https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 11:59:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214888 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 23:31:51 +0000 skibobrown 214888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I take care of my husband to a certain extent... although he buys his own socks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214850 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 21:07:34 +0000 heffalump 214850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell dh it's time for new socks, but that's the end of it. He goes and buys them. He's way too picky so if I did it he'd just end up returning them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214834 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 20:26:42 +0000 daniellemybelle 214834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH wears socks until the entire bottoms are missing. He also has undershirts that are disgusting looking. I never have thought of it as my job to replace these things - if he wants to wear normal socks, then he will go buy some! I have encouraged him to do it, but he also has to encourage me to get up and shower on weekends, so I guess we take care of each other. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214521 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 09:13:23 +0000 SleepyMonkey 214521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to suggest he just buy new ones to replace his socks and undershirts. I mean he is a good dresser and it was so funny that he would wear these old undershirts under these nice dress shirts. So now he throws holey socks and old undershirts out more frequently. Now, I totally understand why my mom would always get socks and undershirts for my dad for Christmas without fail! It's a guy thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214516 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 09:07:09 +0000 mynoahbear 214516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I take care of him. I do all the laundry. DH hates shopping so if I see he needs more socks or underwear, I'll go out and buy them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214503 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 08:56:01 +0000 mrsjyw 214503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Def take care of DH but he also takes care of me in contrasting aspects, so it balances out. As far as the socks situation? He probably wouldn't do anything because we have such a supply of them. So I'd be the one eventually throwing them out, but I wouldn't have to go out and buy them for him either.</p> <p>Though, I do notice that I'm probably more able to get things on his behalf than he is for me~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214431 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 04:36:31 +0000 SugarplumsMom 214431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a way, yes. For instance, he will never, ever, throw away any pair of socks or undies regardless of how holey they are! When he looses his blanket at night, he can never manage to put it back on, even in the dead of winter. He'll lay there trying to cover his body with his hands. </p> <p>But ... he'll never wear anything I've picked out for him. In fact, he'll go out of his way to wear something else. He refuses to iron his clothes, even for a special occasion (no I won't iron it for him, I hardly iron my own). It used to drive me nuts thinking it would look bad on me, but I stopped caring - he's perfectly fine with it and anyone else can think what they want =)</p> <p>I have a few quirks of my own, and I guess you can say we sorta take care of each other, but in our own way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214428 Sun, 08 Jul 2012 03:23:31 +0000 loveisstrange 214428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is an adult, he can take care of himself. He does all of his own laundry so if he looks a mess... it's on him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214399 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 23:52:25 +0000 Boogs 214399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do take care of him, especially when it comes to socks and underwear. I feel like holey shirts, socks, and underwear are a representation of how well I take care of him. Since I'm the one at home doing more errands and I'm the laundry person, it just feels like my job. He also does his share of things where he takes care of me, like always keeping my car clean for me, so I feel like it evens out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214391 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 23:32:28 +0000 lemondrop 214391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he doesn't like the socks that I have tried to buy for him, so he buys his own. </p> <p>If his socks are holey- I rip bigger holes in them so he can't fish them out of the trash and wear them again ;)</p> <p>I try to take care of him with simple things, if I notice his car needs gas, I fill it up. If he just gets back from a run, I get him a big glass of water. But I'm not his mother, so it only goes so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214387 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 23:25:20 +0000 MaisyMay 214387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely take care of each other. Usually I am the one who reminds him about getting new clothes or things like that. Lately though, he is all over anything that I request and has been insanely helpful. Tonight I came home with a headache and he went out to get dinner without me even asking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214303 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 20:15:04 +0000 autumnlove 214303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband refuses to get rid of holey undershirts! My Mom helped us with our laundry when LO was a newborn and she was apalled...AT ME for not taking better care of him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214289 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 19:46:14 +0000 jedeve 214289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aunt pol: I think it's because they wear socks more! If you think about it, almost all men's shoes require socks (unless they are sandals. and even then...) but women can get by without them way more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214285 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 19:21:46 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 214285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aunt pol: It's the same reason they wear underwear until it's completely ragged. One of the mysteries of the universe! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214261 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 18:35:19 +0000 aunt pol 214261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tbh I'm curious how men's socks get so holey and decrepit. Can't figure it out. Is it just that women have the wits to chuck them when they're frayed while men keep them for another decade or so after that?<br /> I don't look after Dh really, but i would be inclined to grab him socks if I think of it when shopping. I do his laundry most of the time but he does it, and whatever other laundry is around as well sometimes.