https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 02:47:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-663207 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 20:24:58 +0000 hellocupcake 663207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear: "Also, I look forward to the surely imminent announcement from the AAP that abortion is not in the best interest of babies." (Like) (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-663132 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 19:24:58 +0000 honeybear 663132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I might find new friends if I felt I could not have an intelligent conversation with them wherein I expressed a differing, but sincere, opinion. I do not feel that I need to be "PC", or only espouse popular views, although I do feel that I must listen to and speak respectfully to others. Being considerate and compassionate toward others does not require me to endorse someone else's viewpoint, or keep my mouth shut.</p> <p>Also, I look forward to the surely imminent announcement from the AAP that abortion is not in the best interest of babies. </p> <p>@hellocupcake: I hear you! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662764 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 12:25:32 +0000 lomom 662764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: It's situations where explicitly asked. Trust me, I don't walk around IRL telling people what I think/believe. But when I'm with a group of people and topics like that come up, I don't feel like I can say that's not in line with my beliefs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662696 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 11:14:46 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 662696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: i agree with your point. I think that people 40 years ago may have had the same personal conflict about saying whether or not they thought blacks and whites should be able to get married. That view point had to either go deep underground or faded out. </p> <p>Mrs tiz: the studies are of the general population, including rural and urban. Whether they like it or not, people who are against same sex marriage are becoming a smaller minority... And pretty rapidly.</p> <p>In my very red state, anti-discrimination laws are being passed in lots of cities. If my state can evolve (really, I live in one of the reddest states), it's a safe bet that people everywhere are changing their minds. Certain religious communities and insulated populations may hold fast to their views, but it's a safe bet that those are micro communities, not representative of the general population. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662658 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 10:39:11 +0000 lisa1783 662658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Well...I think the population is higher in urban areas than in rural areas so even if they poll people in rural areas, they would still only represent a small percentage of the total area. And while the poll results may not be representative of the beliefs in your area doesn't mean they don't reflect the values of the population as a whole. </p> <p>Septemberlove: I guess when you're beliefs don't really align with mainstream values/beliefs then it would be super frustrating. I agree with the other posters that you can voice your opinion without being rude. It's just a matter of showing respect. Like you can say "I don't agree with you but I still respect that these are your choices" and hopefully you would receive the same response. Most of the time people react proportionately with what they are presented with. </p> <p>If you just say "same sex marriage is wrong and it should just be forbidden" you'll receive a stronger reaction than "I don't believe in same sex marriage because it opposes my beliefs but that is my personal belief". I don't think you have to be PC but you don't you have to be aggressive either with your opinions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662649 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 10:34:26 +0000 ShootingStar 662649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: A well designed study purposely would try to match the demographic they're interested in. So if you want the feelings for all of the US, you need to sample people from various regions and make sure to get people that are suburban, rural, urban, etc. </p> <p>@septemberlove: honestly, I think if your opinions can be offensive (i.e. to think only a man and woman can be a valid marriage) then yes, I think you should keep them to yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662643 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 10:31:17 +0000 Ra 662643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I suppose it depends on how and why you are expressing your opinion to others. I agree with Ms. Jacks. If you honestly don't care what others do, and just wouldn't choose a same-gender marriage or abortion for yourself, then why feel the need to express your opinion at all (unless explicitly asked, that is!)? By expressing an opinion on issues that infringe on the rights of others, people tend to get upset because often times it seems as if you are telling them that their belief is "wrong" and that homosexuals or those who have had/may potentially have abortions should not have those rights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662623 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 10:21:30 +0000 MrsTiz 662623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I wonder who they ask in those polls? People in big cities I would guess? That is certainly not true for more rural areas. I'm always interested in how they get those numbers because I don't know anyone who has ever got to participate in any poll like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662584 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 09:47:58 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 662584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'm still a little confused. Polls show that people who hold views that are against same sex marriage are outside the mainstream of society. It seems a moot point because you are married to a man and aren't going to choose a same sex union, just the same as I did... </p> <p>But you say you don't care what others do... So how is there anything left to express? You have your straight marriage in the right order and you don't care what others do (unless you really do care what others do...)</p> <p>I am proud to be a member of the AAP and the new position paper they just came out with represent my views on the science: <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/21/health/american-academy-of-pediatrics-backs-gay-marriage.html?