Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 21:16:35 +0000 Dandelion on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-907249 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 06:03:42 +0000 Dandelion 907249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only if it's directly affecting me. Otherwise, I just steer clear. DS likes to be nosy and see what's going on, so I just try and move him along. He's a super good kid, so then it's usually followed up by him saying something like, "wow, that kid is really naughty!" and while I feel bad for the parent, I'm happy to have my good boy walking along with me, lol. Weagle on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-907245 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 05:58:25 +0000 Weagle 907245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm fairly sympathetic unless I know that parent(s) aren't doing anything to address the behavior. If its a friend's child, and I know that they don't really address small bad behaviors, I tend to correct the child anytime their actions affect my child or another child. BeachMama on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-907175 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 00:48:56 +0000 BeachMama 907175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm more sympathetic than I used to be. If the baby's fussy it's one thing but if its a poorly behaved child it's less acceptable to me. The other day in the grocery store these two kids were chasing each other around and screaming their heads off. One would be at one end of the store and the other at the other end and they were yelling for each other across the store. I definitely gave a stink eye and a few eye rolls. dc yoga bee on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906890 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:03:20 +0000 dc yoga bee 906890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only stink eye if parent is doing nothing to correct the behavior and the kid is directly bothering me. For instance, a kid was leaning into DH's chair at the baseball game. Kid's sibling was eating cheetos and kept tapping me on my shoulder- I"M WEARING A WHITE SHIRT. Your kids should NOT be touching us!! Kid kept elbowing DH in the back, and the other kid was pulling my hair. I'm sorry, that's just not cute. I kept turning around giving the mom the stink eye, and she never corrected the kid. DH scooted up in his seat and I turned around and looked at the dad, and finally he saw what was going on. Kids will be kids, but when they physically encroach on another paying person's baseball game enjoyment- I am not a happy camper! googly-eyes on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906867 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 18:36:21 +0000 googly-eyes 906867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Arden: LOL! googly-eyes on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906866 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 18:35:11 +0000 googly-eyes 906866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on what exactly the children are doing. Usually not; kids are kids! ShootingStar on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906855 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 18:12:58 +0000 ShootingStar 906855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I admit i give the stink eye to parents all the time. Usually because the parents are letting their kids run wild. I even had a mom yell at me because I asked her kids to stop splashing us. (They were in a large pool with plenty of room and we were in a hot tub several feet away). WTH is wrong with parents who don't teach their kids manners? rrachael on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906839 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 17:55:18 +0000 rrachael 906839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Gosh I try not to! If anything I make me.tal notes of how they're handling it ... Most of the time with incredible poise and skill :P mamimami on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906742 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 15:52:37 +0000 mamimami 906742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @septemberlove: Oh my gosh I feel you. Some kids at Wal-Mart were throwing a ball around and I was like "serenity now!!" but when that thing hit me I just lost my cool. "WHERE ARE YOUR PARENTS??? YOU SHOULD NOT BE THROWING A BALL IN WALMART, WHAT IF IT WERE TO HIT MY BABY!?!?!" My husband was a bit mortified I'm sure but working in a school has sort of made me a bit bold in terms of confronting kids I guess. If their parents had actually been there I am not sure what would have happened. Mrs. Champagne on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906740 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 15:51:27 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 906740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: same! CupQuakeWalk on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906737 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 15:49:58 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 906737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I give it if: - the parent doesn't care (kid is screaming in movie theatre) - the parent is at fault (um, your gave your kids a horn and they are blowin it all through the grocery store?!) - the parent isn't doing a good job at solving the issue (yelling at kid like an insane person, screaming obscenities) Other than those, I feel empathy and try to smile or help Arden on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-906722 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 15:23:30 +0000 Arden 906722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but I do give the stink eye to parents that are screaming and telling at their kids. Walmart... sigh. lomom on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905251 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:44:52 +0000 lomom 905251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I usually smile sympathetically. If the kid is old enough to know better, I give the kid the stink eye. I was in the grocery and this kid, probably 7 or 8, was bouncing a decent-sized ball off my cart multiple times and once it ricocheted off my cart and hit me while I stood in the checkout line behind them. I definitely gave him a look... Then his mom told me to stop glaring at her kid. I glared at her and told her that he needed to apologize. He didn't apologize. Mrs. Pen on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905235 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:36:04 +0000 Mrs. Pen 