<br /> If anything here, his mother would be more inclined to tease me for spoiling him, even though I don't at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214257 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 18:32:32 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 214257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I "take care" of my husband. I do our laundry together, pick up new clothes for him when he needs them, cook his dinner (and plate it and bring it to him), and make his lunches some time. I do these things because I like to though, not because I feel like I have to. There are plenty of things he does to take care of me. We have a nice balance. That being said I'd still be mad if someone made comments like that to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214255 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 18:16:53 +0000 GreenThumb 214255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say we "take care" of each other. I barely ever drive if we are going somewhere, don't really pump my own gas, don't often mow the lawn (although I will on occasion), and DH will even go grocery shopping on his own if I don't feel like it (we usually go together). But I was the last one to buy him socks... just because I was already going out shopping. And I do most of the laundry and cleaning. Our motto is to divide and conquer in terms of responsibilities - not "my job" and "his job". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214252 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:59:16 +0000 cyndistar3 214252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So it isn't just my husband that wears nasty socks full of holes! Good to know lol. To answer the question, yes I take care of him as much as I can (though he refuses to get rid of the old socks). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214246 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:45:36 +0000 Penny Lane 214246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say I "take care" of my husband. He is the sole income earner in our house and works 60+ hours every week, so I end up doing the laundry, cleaning, cooking, buying new socks (or fixing holey ones :P) and that was something we agreed on before we got married.</p> <p>In saying that, I would be annoyed if someone made comments like that... Because it's none of their business! Deciding what my "wifely duties" are is the business of me and DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214245 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:45:16 +0000 matador84 214245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely have some friends who would react the same way. But, they have husbands where they expect to have dinner ready and on the table by the time they get home from work every night, whether they are a SAHM or not. We function a lot more laid back...he is spoiled, but not that spoiled, mainly because I am not that submissive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214231 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:19:25 +0000 eeh 214231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely take care of my husband. He's always worked way more hours than me and way harder so I consider it part of my job to take care of him. When it comes to things like socks either I'll just buy them on my own or he'll mention he needs some and we'll go together if he's wanting a different kind than usual. We always buy his clothes together that way he can try them on. I do all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc especially now that I'm a stay at home wife (soon to be mom). </p> <p>That being said..it would still tick me off if someone paid those comments and implied that I wasn't doing a good job of taking care of him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214230 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:18:41 +0000 Andrea 214230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, definitely not "my job"! I do all of his laundry, though. I just mix it in with my stuff but he is on his own for restocking his wardrobe although I will give him a gentle nudge to do it. I work full time, just like him, so I have no more time than he does. I can barely find time to buy clothes for myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214227 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:15:08 +0000 jedeve 214227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first year of marriage my MIL still was buying my DH underwear and socks and stuff. I was like, that's my job! But, yeah, really it is his job. TBH though, sometimes he's like "yeah, you need new underwear." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214224 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 17:06:11 +0000 MsMini 214224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH takes care of his own laundry and clothing care. I would definitely make that known if people were making comments about the state of his clothes (I do approve most outfits for going out, but that is because he asks me to). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214212 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 16:38:48 +0000 runsyellowlites 214212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a wahm so since I have more availability time if DH needs something I just add it to the grocery list.... I don't keep up with when he needs something though, that's his job to tell me!</p> <p>I'd be peeved too! My MIL makes comments like that. Not to that extent but she would definitely be asking ME why he didn't have non-holey socks. :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214211 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 16:37:45 +0000 Shutterbug 214211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, if I come across holey socks/boxers/shirts, I just throw them out. But DH does his own laundry, so I usually don't notice when his clothes get worn out, unless I happen to be putting them away or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214208 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 16:30:01 +0000 mrbee 214208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Superhero: Socks with holes in them still do the job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214206 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 16:26:21 +0000 mrs. bird 214206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Superhero: i would like to know the answer to that question!</p> <p>that is rude of them, but maybe they were just teasing and didn't intend it to be hurtful. i do have to make DH throw away holey socks and i buy his clothes, otherwise he'd walk around with holes in his shoes and dirty clothes=D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214205 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 16:22:46 +0000 leelee 214205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Those comments would upset me too! DH usually "takes care" of himself but if I'm out and remember he's running out of t-shirts or whatnot I'll pick some up for him but that's only if I remember. Otherwise he's on his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-comments-about-taking-care-of-your-husband#post-214203 Sat, 07 Jul 2012 16:21:14 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 214203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, the real question in all this? Why do they keep wearing the holey socks instead of chucking them? </p>