https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 05:55:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-627020 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 14:48:01 +0000 MrsStar 627020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't argue, I tend to get pissed off and need my own space for a while to get over it. DH has learned that I'll come to him to talk when I'm ready. DH is pretty easy going and don't think anything (so far!) gets him annoyed enough to start an argument. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626883 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:13:25 +0000 Cherrybee 626883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we both fight pretty fair - there's no name calling, excessive shouting or dragging things up from the past. I have a tendency to cry though, which DH feels is pretty unfair fighting. I really, honestly don't do it on purpose - it's just the way my body handles any strong emotion I guess. It's so frustrating though because as soon as the tears start up I can kiss goodbye to solving whatever conflict we're in the middle of as DH can't continue to discuss honestly then.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626880 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:12:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 626880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We fight fair, but to be perfectly honest our fights are really more like slight disagreements. We maintain eye contact, and often will touch in some way- hand on knee or hold hands. When I hear myself raising my voice I take a moment to compose myself. Early on in our relationship DH cursed and I would table the conversation. He didn't like things to linger unsettled, so now he expresses himself in a nicer manner. Eventhough DH thinks it silly after years of therapy on and off I express my displeasure as "I feel X, when you do why Y" and he will use the technique sometimes too. One thing that certainly helps us when we argue is that we both want to find a reasonable solution. Yes we validate each other's opinions and feelings, but our goal is to make each other happy again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626873 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:05:06 +0000 loveisstrange 626873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's passive aggressive and I've got a pretty explosive temper. We don't fight all that often, but when we do it's a good, dirty one. We're working on it. </p> <p>I need to learn to calm myself down and not over-react and flip out on him and he needs to work on acknowledging that his words and behaviors do hurt me (he has this think where he is always right and nothing he does it wrong. Ever. Not fun.) and apologizing when it happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626870 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:00:23 +0000 mrs. bird 626870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we really try to! we don't ever name call and avoid generalizations. DH has also learned his turning point where he needs to leave before he blows up, it used to hurt and make me feel abandoned with our issues, but i've learned that he's not leaving to hurt me but to protect us from his temper and then can come back and talk like an adult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626868 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:59:18 +0000 anonysquire 626868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: lol I guess so. I guess I do blow up a bit before the silent treatment so I guess I'm just a typical hormonal woman all over the place. </p> <p>Now this makes me want to go yell at DH lol. I won't but now I feel like he did something wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626867 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:57:38 +0000 mrbee 626867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Passive aggression for the win? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626860 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:55:47 +0000 anonysquire 626860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ya we don't really argue or say nasty things. It's more like just silently being pissed and ignoring each other. So I guess that's fair? We both do the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-fight-fair-what-about-your-so#post-626857 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 12:54:09 +0000 mrbee 626857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes when he's tired or melting down, Charlie says things that really sting... it's like a superpower or something!</p> <p>That got me thinking: when it comes to relationships, fighting fair is really important to me... sometimes after a fight, it's easier to remember what was said in anger than what the fight was about in the first place!</p> <p>Do you fight fair? What about your SO? </p>