_r=0" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/21/health/american-academy-of-pediatrics-backs-gay-marriage.html?_r=0</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662574 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 09:40:04 +0000 MrsTiz 662574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: move down south, 90% of the people I know agree with you all the way haha. I have strong beliefs about both of those things but in different ways. I'm all for one and don't agree with the other. The best way to talk about it is to be aware of who your talking to and what they are passionate about. No matter how nicely you approach it someone who is passionate about one of those topics won't want to hear diffrently.</p> <p>You said it well when you said it doesn't align with your beliefs. That is your choice and no one should be allowed to challenge it as long as you are civil and considerate about it! It's not so much as being PC as it is being respectful of your surroundings </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662566 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 09:31:11 +0000 hellocupcake 662566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know what you mean. I think it's interesting that people want to fight to be free to be themselves but if I were to openly say some things I don't necessarily believe in than I am just being "intolerant" or something. I hate to use the word, but I do "tolerate" a lot of things in our society, I just don't agree with it. I think it's silly that I can't say "abortion should be illegal" without sounding like I have to defend my beliefs, but if someone says "abortion is part of a woman's right to choose" that automatically makes their belief more valuable than my own? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662522 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 08:49:40 +0000 Dandelion 662522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I totally agree with your post. I often find it hard to express my views and beliefs, just because they're not in sync with modern society. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662516 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 08:44:19 +0000 Grace 662516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's all got to do with tone and if you can make yourself sound like you are expressing your opinion rather than sounding like you are directly attacking the other person. Like Mr Bee said, those qualifiers help. I think people are fairly open to differing opinions, they aren't so ok with feeling personally judged or attacked. ;)</p> <p>So to answer your question, no I don't feel the need to be PC, but I do feel the need to be respectful of other people's opinions, even if they are in conflict with my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662433 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 06:34:25 +0000 mrbee 662433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: if you added qualifiers, you can pretty much say your opinion freely!</p> <p>If you told me in person that you didn't support same sex marriage, I'd strongly and vocally disagree. But if you clarified first that you support marriage equality for all but that personally, you don't support same sex marriage... I wouldn't have nearly the same reaction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662430 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 06:33:26 +0000 KissMeCait 662430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see that as being PC, I see it as being accepting. I don't think it's politically correct to say that only a man and woman can make a marriage. If you don't believe in same sex marriage then that's fine, I guess, but often times those beliefs go hand in hand with excercizing your "right" to voice those opinions in a manner that can and does affect a large group of people. </p> <p>To answer your question though, I do find myself being PC in certain things that I say because I know that it will offend others. Sometimes it's gotta be said, whether the person wants it hear it or not but other times, it's not really worth it to ruffle the feathers. That's where judgement comes in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662428 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 06:26:29 +0000 lomom 662428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: sorry, it was 3am lol. My personal choice is to get married then have kids but when people start having discussions about that sort of thing, I never feel like I can say "yeah, I'm pretty traditional and it was important to me to get married then have kids" without sounding rude. Or if people start talking about same-sex marriage or abortion. I never feel like I could just say "yeah, that's not in line with my beliefs" without sounding horrible. I don't care if other people choose to have kids outside of marriage or if they are in a same sex marriage, or if they have an abortion, that wouldn't make me think less of anyone. But I just dont feel like I can be non-PC and express my true opinion when asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662413 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 05:22:42 +0000 mrbee 662413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: Not sure if I read your post right. You personally prefer people have kids after marriage and that only opposite gender folks get married... but are ok if others do as they wish. But feel like you can't express your opinion publicly? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-feel-the-need-to-be-pc#post-662402 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 02:38:34 +0000 lomom 662402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very traditional when it comes to family. I don't care what others do, I'm not an obnoxious in-your-face my-way-is-right kind of person. But a lot of times, I feel like I have to defend myself for being traditional. </p> <p>Example: I wouldn't have kids without a husband. To me, it's just not the way things work. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage. I don't care if others choose differently, that's that person's life and prerogative, I'm not going to waste my time getting upset at how someone else chooses to live (unless they're dependent on taxpayer dollars to raise their family and make no effort to better themselves, that does irritate me!)</p> <p>But I feel as though I can't express my opinion/life choice honestly, when asked. It's not politically correct to say (if asked) "I believe that a husband and wife make a marriage and I believe bringing children into a marriage is the right way to do things."</p> <p>Again, I don't care if others do it differently and I'd never look down on someone for having different beliefs, but I just feel like it's expected to be politically correct instead of honest. </p>