides, in your case, I'm pretty sure most of the benefits are conferred in the first 6 months. That's not to say anyone shouldn't nurse as long as they damn well please, but I wouldn't do it out of a fear that one will be sickly if they don't get quite as much breast milk since the research doesn't bear that out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678766 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 07:40:15 +0000 chopsuey 678766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to say that I would only nurse DS for a year. Now I'm thinking I'll go past 2 years like I'm doing for his sister.<br /> We shall see though! It really depends on how long he wants to nurse for. DD still asks for it (only at home) so I'll continue to nurse until she wants to wean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678760 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 07:35:42 +0000 brownie 678760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. Instead it is more of a "well I made it once I can make it again" feeling. I guess I'm competitive... But if we go less time whatever. My only hope is the next (if there is one) doesn't have the same issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678738 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 06:57:03 +0000 heffalump 678738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well..... I only breastfed LO for a week. So I'd like to think I could handle that much again, if not more, but if I can't I'm going to TRY not to stress about it. I get severe migraines so I need to take meds to survive, especially when I have a newborn and I'm not sleeping because lack of sleep is a huge migraine trigger. Obviously I can't take those meds and breastfeed at the same time, so for me it's just not in the cards. Right when I get that first bad migraine, I'm done. But who knows.... maybe I'll be able to breastfeed #2 longer. I still won't feel bad that LO didn't get as much breast milk though. She's perfectly healthy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-obligated-to-breastfeed-each-child-the-same-amount-of-time#post-678735 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 06:51:46 +0000 anbanan15 678735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggle with this. If breastfeeding provides all the benefits it claims to I would want each child to have the same advantages. So since DS nursed 21 months and he will have breastmilk until 24 months, I feel I need to do the same for each child after. Anyone else? </p>