905235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ no I usually try to smile sympathetically! allison on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905203 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:22:59 +0000 allison 905203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was in WalMart the other day, and there was a kid (like 7 years old) sitting in the buggy ringing a bicycle bell over and over and over and over and over and over while his mom pushed him around. You better believe I gave her the stink-eye! It was so annoying. You could hear it through the entire store. Cherrybee on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905187 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:18:44 +0000 Cherrybee 905187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yeah... I do.. Now I also add, quietly to DH, "ours isn't going to do that" and he laughs nervously at my naivety and replies "if you say so". Rubies on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905182 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:16:22 +0000 Rubies 905182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I give stink eye when the parent doesn't try. GrapeCrush on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905167 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:10:58 +0000 GrapeCrush 905167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on how old the kid is...an 8 year old throwing a tantrum because they aren't getting a toy...totally! A little one that knows no better...I sympathize! Lol mrsjazz on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905144 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:02:26 +0000 mrsjazz 905144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do if the parent is totally oblivious to the havoc their kid is wreaking, ignoring their kid's tantrums, yelling obscenities at the kid, beating in public, or has their kid eating chips and soda in the morning! So, basically every time I'm on the train some parent is getting the eye. sarac on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905140 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:00:34 +0000 sarac 905140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ All the time, but more due to the parent's behavior. If their child is acting unacceptably, but they're not making an effort to fix it, stink eye away. But if they're addressing the issue, I usually shoot a sympathetic or understanding look. ETA: but yeah, pure chaos isn't ok. I wouldn't be understanding if a child was just running roughshod over a situation. travellingbee on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905139 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 17:00:01 +0000 travellingbee 905139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Me too. Same as @Mamamoose. I am a teacher and unfortunately not very patient with overly permissive parents. We were at dinner the other night and these people behind us were letting their one-ish year old slam her plate with her spoon for like 10 minutes straight. It was deafening. Then they let her get up and run around screaming. I definitely gave them the stink eye. twinmama on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905135 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:58:19 +0000 twinmama 905135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Like others, I only get annoyed when the parent is ignoring their screaming or obnoxious child. If the parent is trying, I definitely sympathize and don't really mind. Personally, I think when you go out with kids you should be prepared to leave if the situation gets out of control. But my mom commented back to me once that some families are just always like that, home or out, so the parents are just used to tuning it out. mrbee on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905120 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:52:38 +0000 mrbee 905120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm with @MamaMoose: ... if the parent is trying, I'm super understanding. I was on a cross country plane ride once where a parent didn't seem to mind at all that the kid was kicking the back of my seat over and over. I tried communicating non verbally with my eyes but after a while, I just said something to the parent. loveisstrange on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905111 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:49:20 +0000 loveisstrange 905111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have to admit, I do. If I see the parents making an effort to quiet the kid, im not as judgy. It still does annoy me though. The only time I dont really is when its a tiny baby. Caly on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905104 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:46:22 +0000 Caly 905104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Same as @mamamoose...I only give the stink eye if the parent is making no effort to calm the kid. Or, if they're somewhere a young child probably shouldn't be in the first place like a R rated movie or nice restaurant. Otherwise, I feel badly for the parents. brownie on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905075 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:38:15 +0000 brownie 905075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Same as @mamamoose I only give stink eye if the parents aren't doing anything. I think active ignoring can be appropriate but that is active. They are making eye contact with you and are confident and show they know what is going on. MamaMoose on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905049 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:32:49 +0000 MamaMoose 905049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I only give the stink eye of the parents are clearly making zero effort to do anything about the tantrum. Freckles on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905044 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:31:17 +0000 Freckles 905044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ On the train ride home, I tried to take my smoothie back from my LO and she screamed and cried. Oh dear lord, it was so embarrassing. The girl in front of me DEFINITELY gave me the judgmental raised eyebrows. Grrrr. I only feel sympathy too! However, only up to a certain point. autumnlove on "Do you give parents the stink eye when their kids are bad or loud in public?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-parents-the-stink-eye-when-their-kids-are-bad-or-loud-in-public#post-905041 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 16:29:53 +0000 autumnlove 905041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't anymore...I just feel sympathy!