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Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you get upset when you aren't invited? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 17:34:55 +0000 bunnylove08 on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346981 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 16:22:46 +0000 bunnylove08 1346981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I get bummed (if they are really good friends of mine) but I never say anything. ElbieKay on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346923 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 16:04:38 +0000 ElbieKay 1346923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not at all. If anything I have turned into more of an introverted homebody and have been trying to scale back on social obligations. When I do socialize, I'd prefer it to be a small/intimate gathering. IRunForFun on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346631 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:53:17 +0000 IRunForFun 1346631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I sometimes wonder why I didn't get invited, but it's kind of rare, and I'd never say anything...especially not publicly! I'm sure we've all been on the other side - not thought to invite someone to something - and our intents haven't been malicious. I would be annoyed if someone called me out on something like that...especially on FB...it just kind of makes them look pathetic? Sapphiresun on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346556 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:40:20 +0000 Sapphiresun 1346556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not specifically. Although, now that I have LO and some of my childless friends have kind of stopped even extending the invite to go out for drinks or whatever kind of sucks. Even though I'm breastfeeding and LO won't take a bottle so either have to decline if I can't get there and back in 3 hours and can't actually have a drink... hopefully I'll eventually get back to being able to do girls nights out and the friends will re-remember me! LuLu Mom on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346534 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:36:23 +0000 LuLu Mom 1346534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Normally no, but if I did I would NEVER say anything about it! Purpledaisy on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346510 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:32:05 +0000 Purpledaisy 1346510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sometimes. I would never call them out on it though. BabyBoecksMom on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346380 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:09:05 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1346380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to get upset and get my feelings hurt, but now I just don't care because, chances are, I'm usually too busy w/ DD to even think of scheduling something else. indi on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346375 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:07:07 +0000 indi 1346375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depending on the situation, I might feel a bit bummed, but I'd only ever say anything to my DH or sister. We're all adults, I don't expect them to involve me in every aspect. If it's something blatantly hurtful, I'll privately talk to them in a productive way and just express that I was hurt but I understand. The passive aggressive stuff (like OP mentioned) drives me insane! If someone brought up an issue like that to me it would make me want to invite them to even fewer events. Meridian on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346345 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:00:07 +0000 Meridian 1346345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I admit, I do get bummed out and slightly hurt. Depending on how close I am to the person, I have mentioned it privately (but not publicly). I am largely the "connector" between a lot of my friends, so it bums me out when 2 people who met through me end up hanging out without me. Infantile, I know :) snowjewelz on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346323 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:56:33 +0000 snowjewelz 1346323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nah, but now I wonder if I ever hurt someone's feelings by not including them, even if it's not on purpose! It's so hard to schedule with a bunch of people, so I either decide early if something is going to be a group thing, but if it's more last minute/spontaneous it would usually just be me & someone else. travellingbee on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346320 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:56:09 +0000 travellingbee 1346320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @brownie: I agree completely. chopsuey on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346307 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:54:31 +0000 chopsuey 1346307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Hahaha no I don't care. sunny on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346305 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:54:11 +0000 sunny 1346305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My feelings used to get hurt all the time by this but it doesn't bother me as much anymore. I would never say anything to anyone though! Alivoo01 on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346301 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:53:49 +0000 Alivoo01 1346301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on the person/occasion. Normally no because the people we care the most to hang out with always invite us. Even though they know we probably can't make it, they extend the invite to let us know they thought about us. Love my friends! Crystal on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346280 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:49:26 +0000 Crystal 1346280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm with everyone that says it hurts their feelings, but would never say anything to the party goers. HLK208 on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346226 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:40:08 +0000 HLK208 1346226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not usually! Smurfette on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346206 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:35:26 +0000 Smurfette 1346206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! But I have one friend that gets so upset if say I go to lunch with another friend and we don't ask her. But then she goes to lunch/dinner with our friends solo all the time. purrpletulips on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346198 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:32:58 +0000 purrpletulips 1346198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Doesn't bother me in the least but it bothers DH and he whines to me about it constantly. autumnlove on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346192 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:32:08 +0000 autumnlove 1346192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @brownie: I do the same thing and tell my DH! pui on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346182 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:29:09 +0000 pui 1346182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I haven't had any cause to complain about something like that. I guess if I felt like my friends were purposely excluding me for some petty reason then I'd be upset but that hasn't happened. kjpugs on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346173 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:25:27 +0000 kjpugs 1346173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Smaller things, yeah, it bums me out but I don't say anything. The worst though are big events. I moved out of state so I am used to not being invited to everything for my best friends, but one friend who didn't invite me to any of her wedding events hurt me. It was more just that I was shocked. Months earlier she had been at my wedding event! And I'm talking smae group of friends, since HS. I got not invited to things like that sometimes because "oh but you wouldn't be able to go!" True usually, but I would have sent a gift and also, it would have spared my feelings. I invited EVERYONE who I knew couldn't go because I wanted them to know I'd want them there. The friend in question who didn't invite me to anything? We're not friends anymore. I stopped trying! It's hard work to keep up a friendship when you live in different states, so why bother if they don't seem to care!!? (end rant!) Modern Daisy on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346113 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:09:38 +0000 Modern Daisy 1346113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Absolutely not. I completely trust my friends to invite me whenever it's appropriate and never intentionally leave me out. You can't include everyone all the time and I get that, my feelings would never be hurt. Mrs. Sunshine on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346108 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:08:32 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1346108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I sometimes get my feelings hurt but I NEVER say anything unless it's something important. For example, my BFF since the 3rd grade turned 21 in July...I was about 7 month pregnant & also happened to have a terrible cold & cough at the same time but we've never missed a birthday so I went to lunch with her & our friends & her family. Afterward everyone said goodbye to me and then stood around in the parking lot planning a trip to the lake for the rest of the day & I wasn't blantaly invited. I tried to let it go but for some reason it bugged me. So I just kindly pointed out that I know her birthday is all about her & not me but it did hurt my feelings that I wasn't included. It wasn't a big deal. I am pretty good at letting things go but if I can't I always say something privately & NEVER make it a blame thing. Adira on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346097 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:06:35 +0000 Adira 1346097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @brownie: Agree! Sometimes I get bummed if I'm not invited, but I try to NEVER make someone feel guilty for not inviting me! It's their prerogative who they invite to things and if they don't want to include me for whatever reason, that's their choice! I've been guilty of not inviting everyone I know to everything I do too and I HATE it when people give me grief about it, so I try not to give others grief! Actually, this is one of the reasons I'm no longer good friends with my maid of honor. We were BFFs and we used to hang out all the time, but when I reconnected with my old (and now current) BFF, my maid of honor would ALWAYS give me grief about doing things without her. Always always always!!! It was soooooo annoying and it made me not want to hang out with her at all! And now we're barely friends, which is sad (although there are other reasons for that, not just the annoying guilt-tripping). SugarplumsMom on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346096 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:06:24 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1346096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I get embarrassed for people that call others out for stuff like this. I think it makes the whole situation awkward for everyone. T.H.O.U. on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346083 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:01:40 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1346083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No although I do sometimes wonder why we didn't at least get a courtesy call. brownie on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346082 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:01:39 +0000 brownie 1346082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ There is a difference between being hurt and calling someone out on it. I do get hurt sometimes when I'm not invited but the only person I tell is my husband. I'm allowed my feelings but I make the choice to then move on from it. mrbee on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346075 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:00:09 +0000 mrbee 1346075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! It's hard enough to coordinate two schedules, let along 3 or more... Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346057 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:55:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1346057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh I am so guilty of this...the other day I was texting with my bff she lives a plane ride away. Well half way through our Beyonce album critique I asked her what she was up to. She was at a small concert with some new pals. My response was "once again having fun without me." She is probably so tired of hearing that. But I do miss her and wish I could share some of those memories with her. Mrs. Jump Rope on "Do you get upset when you aren't invited?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-get-upset-when-you-arent-invited#post-1346043 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:51:58 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1346043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! I don't blink an eye.